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Chocomur (@chocomur) 7 years, 4 months ago

Hello,

 I have problem at work. I work in big team ( just started work one month ago), but there is one employee, who is very rude, shoot at me and tease me all the time. I feel so stressful, everyday I feel so depressed and yesterday I almost started cry, but I try to act professional and keep my emotions. Actually, she sometimes do same thing to collegues too, but one cannot do anything to her, she is bosses favorite. Pleace, I would be thankful to get some advice from you.

April 23, 2015 at 6:40 am
Dfoo (5) (@Dfoo) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Man that’s a shitty situation. Would you be open to talking to either her or your boss? Just tell her you don’t feel comfortable with the way you’re being treated. But I’d understand if you don’t wanna do that.. Sometimes that can make things worse. Your second option is to fire back at her. Don’t take any shit, and see how that goes. She might back down cause she sounds like a bully. 

But that’s definitely not a fun predicament, so I’m sorry you’re in that situation

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Anonymous (2) (@) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

speak your mind and get a new job <3

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Flaxscrip (1) (@flaxscrip) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

I’ve been in a similar situation as well. I found that politely calling the issue out was my best course of action.  The key word there is *politely*.  Don’t try to out-rude a person who has a lot of experience at being rude.

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kokopelli (8) (@kokopelli) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Just ignore her. She is being childish so treat her like that, eventually she will stop.

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eextreme (31) (@eextreme) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

The next time she does something like that, put on a caring face and say something like “I don’t know what troubles you are going through but do you want to talk about it?” Make sure that there are people nearby who can hear what you said. Ask the same question everytime she is rude to you, and let us know how it goes :)

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Viner Cent (50) (@Viner-Cent) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

This is pure ingeniuty, and so diabolical, I like you ;)

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unconditioned (9) (@unconditioned) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

Go to HR. They will keep it confidential. neither your manager nor that person will know who complained. There are so many rules at workplace. No need for fear! NEVER FEAR. Fuck that person.. life is short, you want to live it like a pussy? good luck :)

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micah (11) (@mp01255) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

you outperform her, build alliances with everyone else and eventually the boss. Once your favored over her you slowly bring her shittyness to everyone’s awareness until everyone hates her

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Kyle van der Walt (13) (@KylevanderWalt) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

Hey :)

This is a very tough situation and there’s been quite a lot of replies giving good advice. It’s easy for us to tell you what you should do when we’re just facing a computer screen. Whatever response you decide to choose will take a lot of courage, which will build your character and influence how your colleagues see you.

You need to stand up to this bully. Talk with your co-workers that also seem to be put in that situation, you might not be alone. As the other replies have said, don’t do it in a negative way. She’s probably a very experienced rude person. Be kind but firm and confident (fake it until you make it).

I hope that all of us could help :)

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Chocomur (2) (@chocomur) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

Thank you all for your advices, I appreciate that. =)

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