Lonely

 Bron (@Bronzilla)6 years, 11 months ago

I am becoming more aware, and conscious, and though I am not fully aware of the realities of life, I find myself drifting apart from my friends. Being a female (especially a young adult), I find my female friends are very critical of my “straying away from the norm”. I find it increasingly mind-numbing to spend hours within a confined mall conspicuously consuming, I pay no attention to celebrities or popular music artists, I have no interest in spending countless hours planning my ‘dream wedding’, or planting my ass on a couch to watch reality television shows for 16 hours straight (I apologize if anyone is offended, these things might be important in your life, but I have grown to see they are not in mine). BUT that used to be me. I let my opinions be facts, I mass consumed, I took advantage of others, I watched television for hours, but never thought to open a book, I supported companies who took advantage of others, I spent HOURS doing my hair, makeup, nails, fake tan …etc., I dated a Cop (mistake) and allowed his opinions to stray my self.
I value all my friends and they are all very dear to me, however I REALLY lack a group of friends/people who are like-minded individuals or kindred spirits (whatever that is supposed to mean) in my life? Does anyone ever feel like this? You try to have a conversation with a friend about something REAL, and they put up a ‘wall’ and immediately try to change the topic, or have no idea what you are saying, or have no interest.

May 15, 2014 at 6:53 pm
Marlon (97) (@shoeopener) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

It’s unfortunate that you’re lonely, I guess. Hopefully you don’t hate those friends of yours just because they’re boring as hell.

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Anonymous (53) (@) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.
Albert Einstein

“Admit it. You aren’t like them. You’re not even close. You may occasionally dress yourself up as one of them, watch the same mindless television shows as they do, maybe even eat the same fast food sometimes. But it seems that the more you try to fit in, the more you feel like an outsider, watching the “normal people” as they go about their automatic existences. For every time you say club passwords like “Have a nice day” and “Weather’s awful today, eh?”, you yearn inside to say forbidden things like “Tell me something that makes you cry” or “What do you think deja vu is for?”. Face it, you even want to talk to that girl in the elevator. But what if that girl in the elevator (and the balding man who walks past your cubicle at work) are thinking the same thing? Who knows what you might learn from taking a chance on conversation with a stranger? Everyone carries a piece of the puzzle. Nobody comes into your life by mere coincidence. Trust your instincts. Do the unexpected. Find the others…”
Timothy Leary

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Anonymous (64) (@) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

I never say that Timothy Leary quote before. Awesome!

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MonkeyZazu (1,865)M (@monkeyzazu) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

Have you ever seen the zenpencil comic for that quote?

http://zenpencils.com/comic/102-timothy-leary-you-arent-like-them/

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Anonymous (53) (@) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

I wasn’t aware of Zen Pencils, thank you.

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Ponysparkles (196) (@Ponysparkles) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

I think you just blew my mind.

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Anonymous (64) (@) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

We all feel like this here. You are amongst friends. There are like minded people like you in this world. Don’t settle. Keep seeking them out. Peace and love.

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MonkeyZazu (1,865)M (@monkeyzazu) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

You might be lonely, but your not alone in your predicament. There are lots of people who feel this way, who have “woken up” per say, who view life through this new perspective which usually brings them to conclusions very similar to your own. Finding sites like HE which are filled with a lot of open-minded, awake people are great, but the need to have someone physically there with you, someone who you don’t need a computer to talk about deep concepts with, is lessen, but very much still there.

So, we’re basically left with one of two choices – Seek others similar to yourself, or try to “wake up” the people around you. Both of which are hard tasks but if accomplished, the end results will be worth it. I’d suggest maybe finding sites like HE and inviting the people you converse with on a regular bases to meet-up somewhere and hang out for a bit (make sure it’s somewhere public, safety first, taser or mace wouldn’t be a bad idea either – yea, I have trust issues). For waking people up, always try to ease into it. Never try to force them to see things your way. Try to peak their interest first, then gently move in for the take down! Hehe :)

Goodluck.

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Ponysparkles (196) (@Ponysparkles) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

“So, we’re basically left with one of two choices – Seek others similar to yourself, or try to “wake up” the people around you.”

Very well put. This is the battle, but the battle worth fighting I’d say! Any time I get the chance to help someone “wake up”, even to a state of groggy understanding, the feeling is indescribable. Like… a true universal goal has been achieved.

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MonkeyZazu (1,865)M (@monkeyzazu) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

Your words were spot on too – “It’s hell every day, but sanctuary in the same, as it allows me a lot of free space in my mind to explore myself and my perceptions.”

