*Love is a strong strong emotion, something that can be felt in the hearts of all shapes and all sizes, colors and languages, anywhere in the world. I have equally strong feelings toward love and of love towards others. I found this while browsing and thought it was a pretty good thing to share.
Love is unattractive. It can expose our worst traits: Jealousy, irrational fears, heated anger; the gang’s all here! While it can bring out compassion and tenderness, it can also make you behave like the ugliest version of yourself. That can be okay for a little while, but love with real longevity should be like a xanax rather than an adderall.
Love is not afraid to be schmaltzy. There’s a reason why the most popular love songs are so lyrically simple. You can drown it in metaphors all you want but love usually boils down to, “You make me so happy. I want to hold your hand. I just want u 2 be mine 4ever!” You can be a 50-year-old linguistics professor at Columbia University and still find something to relate to in a Mariah Carey ballad if you’re in love because the feelings are so universal. It’s humbling, isn’t it? No matter who you are or what your background is, love can reduce you to Mariah Carey mush.
Love is an all-consuming drug. It gives us these natural highs we’ve only read about in books or heard in songs. It’s addictive. It’s what keeps us going to bars, drinking glasses of wine, going to that stupid house party in Bushwick; it’s all for the possibility of finding love. In the wrong hands, love can be dangerous and scary. If someone lacks a healthy foundation, love can kill. All of these crimes you read about in the newspapers are usually linked to passionate love. “I did it because I loved them just…too much.”
Love is not what our parents had. In high school, you never wanted to think about your mother and father having once slept with people in the backseat of cars and feeling warm and happy. That would make it feel less special and young. It would make love have less to do with you when, EXCUSE ME, it has EVERYTHING to do with you.
Love is getting drunk with your significant other at a party and taking a cab home with your bodies intertwined. You feel safest in these moments, the most secure. Entering a social gathering with someone who loves you is the biggest security blanket. People leave the party as a parade of droopy expressions and sad cocktail dresses. But not you. “Sorry guys, I’m in love! I’m taking a car!”
Love is fucking stupid. Love is fucking smart. Love is about betraying yourself, of compromising your ideals for someone else’s approval. That’s actually the bad kind of love, but I guess it all blurs together when you’re young or when you’re old or when you don’t love yourself.
Love is your significant other telling you about their favorite album and then making a point to fall in love with it on your own. Love is wondering why your better half loves certain things. You think you can find remnants of them in their favorite films, books and songs, but you usually can’t.
Love is finding yourself feeling protective over someone else’s well-being Love is being incensed with rage when someone or something has done your lover wrong.
Love is wanting your partner to cum. And if they can’t, just say, “That’s okay. I’m enjoying this.” It might be bullshit, but they’ll be orgasming in the next five minutes. Trust me.
Love isn’t always marriage. Marriage is spending $60,000 so everyone can know that someone loves you. You know what’s certainly not love? Debt. In some cases, love can be divorce.
Love is a back massage, a mindfuck, a hard cock, a pair of perfect breasts, of feeling unashamed about the cellulite on your body. Love is someone giving a shit about you enough to argue. Love is not passive. Love is “Don’t fucking touch me right now.” Love is “Who the FUCK were you talking to?” Love is sometimes hating yourself for a second. Love is hate. Period. Indifference is the real killer of love and the true antithesis.
When love leaves you, you should be lying on your bathroom floor with no resolve. You’re smoking cigarettes in the bathtub and crying about everything bad that’s ever happened.
Love is someone seeing the beauty in you and wanting to bask in it every day all day. Love is not guaranteed. We are not owed love. That’s why when we get it, we know how lucky we are and hold on to it for dear life.
So, yeah. That’s what love is. Anyone know where to get some?
@ST, she is beautiful, and the letters are truly heartwarming. Penpals, so romantic!
I feel like romance is becoming somewhat lost in today’s society. Especially in America, the place of women is becoming more and more dominant; more stay-at-home dads/working moms, women focused on their careers instead of relationships, etc. With this happening I feel like some of the men here have no idea what to do. Their original role as the breadwinner is slowly becoming obsolete in some relationships, and I think this is really taking a toll on the whole romance aspect.
Hey boys! Yes we’re a little more self-sufficient and less subservient these days…mostly, but we still like being wooed and romanced.
@ Jeslyn, it was actually a Russian scam….
but Love is Grand ;) still.
I recognize your thoughts about the way things are going nowadays, it is largely due to the way our economic systems have developed.
The stay at home dads are still a luxury, how about the parents with more then one job each,
and all the children in daycare, it is not always a choice for women to be independent, it is a good thing though, now finding a balance ;)
Nice post. I was just having a wee epiphany on love.
I realized that I start a relationship in my mind and in love. I realized that it happens whenever I look at a woman that I find attractive. So I am, from moment to moment, in love.
In getting to know someone that love either gains foundation or loses it. For love to gain foundation each party must love themselves, not be guarded or filtered. Without openness and honesty love is not possible, and the ugly that the author refers to will come out.
Love is what the one is made of. Being is love. Life is because love is. All is because the one is the source of all and not different from all. All there is , is love and bliss. Only thing we have to achieve is the realisation of it Look in yourself. You will find it there looking for you.
Wow. It’s funny how old discussions get revived. It’s funny that it’s been 515 days since I have posted this.
And I still like it, yes, but it’s almost like reading through an old journal even though I didn’t write this. My thoughts readings it then, which I remember very clearly upon re-reading, are completely different than my new and current thoughts on the piece.
It’s funny how things change.
Love, oh you. You’re resourceful aren’t you?
Well, I’ve understood that for some time now, I was starting to understand that at around the time I posted this.
It’s more how different/similar love can be. Why it feels different with different people, and yet still the same, or maybe just familiar.
Because you must look inside yourself first, yes, of course. But it takes two, and it’s the degree to which you look inside, and the degree that the other person does too. How that matches up on the timeline of understanding in your life. When there is too far of a rift there, that is where imbalance stems. However you can still be in love, and perhaps close that gap in the process. Perhaps, but not always, definitely not always.
Also, how you project love outside yourself, to an altruistic degree.
To be completely in love and acceptance of yourself, and truly project an altruistic love towards others, and your significant other. 2 of a kind in that sense is something to aim for, I should think.
Love grows, as they say. :)