It’s been a while that i noticed that i don’t realy feel comfortable talking to people. Usualy, im a pretty social person but it’s like i’m alway looking for something to say and it ends up with an arkward silence. I realy enjoy being surround by the person i love and i want to have some endless conversations, but nothing comes out of my mouth. Like my mind is having some white noise or something like that. I was just wondering if anybody else have the same problem with their entourage and if I could get some tips from you guys. Thanks a lot! :)
I can offer a general tip. I would assume you may be searching your consciousness while faced with a social situation for something to say, and it seems at this moment your brain decides to kick in that white noise. Instead of searching for something to say, focus on being a good listener. The right words will naturally come in time, and I think people will come to honor that about you. This is only What I can say from the outside looking in though.
This has been my life for such a long time. I’ve only recently, upon moving to a new area, been breaking out of it. Since moving I’ve been able to pretty much re-invent myself and choose the way I want people to see me. I’ve just been constantly reminding myself that I am in complete control, nothing is serious, and life is short. I used to sit in front of somebody staring them in the face with nothing to say, I would be searching through piles of thoughts… should I say this? or should I say that?… does it even matter? Every time I would engage in conversation I would be faced with an existential crisis. And then the white noise that you speak of. It would completely inhibit my conversation-making. But then I just started to sort of not give a shit anymore, and treat life and conversation with others kind of like a sitcom or a play. Just a game. And we all lose the game in the end, so I realized that I should just play around and open myself up and say whatever is in my mind at the moment. this is how great things happen. But then again I still find myself blocking quite often. It’s just one of my things.