Even though most of us feel a little lonely and to some extent wish there were other like-minded people around us, there’s still a part of me that kinda wants to stay alone, that doesn’t want to give up, how you put “the sanctuary” in which I’m free to explore myself and my thoughts. With that said, there’s still a lot of wonderful things that can come about when two like-minded individuals start conversing with one another. Exploring deep thoughts with another person allows you to gain information from their perspective, giving you a different viewpoint to explore those concepts from, allowing you to go deeper in your own understandings. So, I guess it wouldn’t be all bad.

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Nikolas Hug (12) (@HugNikolas) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

Time alone is time with yourself and within yourself lies the most eternal peace obtainable. Do not mind the sheep you are a wolf and the knowledge of sheep does not concern the wolf.

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Anonymous (64) (@) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

Highly recommend the book Steppenwolfe by Herman Hesse. Can’t recommend it enough. About this very subject.

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Ponysparkles (196) (@Ponysparkles) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

The moment I touch topic on anything related to being psychic, using runes/tarot for divination, spiritual endeavors (meditation, astral travel, LD, etc), aliens or the paranormal… That wall appears. I don’t think I ever truly get to discuss the things that completely engulf me in my life. Everyone is so swept up in the mainstream that their feet barely touch the ground, yet I’m sitting here with my feet rooted in the dirt and my head floating in the clouds. It’s hell every day, but sanctuary in the same, as it allows me a lot of free space in my mind to explore myself and my perceptions.

I’ve never really been part of the “norm”, though I was capable of fitting in with the people who were. They were never my full-time friends – a mere few falling into and out of that category over the years. I spend a lot of time inside my own head for this reason, and though it doesn’t bother me one bit, I do wonder if I’ll ever meet someone like me. Then again, since I’m not really the type that feels the need to branch out, I don’t know if there ever will be a person like me who I’ll meet.

I don’t follow the mainstream, I don’t support celebrities and I don’t care much for the ‘news’. I believe in self-discovery, self-improvement, and self-motivation. I’m a white nationalist. I have a conceal and carry permit that allows me to carry a pistol with me all day, every day. I believe that everyone has a right to their own opinion, perceptions, and way of life as long as it does not truly interfere with someone else’s life (that is, imposing ones beliefs on people without invitation or because one feels offended). I choose to live my life the way I want and I do not interfere with the lives of others, so I expect the same without shame. As you may know, two of those beliefs have already offended someone.

All in all, it’s hard to find someone (in real life, that is) who melds with us completely. I don’t know if it will ever happen, but I can tell you one thing for sure: you’re not alone.

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KoMaCarpe (92) (@KoMaCarpe) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

Every-fing-time…Im so freaking tired of the same old socially convenient “conversations” we’re pre-programmed to have… I dont stop trying to talk about deeper stuff with random people though. Once ina while I do hit the jackpot and end up having a really interesting hour.

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ADoggie (0) (@ADoggie) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

I would not suggest hanging out with these friends collectively anytime soon. I also would not suggest isolating yourself from each of your friends. Perhaps as individuals your friends might have more to offer than you give them credit for.
You must understand that your language is littered with adverbs and adjectives, language of the sentimental; subjective language. It makes sense to keep questioning your relationships with people, but isolating yourself from your strong feelings will ease the tensions that are bothering you.
I would also like to point out that it is not always better to be around “like-minded individuals or kindred spirits.” Doing so breeds obstinancy (just look at the current state of the GOP and Democratic parties).
Remember:
-Mob-mentalities are infectious (even you were infected), but if you approach each friend as an individual you will be able to satisfy your relationship hungers more so, as well as be able to transform yourself and your friends.
-And sometimes the problems we see in others are actually just reflections of our own tribulations.

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khandero (532) (@khandero) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

open yourself up to the possibilities of the world, take risks, put more like minded individuals in your life, and most importantly–find that which you really love :)

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Anonymous (7) (@) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

loneliness is a choice, but it sucks when you can’t control how you feel. look at the bright side, you ain’t alone in this shit. im lonely at times too but the thing about loneliness is that it leads you back to porn–a virtual world where there’s mindless grinding and stuff. it’s time to unplug and reawaken our happiness, it’s time for us to give up being sad. being sad takes no effort. being loneliness doesn’t either. so, it’s either porn or lifelong adventures filled with super cool people with dreads and tye dyes, bonfires, skinny dipping, water balloon fights, robot battles, football, yeah. xD

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Milo (57) (@milo) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

“And so I learned what solitude really was. It was raw material – awesome, malleable,older than men or worlds or water. And it was merciless – for it let a man become precisely what he alone made of himself.”
-David Duncan (from The River Why)

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Peace man ✌️ (0) (@sj1k94) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

Give it time, time fixes all.
Iv been experiencing the same thing in the past six months or so, but you start to attract people with the same intentions, wants, and vibrations. Its not simple at all but what really is in life.

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Bron (4) (@Bronzilla) 6 years, 10 months ago ago

Thank you all. Your kind words and advice is just what I needed. When I feel lonely, I will re-read all of your messages. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

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