Yep I’m going there. It’s a touchy subject for a lot of people-and for me. Generally speaking, I think according to the animal kingdom it’s unnatural to only have one partner for life. Societal norms get in the way of anything other than monogamous relationships being ok & I’m finding more & more I don’t like societal norms.
Do you think it’s possible to be in a marriage/relationship with someone that’s open to other sexual partners? Any personal stories? Anyone who is actually in an open relationship?
Although jealousy is a bitch to overcome I refuse to restrict anyone I love in any kind of way, including sexually. Love means neither possession nor attachment although I have been guilty of mixing these things up. Another persons body is not mine to govern and everybody should be utterly free to be intimate with whomever they want. Honesty however, is a must in any relationship, no compromise there. Same goes for trust: if a partner and I were to agree upon living the same illusion of monogamy then violating that agreement would still be wrong in my book. As for myself: I am extremely loyal and I’ll probably never desire more than one sexual relationship at a time.
its necessary for a species survival to adapt to circumstances. if the human race weren’t to adopt monogamy its population would become so rampantly out of control that it would consume itself. this is what has happened in the animal kingdom in the past.
but i feel the human race is in something of a transitionary phase where monogamy still isn’t fully accpeted on a biological level. the society basis of human evolution has always been 50% male 50% women, but with one man (the alpha) getting the majority of the women, so that his stronger genes would survive, smaller scale survival of the fittest within a tribe.
The only way for the human race to cut down on its population without destroying itself is to adopt a natural order that over generations will reduce the population to around 4 billion where the majority of people have 1 monogamous relationship in their life and produce 1-2 children with the occasional acception where someone doesn’t have any children or someone else has many children.
its just how things trend. i mean, the baby boomer generation will be dying off soon enough and over the next few years we will probably see for the first time a decline in the number of people on earth that isn’t related to a catastrophic natural disaster (though thats my speculation).
in short i dont think monogamy is a natural thing for what we were, but i also dont think its a natural part of what we are. more that its to become that.