No Porn: No Masturbation: 30 Days

 Stony Island (@emjay)8 years, 9 months ago

I’m signing up. I’ve been reading some articles on that YourBrainOnPorn site.

I do it like twice a week. But I do it like 3 times in a row. So I guess thats 6 times a week. Shit.
Folks, Tomorrow will be my first day! And I will use this post to update the status daily. Feel free to comment….
And feel free to sign up with me!

Gotta start tomorrow cuz it’s too late today ; ).

edit by Filip: check http://www.yourbrainonporn.com for useful information about this subject

Check out our blog post about this subject: https://www.highexistence.com/how-porn-rewires-the-brain-is-porn-bad-for-you/

February 14, 2012 at 4:27 pm
Anonymous (12) (@) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

Do it. One of the best things I’ve ever done. But my record is around 12 weeks or so :)

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Ben (2) (@nebmx) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

I’m in.

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Anonymous (16) (@) 7 years, 4 months ago ago

@filipek, “And as I said I don’t understand how psychologically a person would want to watch fake things, ”

What about when watching a movie? Movies are fake but yet we get so much enjoyment out of them.

And I had 30 days till I leave to school so I figured why not. I’m 3 days in and don’t feel any different yet, just going to keep on trucking.

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Henrique Silva (2) (@hjsilva) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

I wrote here with another username (henriqesilva),
So it is the forth time I do noFap and the easiest try. The hard one was the first. The tries from before had a timespan. This time I’m doing this more timeless. I’m trying to enjoying the feelings and emotions that arise instead of satisfying myself with porn or fapping.

In the future I will probably fap again, nevertheless I don’t want to see porn again. I say I will fap again because I think it is a part of self discovery too.

I’m on day 69 (I don’t count, reddit bot counts for me), no pressure :).

I don’t think porn is bad or fapping is bad. I think the frequency we use it can bring some problems to the person. “Anything” in excess will probably do more damage than good.

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Skilgannon (6) (@turdus) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

I am signing up too. I already tried twice and failed miserably. The first try after 7 days and the second after 16.

I am going for 90 days and I am on day 8.

I don’t want to fap again, nor watch porn, because it is pointless waste of time, as I am trying to convince myself. I better get out there and get some real girls haha.

Wish me luck guys!!

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Filip (2,818)M (@filipek) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

How is it going with you guys?

Man already 1,5 year without porn, I cannot believe it!

So much better now! Less depressions, less cravings.

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DaFunks (366)M (@Dafunks) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

@filipek, Damn you Filip. Way to make me feel like crap. I just flipped over from a porn site to check on here for updates and saw this.

Way to put a guy on a downer….

/rant
Great work though. I feel proud of you… You give me something to aim for.

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DaFunks (366)M (@Dafunks) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

 I have said before that I am not sure it is something that is good. I see the mental sides to it as good… I am just not sure of the health sides.

But, I think ANYONE doing this is great. It is something to be proud of in today’s 2 click porn world. It is not a bad thing.

Or maybe I am making excuses. Maybe… Damn you guys messing up my head again…!

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Filip (2,818)M (@filipek) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

@dafunks, Hey man! Try it out I would say, what is the worst thing that can happen? Health benefits you might encounter when you will get 80, but yeah, why worry about it now hehe.
Anyways, no seriously mate, the first week is hard, I tell you, the second week as well sometimes varying to no cravings at all to almost constant craving. You can get over that point trust me. Easiest thing is to distract yourself with something else. After that it will be still fluctuating but in less extreme paces. You will see yourself getting more balanced and your image of women will start to change. That is really something that got a positive effect on me.
Anyways, this story is to be continued.

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Shalalanovala (37) (@Shalalanovala) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

Today makes fifteen days for me, and I have to say I feel so much more alive; I have more energy, I feel cleaner, I’m more motivated, I’m more productive, my social anxiety has disappeared, I was actually flirting with this beautiful soul which is something I could have never imagined myself doing as I was too “shy” when it came to that area, I’ve set a flurry of personal bests in yoga, I find myself everything I want and need to do with far more ease, I’m not so depressed that I can’t make it outside my house…

Totally and radically changed my life for the better and completely changed my view of people in general. I was a heavy porn user and I can only imagine how good I’ll feel in a year of abstinence. I had a gut feeling that watching porn was bad, and noticed I’d always feel disinclined to go about my day and do everything I needed and even everything I wanted to do, and I still have other issues but ceasing to watch porn and masturbate has changed my life. Fifteen days…

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Anonymous (2,654) (@) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

Yeah, right. I’d challenge you all to not have any insecurities for 30 days and not be influenced so much by other people’s misery, but be ashamed by it. Because that’s natural. :)

I mean, what the fuck is wrong with you people? How is this a challenge for you? How can you not control this at all?

Seriously. And that bullshit @luigiblue and @filipek said about how you’re going to view women? Well that’s the biggest bullshit. Don’t confuse psychology with your uncontrollable urges.

The most pathetic thread on the fucking internet, liked by dudes that love to asskiss each other’s insecurities, like that’s the biggest challenge you ever done in your lives. Pathetic as fuck! Especially on this site where everyone should be talking about how to exhaust their sexual energy.

Today’s… I don’t know which day is it for me, because this isn’t a fucking challenge. And it never was.

Ok, I guess… I don’t function like most of the people that love this challenge and have an enormous amount of sexual energy. If I’m not convinced about it though, I’m gonna keep believing you’re a majority of insecure idiots.

