Nightmare Coping Mechanisms.
So, I get really bad dreams every single night.
I started writing them down this past summer and they’re just getting progressively worse the more that i remember about them. I used to tell my friend what happens in them in the hope that a problem shared is a problem halved but lately they’re just too distressing to even rethink about each morning.
I don’t want to hear that my subconsciousness is trying to tell me something. I don’t want to hear that its my head trying to make sense of unresolved situations in life. I really just need some coping mechanisms now. I’m sick and tired of being not rested no matter how much sleep i make an effort to get. I eat well, I work out, I’m not that stressed a person. I just need a way out. What worked for you guys?
@splashartist, I literally just woke up from a nap in which i had a series of dreams that i was in a state of sleep paralysis. the first dream wasn’t bad, i just couldn’t move and i wanted to stick my arm out of the bed. I woke up, and thought i was awake but i was in a worse state than the first dream. I was hot, achy and i couldn’t breathe. I needed help and i tried with all my might to call out and i barely managed a sound. I woke again, into another dream that was the same situation but again i thought i was awake except now i could hear someone moving around next to my bed checking on me. I tried and tried to call out, i desperately needed help. I couldn’t breath and i could hear my heartbeat thumping loud in my ears racing away. I was over heating like crazy and i needed someone to take my blanket off. It kept repeating the cycle, getting worse and worse with each new dream.
The thing is, i waited out each dream for it to run its course, thinking that something would change that something would pull me out of them. Its like i was lucid but unable to control it. Its distressing as fuck, and while i’m gonna confidentially call this one as being because of the flu i have right now, i get this kind of thing every freaking night. I just can’t handle it anymore.
I use to have very bad dreams as a kid and I use to turn on the tv to cartoons or think of something really fun I did earlier before I went to sleep. It didn’t work. The nightmares still came. I then decided to think of the bad dream before I went to sleep and try my best to twist it into a best case scenario. Example…evil demon is in my room, I imagine talking to him and he is just there to make sure I’m safe. Say someone is trying to kill me, talk to them and get them to kill someone I hate and we become hitman friends (that’s messed up I know). And all masked scary people are unmasked and turn into a person I like. It still works for me. Just think of the bad dream before you sleep and think of how to make it awesome!
but seriously if there is one thing I learned about bad dreams is they simply come from stress.
take a vacation
like I did
and take your shirt off
@francina, then stop trying to handle it and let it move through you. When you completely surrender to what is then nothing can truly harm you. I had to do it with my severe anxiety. Guess what though? It worked. It takes a lot of courage to face your fears but it is the only way to truly heal. Do you want to numb it and keep it around longer or do you want it gone (or it not effect you anymore). These are the questions we must take into consideration with these types of things. Life is trying to show you (itself, since you aren’t separate from life) something. Pay attention.