Love at Arms Reach – Coping With an In Your Face Culture

 AJ Heatherly (@ajheatherly) 7 years, 7 months ago

I feel like every where I turn I see something related to love. Novels, Television, Films and Books. Poetry, Music. All of it. It’s not a bad thing, but it definitely keeps those things on my mind. I’m curious if others have that issue and if anyone has tips/tricks for NOT thinking about the “need” to find love and romance with other people in our lives.

March 5, 2014 at 7:51 pm
Baxter (16) (@Baxter) 7 years, 7 months ago ago

Well AJ loves ”sells” and the reason it sells is because in real life it’s so hard to obtain like the love you watch or reads about in the media movies ,books etc . If finding love and romance was the norm and so easily obtainable do you think it sell,probably not. If my life was like the movies why would i care to watch it, if I was living it.
I watched people my whole life try to ‘orchestrate and manipulate’ there relationships like the movies and it usually fails.
In fact in my youth even I was guilty of the same.
I rarely in my life have seen a relationship like the ones you see or read about in main media. I’ve seen a lot of realtionships that look good on the surface but scratch a little big below the surface.
If the media depicted relationships that way they really are,a lot of hard work and often heart break,it won’t sell .
All 3 of my siblings are in long term relationships and non of those relationships look like the romance novel or movies . Are my sisters happy,yes i think so because it forfills a ‘need’ ,is the need to be purely loved unconditionally . NOPE . Are there realtionship romantic.NOPE .
In fact I think my sisters are all in relationships because they don’t want to be ”alone” I spent 20 yrs of my life between 2 relationships single now 7 yrs . Being single is not all that bad,I think the secret is loving yourself and enjoying your own company. One thing that helps me with not being in so called love at the present time is to really take note of people relationships around you. Really watch and listen to the dynamics and more often then not you’ll think to yourself ,glad I’m not in that relationship.
I also think another underlining drive you so often hear is I don’t want to die alone.
Sorry IMO folks it’s only you dying and no body coming with you when you take you last breath. So the fallacy if i fall in love, have lots of kids i won’t be alone in the end.

I personally love fictional romance stories and movies they appeal to something deep inside me, maybe just a bill of goods I was sold from day one and never totally ”archived” like most all people. The bills of goods that told me ”I’d be happy” if I found a mate and fell in love and lived happily ever after.
My experience says not to be overtly concerned about finding that love or special someone .
Defiantly don’t try to visualize it like in the movies ,it a recipe for failure.
A totally different topic ,I totally believe the pure essent of true love exists between 2 people but is does not look like the movies.

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