May sobriety challenge

 Kyle van der Walt (@KylevanderWalt)6 years, 1 month ago

Hello fellow HEthens!

I have been using a few state altering drugs this year. To list a them: Alcohol, coffee, sugar, nicotine, ecstasy, poppers and LSD. I haven’t been over doing any of them in particular but I still feel like I’m becoming dependent on them to socialize. I read a very interesting article from psychedelic frontier giving 8 tips on how to use recreational drugs safely. I asked myself why I use these and although I know they’re not necessarily harmful in moderation, I want to prove to myself that I don’t need any drug to socialize or have fun. I’m starting a challenge to staying sober for the whole of May.  It is the 4th, so it’s a late start, but rather late then never at all. Time is just a construct anyway ;P 

Anyone who wants to join me in this quest can post their drugs in the comments and stay up to date. I’ll be posting any successes/failures.

Good luck soldiers.

May 4, 2015 at 11:00 am
kaz (0) (@mincerk) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

Would love to stay sober for the whole of May…..me feel it is impossible

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AMusoke (8) (@AMusoke) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

I get high every few days and actually miss the pointlessness that is being drunk. This sober challenge is interesting , I wish I could do it :P :P

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Kyle van der Walt (13) (@KylevanderWalt) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

It wouldn’t be a challenge if it was easy :P

In the 8 tips i was talking about, the author says that weed makes you content with being bored and he wishes he had smoked less and rather learned a skill. 

I enjoy drugs but I want to make the reason I’m doing them a addition to the experience and not the experience (if that makes sense) 

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AMusoke (8) (@AMusoke) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

I just went this weekend without weed, was fok hard but got me thinking…..

Ill your sober challenge :D

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Kyle van der Walt (13) (@KylevanderWalt) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

I’m really stoked Athi! :D 

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Billie Jean (7) (@xoxoBillieJean) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

(This is real. . . I like this comment )

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Zdiddy14 (4) (@zdiddy14) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

Yeah I have tried a few sobriety challenges in the past, found it extremely difficult to stop them all at once. So I’m choosing the one that is most deleterious to my health and biggest hindrance of time devoted to use and recovery, alcohol. So tired of the cycle of dumbing myself down with etoh to socialize with others, taking it a little too far, then wasting an entire day recovering with a hangover. We only have a limited time on this planet to experience all the awesome shit out there. I refuse to waste another day nursing a hangover. Oh, here‘s a good video to put into perspective how little time we truly have to experience… 

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Kyle van der Walt (13) (@KylevanderWalt) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

That’s good :D it’s a way of proving to myself that I don’t need any drugs and I can say no. I don’t want to get trapped in the cycle you spoke of 

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Kyle van der Walt (13) (@KylevanderWalt) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

Here’s an update on the challenge :D

IvI’ve held strong so far and have been sober for the first week. I haven’t even had a sip of coffee. xD

It’s been quite hard, the fact that i can’t take drugs makes me want to do them all that much more. I’m going to a party tonight so it’ll be good to practice saying no. :) 

Wish me luck ladies and gents

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AshMarsh (0) (@AMarsh813) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

Wow this is really quite interesting. I major in Chemical Dependency and going to get my MSW. I would be honored if you allowed me to write something up on your experience through this?! Please email me if you have time. [email protected] 

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Kyle van der Walt (13) (@KylevanderWalt) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

I will :) 

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Gare (32) (@JurassicParking) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

Do it up man! Have fun with it

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Gare (32) (@JurassicParking) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

I was thinking exactly your proposed challenge today before hopping on HE. So weird, even more enthused. A little late in may, but oh well. 

I’m mostly curious about my brain’s equilibrium without catering substances to it.  Concerned primarily without caffiene and nicotine. I’ve notice that whenever I’m out with friends and they’re drinking, I usually am too (unless I’m too hungover from the night before).

I drink an insane amount of express in the morning, 8 shots with a cigarette is just my way of blasting off to start the day. I’m more worried about caffeine withdrawels. I probably will just drink a mild caffeinated tea the first week to avoid headaches.

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Kyle van der Walt (13) (@KylevanderWalt) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

It’s never too late, just alter your parameters. Go from today (11 May) until the 11th of June for example. I know what you mean. I was worried that I needed a form of drug to help me socialise. Don’t you get a low from such a blast of caffeine? 

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Gare (32) (@JurassicParking) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

The true art of socializing lies with sobreity. I used to always drink in a situation I thought would be nerve racking. But with my past of blackouts and actions I can’t even remember, drinking no longer is a crutch due to shame to remind me haha.  I don’t recommend this method, but it works for me. I usually combat my lows with jogging or yoga. Jogging is a good way to replace my caffeine I’m the morning though, my head stays a little fuzzy but at least it gets the blood pumping.

