Long distance relationship effect and results?Advices?

erhan (@erhan) 10 years, 9 months ago

Hi everyone.Before i started,thank you all for reading,comment,and advices.
Like most you us,i have a facebook too.and sometimes,some girls do like me,even we can love eachother:) but i cant find a girl yet that who can love me as i love her in my city,eskişehir;turkey.
everything in my life,going fine,but not with girls.nowadays,a girl find me on facebook.she is great,and we agreed,we like eachother:) but she is from antalya.which is another city in turkey.
my question is,what i should do? like go,and meet her,then date? or,just stay there and think one more time.like can she make it with me?
Also,even we can be together,eskişehir-antalya is too far away,of course,the second city is a example.doesnt matter it is antalya or paris.
so,have you have ever do that? what is the ishues and result? what is the solution?
lightining me qith your answers.
have a good day:)

February 28, 2011 at 7:47 am
Viev Please (4) (@dozmaster) 10 years, 8 months ago ago

You should meet her. I really don’t see why not.

mario (12) (@mario82) 10 years, 8 months ago ago

Erhan, go for it! give her the yarak, or scaram guktan, urlasu gumektan!

Sheila (1) (@shebreezy) 10 years, 8 months ago ago

I’m not the biggest fan of long distance relationships because I don’t think they ever turn out well. If I wasn’t able to spend as much time with my boyfriend as I do now, I would be so miserable.

Though, I do think you should at least meet her. She may change your life and maybe, if you guys like each other enough, you’ll find a way to be together :)

Adam Mac (15) (@emceedan) 10 years, 8 months ago ago

Long distance relationships have a stigma of being difficult for a reason. They are very tough to maintain over time. I had one for several months (me in Minnesota, she in Colorado – we had a history and were together in the same city for over a year prior to that) and it was all good for the first couple months. We knew I would be moving out to her location eventually but it was still rough for both of us and ended up not working out. They say absence makes the heart grow fonder. But proximity is way more important in my honest opinion.

Don’t want to be a downer, I just wanted to share my experience. Good luck in whatever you choose to do and keep us posted!

Rain (23) (@rain) 10 years, 8 months ago ago

I have had good and bad experiences. I think it truly depends on the couple. And it depends on what each individual’s needs are, as well as how much they are each willing to sacrifice and compromise and work on tearing down the mountains between them until they are able to be together….

I think it can be good in many ways, because you get the chance (IF you spend enough time carrying on deep, open, and honest conversations) to truly get to know each other before the physical aspect comes along, however, you also do need face time…kisses, hugs, random touches, etc…to close in that connection. So…
It’s all in how you both interact, and every couple will have a different outcome.

dave (2) (@peaceprophet) 10 years, 8 months ago ago

Ok well I’m currently in a long distance relationship, she’s in macau (china) and I’m in bali. We have been together for over a year now and been apart for about 5 weeks. So far we are both confident that our relationship is strong enough to last the test of time.
For me the most important thing is that you are both on the same page. Do you both see a bright future with each other or are you still unsure. I think that if you stress about being apart and worry too much about whether or not you will last, then you probably won’t. I agree with rain, it totally depends on the relationship. I had an ex once that had a saying, ‘the heart either grow’s fonder, or it grows mold’. I think that sums it up.

I am required to have an exrtra amount of faith I think, because we (jools and I) don’t actually know when or how we are going to be together. I am moving back to australia in mid july and am in the midst of starting a new career, and don’t know where I will end up finding a job, she is still studying in macau for the next year. So when I say faith, I really mean that, and I feel comfortable saying this here, if we INTEND for the outcome where we both get to fulfill our own life goals and be together, then I believe it will happen.

Cristina R (0) (@stina) 10 years, 8 months ago ago

I agree with david in the sense that in order to make the relationship work, you definitely have to be on the same page. You have to be willing to accept the responsibility of sustaining the relationship and be willing to work harder than normal considering that you are absent from each other more than you are together.

I was in a long distance relationship for about two years, and it ended up not working out for that matter. He was in Canada and I was in TX but I just hit a breaking point one day because he was losing hope and didn’t want to accept the responsibility. He is so against technology but honestly you kind of have to embrace it if you want to maintain communication.

But, yes, faith is the driving force behind it all. You have to have faith that everything will work out in the end in order to be okay with your situation. Be optimistic, always.

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