Today i came to know…my friend/teacher has been diagnosed with a cancer…he has a year more to go…i dont know how might be feeling but i know he is a very stable person..in 2 days i am having a flight….i dont know what to say..i have to console him and give him hope..please please…someone help me what to say to him …..
@jinay-shah, first of all, condolences both to you and your friend. It’s hard to be in the situation you are in.
As Ellie already said, the best thing you can do is be a listening ear. Maybe to focus on the good (memories) and be a comforting presence. Gratitude, forgiveness and love are things I think we all will want to experience (and to express) when in a similar situation.
Also, I’m not sure if this is really the time or place for this (I can have the most dreadful sense of timing), but:
“No one knows whether death is really the greatest blessing a man can have, but they fear it is the greatest curse, as if they knew well”. -Plato
Both to you and your friend: it’s going to be okay.
Don’t treat him any different. The best thing you can do is continue to be the friend you are and not change anything at all. A year is a long time and you don’t want to start treating someone like they’re going to die. The last thing he wants or needs to do is think about the year he has left. Maybe try and get him to think of other things and do things that make him happy. Just be a friend.