Vicente Loayza Ortiz (@vicenteloayza) 8 years, 9 months ago

I Live with my brother and my mom, my dad died 1 year ago i have a couple of friends but, i feel alone in a crowded room?

February 4, 2013 at 7:43 pm
Conner J. (1,558) (@connerj93) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@vicenteloayza, “You may feel lonely, but alas you’re not the only one, so at least you know you’re not alone.” I must as you the question of, do you find yourself concerned with your mental aspects of your life, rather than being concerned with gaining gratification externally? That aside its normal to feel alone because let’s face it, you were born alone in this world, and you will die alone from your world. However, if you’re lonely when you’re alone, then you’re in bad company. Only when you know yourself, and have become friends with yourself, will you find yourself exerting your own energy to that very same crowded room, and people will notice. If you ever feel a deep longing feeling to be alone and you just feel down, let it fester, let it feed off itself and see how far it gets you. Eventually, if you let it fester in that moment, it will clear and go away. Vice versa with feeling happy. Life is a balancing act between the two, its the art of being comfortable with both to be neutrally happy in the interim, regardless of what happens in your life. It’s kind of like the self esteem of your inner life, be confident, be courageous, and certainly you won’t feel lonely with a lot of people, and if you do, just leave the situation and search or create something that feels comfortable for you, so you don’t feel lonely.

The best lesson you will ever learn in life is to be alone, free from attachments to people, places, ideas, and experiences. And remember that in the end no situation is good nor bad, it just is.

E (216) (@eloria) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@vicenteloayza, I feel the same sometimes as well. Like people don’t know the real me, like they will never understand me. It sucks sometimes but i just push through it with hope, being alone isn’t so bad once you learn to love yourself. Here are some words by people a lot smarter than myself:

“I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude. We are for the most part more lonely when we go abroad among men than when we stay in our chambers.” ~Henry David Thoreau

“I live in that solitude which is painful in youth, but delicious in the years of maturity.” ~Albert Einstein

Philip (3) (@managerpip) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

Some of the most important times in my life have also been my loneliest. It’s not easy, and often I felt like giving up, but I always pushed through and came out the other side a different, more resilient person. At those times I thought the world would swallow me up in its vast emptiness, but strangely I look back on them now fondly as vital parts of my existence.

I feel like we are all given these times to turn inward and focus on ourselves to grow in a different way than when we are surrounded by people who nurture us along. It’s like two completely different, but equally vital stages: input and processing.

dwcraig3 (14) (@dwcraig3) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@vicenteloayza I’d like to say something that would maybe make you feel better. Or cheer you up. Or let you know that you’re not really alone.

I’m feeling the same thing right now. And, instead of fighting it or trying to distract myself, I’m letting myself feel it. Really feel the loneliness. Sit with it. What does it feel like in my chest? What do these feelings look like?

And I come to see that I am not really this pain. It’s not me. It’s just a passing thing.

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