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Kyle van der Walt (13) (@KylevanderWalt) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

I agree! I went to that party sober and had an awesome time. :)  i found that I’m just as awesome and crazy without alcohol xD

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Soul Finder (60) (@Inthebalance) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

Lol oh my goodness this in incredibly tough! I wanted to quit this month too (before I even read this) because my landlord is checking my house this month and I didn’t want it to smell like pot. I was able to quit weed For 4 days, then I lost motivation & smoked what I had, but to force myself to stop, I didn’t buy more weed, so I started drinking. Oh my gosh… I have a very hard time keeping “sober.” it could be addiction, or bordom, but I think it’s because I just don’t really want to stop. I don’t think weed is a hindersance to my health, and usually I never drink unless I don’t have pot. i think I’m perfectly capable of functioning without drugs or alcohol, I did after all for two years completely clean, which I only did because I was scared of being sent back to rehab (which my parents forced me to), which was a pretty good reason for me to quit, it was awful in rehab.
I just don’t see why I should quit- I lack the motivation. If it isn’t hurting me, or those around me, what’s the problem? I’m not so concerned about the smell because I figure I can light up outside. If I had a very good reason, I’m sure I could quit. I need to want to stop to actually do it. The only VERY good reason I can think of is to detox so the next time I light up it feels more intense-now that I have pot though, the temptation is too much to bare :X  I supose I could smoke it all in one insane bake-out, then quit. Lol! 

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Kyle van der Walt (13) (@KylevanderWalt) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

I really enjoy smoking weed and spending time with friends in a stoner daze or having some drinks. I also love taking e and going clubbing. The reason I gave it a break for a while was just to prove that I really don’t need it and keeping it something I do to add enjoyment to an experience rather than it being a necessity. 

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Salij (0) (@univerSalij) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

Kudos!  I’ve been working to reduce my marijuana intake.  Ideally having at least three days in between usage.  <div>In the last two weeks i’ve had periods of 4 and 5 days sober.</div><div>
</div><div>It helps to identify, that is having your sense of self, with your willpower.</div><div>
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Kyle van der Walt (13) (@KylevanderWalt) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

Thanks and I agree, it also helps you remember why you get high in the first place.

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oceanblue (0) (@oceanblue) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

Hi guys,

I’d like to join the challenge with a mental sobriety rather than trying to stay sober from a substance (come to think of it – sugar). I have trouble with ‘anger’. Everyone who knows me will probably be a little surprised, ppl consider me nice, tolerant etc. Oftentimes Im passionate about something, about a discussion, my work, a change I want (us) to achieve… I get pretty angry sometimes, at people who step back from the nice dream, and put their head in the sand, and tell me Im naive. People who are otherwise pretty reflected about what makes them unhappy, but when push comes to shove, rather say, “no that has nothing to do with it”. I have not completely understood my emotional process yet, but I get enraged, really really angry on the inside, so much that I have headaches, are blocked in writing (Im writing my PhD thesis right now), and at some point am really sad, and angry at myself. One easy option seems to be, “not to take things so seriously”… but that seems like irony, because not taking it seriously when people realize a mind-pattern, but then keep on doing it because they do not believe in themselves, or so many people having lost faith in humanity, saying other people are generally bad, selfish etc, and the whole society is going to shit, is just WRONG! The irony Im so passionate about is: believing society is going to shit, and that other people are basically criminals is exactly creating the mistrusting and over-burocratized society, the thought started with. Its like designing a lab experiment, where you exactly find out the assumption that you put in… And this Catch-22 (right word?) is making me so angry, I feel like Im running against a brick-wall everyday… and I want to step back from the anger, and learn how to deal with it differently. So I’d like to earn a sobriety chip from anger ;)

What do you think?

Good luck with yours for today! :)

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Kyle van der Walt (13) (@KylevanderWalt) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

Thanks for sharing and getting involved. I guess the first challenge is telling people because then you basically commit. I don’t have a solution for you but I can throw out some ideas. 
Try to be very vigilant of when you’re angry, why you got angry and how you reacted. Write it down if you need to or make a mental note,  preferably something you can look back and reflect on. Take the saying “don’t take things seriously” differently. Care and be passionate about various things and life but don’t let others affect you. Be selfish in a way 
Hope I helped and good luck :)

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Kyle van der Walt (13) (@KylevanderWalt) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

I got through the weekend but I nearly broke today. I have been excited for some time to take shrooms but it’s always been too expensive or at a bad time. Now, as soon as I take up sobriety, a friend offers to buy me shrooms from a trusted guy and another friend finished growing and needs gineapigs. I nearly gave in until I saw the comments here, so thank you! 

You all have helped on my path. :)

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Billie Jean (7) (@xoxoBillieJean) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

It’s been two weeks sober for me (started last month on the 27th) so I was more than happy to see this challenge. I have given up  cannabis  & alcohol!

The first week was hard, but I have been using the time/money to have “#soberlife” experiences. Since I’ve tried out a new Thai restaurant & took my son canoeing. Thus far, this has been rewarding.

I am not a heavy smoker (started three years ago) and I limited my drinking to red wine but these last 2 weeks has been nice! 

Good Luck 

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Kyle van der Walt (13) (@KylevanderWalt) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

This is great to hear :) how long are you planning on staying sober? 

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Billie Jean (7) (@xoxoBillieJean) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

At least 30-40 days. . . I know I am cutting the drinking almost all together (just want to have a glass of wine on holidays). Unsure how I feel about my “clouds”. I have to figure out what type of relationship I want to have with it. :) 

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Kyle van der Walt (13) (@KylevanderWalt) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

That’s cool :) 

Good luck! 

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Billie Jean (7) (@xoxoBillieJean) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

Thanks :) 

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Guy Laroce (0) (@GuyLaroche) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

glad i came across this challenge. will be staying sober untill june 20

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Kyle van der Walt (13) (@KylevanderWalt) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

Wow! Keep at it and good luck :) and feel free to log your ups and downs on this conversation forum :D i would love to hear how it goes! 

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