No Porn: No Masturbation: 30 Days

19 days in now.
noticed that as long as i stay busy i wont even think about it so much.
i have free time (and energy) to do all kinds of other things now :D
if things stay this way, ill make the 30 days.

I’m in, starting today. I’ve sadly gotten to the point where it’s become a part of my morning shower. I’ve been trying to completely stop for about the last month, with minor victories, followed by episodes of relapse. I’m hoping that this thread will provide some amount of accountability, and will try to be as honest about my progress as possible. Let’s do this!

Been telling myself to do this for months now, just haven’t had the motivation and keep putting it off. I’m in. Going from everyday, multiple times a day, quitting cold turkey. This is going to be so hard. Knowing that I’m not alone and all this support is incredible. Those of you already on the challenge, keep updating, really interested in your mental struggles/victories

Just went through this and looked at YBOP and like most everyone else, I am convinced to try this challenge. Although, I am curious about something. What about those who don’t have real sex as an alternative? My sexual preferences mean that the odds of actually finding someone I will enjoy having sex with are very low so I will masturbate just as a part of being a human, with needs. Now, I realize that stopping could definitely change my energy and other things for the better but I’m just curious how this affects people who sort of go to masturbation because otherwise there is nothing. I think when you have a partner or active, healthy views on sex refraining from masturbating/porn is great but could it possibly backfire if it’s your only source of gratification?

Day 1!
@cailafornia, Good point

dic 26 2012
im in

I’ve also been trying to complete this challenge but have failed many times, I’m starting today!

I relapsed after about eight months for the porn and everytime I do I just wonder why? Why can’t I overcome these simple primal urges that are distorted through visual abstractions via technology, aka porn? I can only hope that this latest failure will make my eventual success sweeter.

@runnerbeneaththesky, kudos for reaching 8 months! I know how bad it feels to relapse, I’ve been there more times than I care to admit to myself. I’ve been telling myself I’m going to quit for months now, and only started to REALLY try a couple of days ago. Don’t beat yourself up over the relapse, these urges are a bitch sometimes. Just know that you’ve got a lot of people rooting for you, and you are more than capable of succeeding.

I’M FAILING EVERY DAY AT THIS SHIT

Count me in, starting today :D

@runnerbeneaththesky, It took me also something like that before I watched ‘porn’ again. This time it was only once though, an ‘erotic movie’ so to say which I stumbled upon after watching television again after quite some time as well.

Anyway, I think there is nothing wrong with a porn movie from time to time, as long as it does not change the neural processes in your brain where it becomes something unhealthy, an addiction and something that just screws up your vision and view of sex.
The point of this debate is that if you watch porn on a regular basis, you just become desynthesized due to the overstimulation, and your view of women and sex in general becomes screwed up etc.

BUT, you have to get your brain normal again, and this can take a long time (months/years) in my opinion. I do not know if I am back to normal again, but it has been 9 or 10 months for me since I have started this challenge, and I got to more than 90 days the first time when I started.

@cailafornia,

“What about those who don’t have real sex as an alternative?”

That is a question for later, just see if you can make the challenge first. You do not need sex as an alternative. It is not that you NEED to have orgasms and sexual stimulation in order to survive. This is just like drinking alcohol, taking drugs, smoking cigarettes, or eating that delicious truffel chocolat cake: it is merely a craving that you do not need to succumb to. You make your own choices. YOU choose to take that drug, YOU choose to masturbate, YOU choose to smoke etc. etc. You DO NOT need to do those things. Do not fool yourself, your mind will always find and make new excuses as for why you should do certain things that you not really need to do.

“I think when you have a partner or active, healthy views on sex refraining from masturbating/porn is great but could it possibly backfire if it’s your only source of gratification?”

Not at all! Like I said, it is not that you need that in your life to survive. I have been for more than 90 days without masturbating and without sex as well, and I felt awesome! Just try the challenge and see how it will make you feel. If you will not feel better, then just go back to your old habits. Nobody is forcing you or telling you that this is the truth. These are just guidelines and everybody makes his/her own choices whether it is helpful or not. Try for yourself, then judge.

this is really very useful information.. i hadn’t thought about porn like that. every time after you’ve masturbated to porn you’re left with a stupid unpleasant feeling thinking why did i spend so much time on this, was it really worth it.. i could’ve been doing much more useful things.
i’m also taking up this challenge!!

Trust me everyone…coming from a guy who hasn’t watched porn in over a year and has only masturbated once or twice since then, it is WORTH IT. The difference is remarkable…in sex, in conversations, in exercise, in healthier habits and a healthier body. Especially for guys, the conservation of sperm is so vital. That life you expel day in and day out when you masturbate is instead absorbed into the body and used. Just think about it, your sperm creates life, creates a human being. You are conserving that energy and that life and using it to help your body become stronger and healthier.

Not only does it help physically, but mentally as well. The way you see women will change, the way you talk to women will change, the way you always used to get shy and nervous around women WILL change. You’re mind no longer views women as this object for sex, therefore, you won’t get nervous around hot women because your controlling the urge. In turn you will have more opportunities for sex with, and I promise you, A REAL LIVE WOMAN…..HOOOOOWA. Enjoy haha

Congratulations to everyone who has kept this up…it seems hard at first but after the first Month, you will get the hang of it. Keep it up people.

I’ve been suffering from ED with real girls for quite a while now. I always thought porn would be part of the problem, and have tried a couple of times to stop doing it. But well, you know…, the flesh is weak.

After reading/viewing the material on YBOP today there is no doubt about it. Understanding the problem gives a lot of motivation to complete (and extend) this 30 day challenge.

I’m in, starting today!

hahaah imagine you got blue balls from this

day 1, im in

24 days, close enough…. really should not try this in a month full holidays.

I ll start next week ,i prom,,,,fap fap fap fap fap fap fap fap fap

Going to start. Right here, right now.

Counting down.

Hey ybop is amazing. But I’ve been failure so far but i am starting today. I found this website by luck. Sorry going to keep it short.

I’m in. this was crazing to learn about and could see my road unwinding in front of me. Thank you for this info. I feel ready to make this change.

Ok guys. It’s 12:14am right now, and I’m only on day 4, and really want to give in. What should I do? Honestly, for the past 3 years I have used masturbation to get to sleep.

im in! 30 days! i do it everyday i shower sometimes more and before going to bed (high sex drive). However the deal is that its no porn or masturbation for the 30 days. if i end up in a position to get real sex, im taking it though, must make exceptions!!!!!lol ;)

Screw it, I’m doing this except I’m gonna work down and do less and less and then go full on since that’s how I gave up stuff like meat and junk rather easily. I’m not going to permanently stop but I’d like to take up this challenge again!