Love versus autonomy

Hi. I recently fell in love with this person. We are both seniors in college on the verge of graduating. His plans after graduation is working in this city, and I live about 6 hours away down south. I had this whole plan for myself, and now that I started to love him, I really don’t know what to do.

My question is, do you think it’s possible for people who just recently fell in love to stick through long-distance? I am 22 years old, I know I have my whole life ahead of me. I didn’t expect to fall in love my last semester of college. I don’t want to stay in the city just because he has a job. I don’t want to live my life for someone. But I also don’t want to lose him…

June 6, 2016 at 1:31 pm
Anjelica (101) (@Anjelica) 5 years ago ago

 You can’t love someone without appreciating their individuality. Feeling state >plans. But I like plans, and maybe the relationship is congruent with yours. We all live for each other. If you feel like you’re sacrificing something more important than your connection with him, then don’t do it. But don’t just cling to the ideology that we aren’t supposed to rely on each other when the exchange is mutual. That is destructive and arrogant. 

ces’t la vie (197) (@citygirl9050) 4 years, 11 months ago ago

Thank you

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