I have a few friends who are really religious. They really believe in God and I see him do amazing things for them. Everything in their life seems to work out just perfectly and they always say they owe it to God and their strong faith.
I went to a catholic school for some of my life and I have always believed in God. As I’ve been getting older, I’ve been questioning ‘God’ and if there even is a God. But, I have always, and always will believe in a higher power, whatever it may be.
My issue is, I have been needing guidance from whatever God there is, but I have been feeling so extremely let down. I have never once felt like I ever even needed a God but as of late, I really, really need one.
I guess my question to you guys is, how do you keep your faith in whatever you believe in strong? How do you keep believing even when you’ve been let down and have felt ignored?
I’m not sure if I have anything that can help, but let me try. I was raised believing in God, attending church, the whole shebang. Was a strong and (relatively speaking) outspoken Christian; I wouldn’t try to convert people, but I thought of myself as an intellectual and capable of debating and arguing the existence of God, etc.
Life started for me at 14. I was beginning to understand what suffering was, and realizing it not only around me, but within. I grew to become quite disenfranchised by my church and youth pastor, so I left. For a while, that disillusionment with religion pushed me towards atheism, but that only lead to quite severe depression. I then discovered Buddhism and went through a phase of that, like many young people do. But something was still missing for me.
As Krishnamurti said, “The moment you follow someone you cease to follow Truth.” There is no religion or philosophy or guru who can give you Truth; it is subjective. To me, God is love, God is union; not some bearded deity sitting in Heaven. Don’t buy into simple truths. They may comfort you, but they will not satisfy you.
You cannot look at your uncertainty as a weakness, it must be your greatest strength. If you want to place your faith in something, place it in yourself. Realize YOU are God, YOU are part of the whole, YOU are perfect, and YOU hold the power to changing your life situation.
First of all, how do you know for sure that God is a ”HE” and not a ”SHE” or an ”IT”?
Secondly, do you really believe that everything works out ”perfect” for them? From finding a good job, meeting that perfect soul mate, not having inner emotional problems, etc.?
You have friends who are very religious and they owe it all to God. Whom do you think that people who are rich, either born into a family of great wealth or hitting that lucky lotto ticket, owe it all to? God? Luck? Destiny? Chance?
I think that you are somewhat a little bit jealous of how your friend’s lives are turning out to be. And you are in ‘desperate’ search for a ‘quick fix’ that will make your life just like your friends or even better. Just because they are religious does not necessarily mean that everything will go good for them throughout their lives. I have met many people that are religious who are barely making a living. Who are living with sickness and diseases of all types. Who have lost quite a few family members and friends at once. There are also a lot of people out there that are not religious and things are going either bad, good or a little bit of both. Your focus and center of attention is being put upon God, religion, and your friend’s ”perfect lives”. Take a step back and look within yourself. This mental state that you are in, what is the cause of it? Are you depressed? Lonely? Impatient? Frustrated? Emotions plays a big part in this. That ”wanting” of something that others have by force, do you think that’s natural? Let things be and live on. Search within yourself first. Listen to yourself. Find out what YOU truly want and not what others possess. You can pray all you want but God is not gonna ”make it rain money”. There are challenges, obstacles and tests in life that one must conquer in order to grow strong. (I see it this way, from personal experience). You live, you learn and you grow not only from the outside but the inside as well.
How do I keep faith in what I believe? It’s very simple. I let things be the way they were meant to be. ACCEPT that your life isn’t always going to be perfect. Stay POSITIVE in every event no matter how bad it is. SEARCH within yourself what you really want. Live in PEACE within yourself. Let life takes its toll because when you’re stressing, getting mad, desperate, etc life keeps moving forward. It’s not gonna stop for you and assist you. Enjoy the ride cause in the end none of us makes it out alive.
Oh and another thing, the more attention you put into one thing the more that thing will consume you. If you are angry, the more you feed it the more it gets a hold of you. If you are desperate, the more you let it the more it will consume you. And the list can go on and on. The point being is that it all starts in the Mind. Keep a positive outlook in life and accept things as they happen.
@ephyxes – That’s the next step, I think!
@astucieuxtho – My story is the same. I was raised the same way. But I think you’re right. I need to start believing in myself, not anyone else.
@BassInstinct – Thanks. The first time I read through your response, it upset me a little bit. I reread it a few times and I think you’re right. I just moved across the country without knowing a lot of people with a job I don’t like. So all of those emotions, loneliness, impatient, frustration, etc, you’re right – I feel all of those. I’ve always had a hard time just accepting things as the way they are, but I’m slowly learning that there’s nothing wrong with that. I am in control of my own life and if I want it to change, I need to change it. And I’ve really, really, really always had a hard time with positivity. That’s probably been my biggest struggle in life, but I’m working on it. I know that things could always be worse. I’ll keep my head up. Thank you.