All I have ever wanted from life is love. But they teach you that it is foolish to fall in love when it means stepping out of your comfort zone. It becomes a risk, a dangerous idea. Sure, you can live in such isolation and fear, but what is it really worth? I feel as though I could be given all of the most talked about material possessions in the world and still be unfulfilled without love. I could be given fistfulls of cash, but it would amount to nothing in a world without love. I could be given limitless opportunity to achieve “Success”, but without love to fill my life, it would only seem like wasted time.
Why does it seem that our society so afraid of the most beautiful parts of life? Why do so many of us settle for financial security, a new house and a nice car instead of taking a risk and allowing themselves to be truly alive, to fall in love?
I read the most amazing quote today:
“You live like this, sheltered, in a delicate world, and you believe you are living. Then you read a book… or you take a trip… and you discover that you are not living, that you are hibernating. The symptoms of hibernating are easily detectable: first, restlessness. The second symptom (when hibernating becomes dangerous and might degenerate into death): absence of pleasure. That is all. It appears like an innocuous illness. Monotony, boredom, death. Millions live like this (or die like this) without knowing it. They work in offices. They drive a car. They picnic with their families. They raise children. And then some shock treatment takes place, a person, a book, a song, and it awakens them and saves them from death. Some never awaken.” – Anaïs Nin
When I speak of “love” I don’t always mean “with another person.” Love can take so many forms in life. It fuels us to do incredible things we would otherwise never dream of. It makes us vulnerable, but also empowers us at the same time. It’s an incredible force, one of the most powerful we can feel. Maybe that’s the reason why so many are scared of it. They fear it’s immense power over us. But then, I think about something like money. So many people are addicted to mere numbers in a bank account, watching them increase and decay, so much so that they would do things beneath them to get it, belittle others, sell themselves out in the process. If some people would risk so much for something so insignificant in the grand scheme of the universe and life itself, why are they so afraid to take a chance to fall in love?
@punker96, because of conditioning. because its easy to measure your losses and gains in a bank account, and doesnt take much introspection to do so. you dont have to “awaken” to do that. don’t get me wrong, i don’t belittle the bank account crew anymore and could stand to be a little more in the red. but i know that i need more out of life to achieve satisfaction. i’ve done the whole “work” thing before….more money would just mean different distractions on the weekend, which would also get old in time. and then i’d be right back where i started from today. today, i wrote in my journal, “i want more out of life than to work and be bored and drink and stare and wish i was somebody who had talent and imagination.”
then there is also fear. before i came to this site, i was a pretty fearful person. i was afraid i wasn’t good enough for my desires, like it just wasn’t in the cards – like i would understand what awakening is but lack the strength to do it. thankfully this site changed all that, or at least let me see that i was wrong.
@theskafish, That’s the truth. I know what you mean by being fearful as well. I definitely lived that lifestyle for too long myself. It wasn’t until I realized honestly what I wanted from my life and became dedicated to standing up for it. Life is too short to be weighted down for the sake of convenience and shelter yourself from the raw essence of life itself. So many people in my life have tried to tell me I am wrong to risk for things that I am passionate about, and I admit at times it can get to you.
I feel like this website is definitely a big part of opening the minds of a lot of people, myself included. Not only that, but it has even done something as simple as giving people a place to share with like minded people that prefer to debate and pick apart topics such as these rather than dismiss them blindly. HE is definitely a very good thing! Thanks for your thoughts :)
@punker96, Everything that exists was allowed to exist or else it wouldnt exist, therefor its unconditionally loved. Love is everything. ‘True’ love is a recognition of this total allowing, this is what you are. Then everything can be seen equally. Pure awareness untouched and completely allowing of anything contained within. When life is lived in accordance to this then things that resonate with you that may be ‘dangerous’ arent viewed with fear, but more of a curious excitement. Love isn’t dangerous, it’s what you are. <3
Beauty is fragile. It needs to be nurtured with great care. Love is the greatest beauty of all. Anyone who says it is foolish to fall in love does not understand the essence of life. People that are too afraid to let themselves experience the most powerful emotion are the foolish ones.
I believe it is extremely hard to break lose from this rutine life style, mainly because of our educational system. It indoctrinates us rather than teach us to analyse, think creatively, embrace our true feelings and choose our own path in life. Simultaniously we get far too much input from TV, internet, radio etc and not nearly enough time to ask ourselves the big questions: Why am I doing this? What do I want with my life? Who am I?
When you finally retrace your actions and take a step back many people have already stagnated and become so afraid of change that they just get depressed from the truth. They sweep their dreams and ambitions under the rug in fear of their own inadequacy.
Lack of selfesteem and the constant bullying from the media contributes to nurture fear into our minds. I have been the same when it comes to love. When you get to hear how ugly you are each and every single day it takes a toll on you. You start believing you ain’t worth sh*t anymore. Fortunately I’ve kept just enough courage within me to turn this mental state around. I’ve traveled alone to India, I’ve gone from laughing at yoga practitioners to becoming one, I’ve started meditating, I’ve completely changed my diet and sleeping patterns, I’ve started writing caus I love it, I’ve started to cultivate appreciation for life.
It took me 23 years to take these first surviving steps, reevaluate my point of view and perspective. It also took an enormous amount of courage to change into the being you really are meant to be. But it was certainly worth it.
@splashartist, I went out for a walk today and a lot of the time what you said kept lingering in my mind. Love is everything, I like that. It’s simple, yet makes so much sense. I looked up in the sky and at the trees as I passed them by and thought about how fortunate we are to experience the natural world and everything in it. It puts you in this place where you feel completely at ease. That’s a form of love right there, given to you from the world itself. People get so caught up in the day to day, they sometimes don’t even take a moment to appreciate the love right in front of them every day.
@tatler & @komacarpe, …which is only even more interesting because both of your posts that follow are very fitting to this discussion. People are afraid. I think people get so caught up that sometimes they feel as though taking a moment to just breathe and appreciate the love in their lives will cost them precious time they will never get back, time that, in their eyes, could be better utilized making money or getting their daily fix of the news during dinner, for example. Ironic part is, the time management should be flipped entirely the other way around. You only get so much time to appreciate life, why waste that on such trivial things all of the time?
And @komacarpe, I’m glad to hear that you’re starting to live the life you’ve always wanted. I feel the same way my friend, more and more every day. It’s nice to hear from some like minded people who, instead of having a negative response loaded and ready to go, are willing to discuss and give their honest opinions.
@punker96, Likewise, my friend. I, among many others, believe we’re in for a sort of apocalyptic roller-coaster ride in the coming years. I’m starting to see all the wrongs and dissconnection, from what we truly are, and I feel that it is my task in life to first find my true Self to be able help other struggling souls. Humanity need all the help it can get to wake up. Keep posting interesting thoughts and karma will reward you my friend:)