Meditation, why can't I be still?

mmwilliams (@mmwilliams) 7 years, 7 months ago

Hi guys, I’m a 25yo lady, going through a rough patch in my life. Newly single after a draining relationship, flat broke, in a new city alone and looking for some answers within myself. I’ve attempted meditation a few times, but often I just find myself focusing more on the fact that I am unable to focus, than actually focusing… I’m wondering if any of you have any tips to share with me, any little tricks you’ve picked up, that might help me quiet my mind and allow me to be still, I’d appreciate any info shared!
Peace & love,

June 19, 2014 at 3:34 am
Rimi (0) (@rimi) 7 years, 7 months ago ago

Hello there! I can understand your situation well. Your inability to focus is due to an overactive mind. While an overactive mind is like an annoying kid, throwing tantrums all the time, it can also be made to relax and calm down if you have enough patience for it. It is only normal for a mind to be overactive with negative thoughts and future worries after a bad experience. So, be patient with your mind- the first step. The second would be to ask yourself , why is it that you decided to meditate? Ask yourself, ‘Do I really want to do it? But why?’ This article is helpful and helps you answer just that.

*This* Is Why You Have Trouble Meditating

This article helps you develop your intent. Also there are many techniques to meditation. The third task would be to gain more knowledge on meditation, its different techniques, experiment with them, and find the one that suits you the best. Hope I could help you in some way to get started. All the best dear!

MonkeyZazu (1,865)M (@monkeyzazu) 7 years, 7 months ago ago

I agree, especially with “It is only normal for a mind to be overactive with negative thoughts and future worries after a bad experience.”

Good reply :)

Marlon (97) (@shoeopener) 7 years, 7 months ago ago

Personally, I feel like moving my body when I think. Boom, headshot.

sivasankari (0) (@sivasankari) 7 years, 7 months ago ago

hai williams! im an indian girl! i too had a same problem, but i over came! what i had done is, first i tie up my eyes with soft cloth and focus on tha darkness and a mysterious black! i if you intrested in it try it ! i hope you will find a brightfull life

MagicMushgroome (0) (@shalomsabath) 7 years, 7 months ago ago

Basically the only way to focus your mind when you are first learning to meditate is by focusing on your breathe. It is an ancient Indian Sage technique and has proven very useful for beginners. You focus on every aspect of the breathe, the feeling of it coming into your mouth and gently down your oesophagus into the lungs. You have to feel the breathe like it is alive. You have to become your breathe. When you do this you will find yourself completely focused and all your attention towards your breathe. It is the best technique for people still learning.

LVX (297) (@Vovinawol) 7 years, 7 months ago ago

Try Tai Chi. The movements of the form give you something to think about…then a meditative state will slowly creep up on you with no thoughts to get in the way. I also don’t mind the passive forms of meditation, but the tai chi gives me a good work out while I meditate, so it’s 2 birds : )
I can’t even begin to say how strong the advanced levels will make you become, in mind,body, and spirit.

josephm (772) (@josephm) 7 years, 7 months ago ago

being still is an illusion

jgreen (35) (@andropar) 7 years, 7 months ago ago

You have to give yourself some time to get used to meditating. It’s not unlike any other skill, meaning, that you have to practice it over and over again to make it work.

Start with short sessions of around 3-5 minutes and when you can focus for more than, let’s say, 30 seconds, increase the duration of your meditation.

Don’t rush, don’t force yourself into it. Let go. :)

lvoevge (2) (@lvoevge) 7 years, 7 months ago ago

Give this a try.

It may or may not be what you’re looking for but it’s a great way to start down the path. Also, I’m sure you’ve experienced the sensation before and probably not realized it. That glimpse of infinity you experience through the absence of thought associated with an intense conversation, the thorough enjoyment of music, etc. They are all rooted in the present moment. Keep trying!

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