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Shalalanovala (37) (@Shalalanovala) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

@beyond, Congratulations, you’re the man. Standing atop the city atop the hill. Does it make you feel good Thinking you’re better than the “majority of pathetic, insecure idiots”? That’s quite the misuse of your imagination. What’s easy for one person may not come easy to another and vice versa. Whatever you struggle or find difficulty comes thoughtlessly to someone else. That doesn’t make you better or anyone else less. Have you read the articles on yourbrainonporn? Porn is a supernormal stimuli. Ever heard of the Coolidge effect? Porn introduces novel mates at a number beyond measure.

http://www.stuartmcmillen.com/comics_en/supernormal-stimuli/

Anything can be addictive. Behaviors even. And with the discovery of DeltaFosB that assertion has a solid, scientific foundation.

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Anonymous (2,654) (@) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

@shalalanovala, Yes, it actually does. You thought your argument is going to convince me I’m insecure, right?

Fuck your insecure pathetic imagination. That does make everyone thinking positively better than everyone else, not just me. I’m not even talking about stimuli or labeling what is normal. But if I do, I’ll tell you that if anything, the people that have problems with it judge superficially overall.

Yes, you do. I never did judge superficially, I got inspired. The reason I did, was because I don’t care about masturbation as much as insecure fucks do. I happen to have taste about it. About beauty, femininity, sensuality, the reason why sex sells and how it’s using people’s insecurities.

It’s way more simple than you think. If you have an addiction though, starting at a deeper level to understand your own urges will help. But that’s going to require a thread with a different title. Not one that will acclaim how people with miserable lifestyles also are addicted to porn. Because there are also people that are actually quite comfortable with porn. They’re so comfortable that they even have sexual relationships more often, because they’re not insecure about what they’re doing, they know it’s natural and everyone is. Plus, they also know about moderation.

It’s not a top of the hill. It’s the earth ground looking down upon complete incompetence.

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ZenCowboy (179) (@zencowboy) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

@beyond, Spitting truth today brother!

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Luigi (1,453) (@luigiblue) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

@beyond, Dude seriously. Why do you continue to put down this thread? What the hell is up with that? Put your ego to sleep man, you don’t need to be the right one this time..just leave it alone. Good for you on being secure and happy with whatever you do….because I am secure and happy with what I do.

If you already view women in a positive sense than good for you man..you are stronger than others. I know plenty of guys who do nothing but masturbate to porn all day and then go out in the world and have no idea how to deal with a real woman. Just because you are okay with it, doesn’t mean everyone is. Just like you said, some people are perfectly comfortable with masturbating to porn and even have pretty successful sex lives outside of porn…I’m not knocking that. I’ve never tried to convert people to this, the thread was started, people asked questions and I give a personal opinion. This isn’t a debate or an argument I’m willing to have with you. We are completely different people, in a sense, so what works for you might not work for me and vice versa. Just acknowledge that and move on man.

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Verbal DNA (74) (@doblearcoiris) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

Imagine telling someone from thousands of years ago:

“In the future, man will have discussions about whether jacking off to convincing light patterns of attractive woman having sex is a bad thing”

I see it this way.

1) If you can still get laid through conventional social means, porn use is irrelevant.

2) If not, porn use is irrelevant and there are other issues, mostly your ability to socialize normally.

Any addiction has underlying causes, being free of masturbation for 30 days will not rid you of that addiction if the root cause hasn’t been addressed.

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Verbal DNA (74) (@doblearcoiris) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

@beyond,

Smoke a joint dude, you’re wasting your breath if your tone is so hostile.

Everyone has their insecurities that are not spoken about and maybe in your universe this isn’t one of them, but it seems that to many people it is. I’m tired of people attacking each other with no regards for another’s frame of reference or at least an acknowledgement of being unable to do so.

You say a lot of things are correct, a bit too much arrogance, but still they are valid.

You want to leave a mark and drop some good info? Steer the topic onto root causes and spark a conversation about that without calling people idiots, that tends to shut people off.

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[email protected] (1) (@sambit) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

@clint
so budy are you still continuing your routine?

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Filip (2,818)M (@filipek) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

@beyond, “I mean, what the fuck is wrong with you people? How is this a challenge for you? How can you not control this at all?”

We have our flaws Mister Perfect. Actually if you read yourbrainonporn you will notice that a high exposure to pornography, especially during your youth when your brain is molding itself more than it is at later stages, combined with masturbating merely on pornographic images, will rewire your brain. The brain is like a sponge sucking in all new information and saving it in its database. The more one gets exposed to certain information, the more networks are being created in the brain. The more networks are being created, the easier this information gets accessible. After years of watching porn and masturbating to it I can imagine a lot of strong neuronal pathways in the brain inevitably being connected to each other. The thousands of beautiful women one get to see in that period, will give an unrealistic image of reality.

Unfortunately we have less control over our brains than most of us believe. In Psychology it is known that there is an adaptation level to stimuli, meaning that the more you get exposed to a certain stimuli, the more of it you will need in the future to reach the same baseline of excitement.

What does it mean in this challenge? There are many implications, which you can read on yourbrainonporn. One of them is the fact that the brain connects porn and masturbation in a way that watching porn is indissolubly connected with masturbation. Ergo, every time one watches porn, the urge to masturbate will arise. The other way around may even be worse, because those two objects are connected in a way that one finds it difficult to get excited and masturbate without the stimuli of porn.

This and many other reasons have given me the believe to start this challenge, and I can tell you that I can only see the benefits of having it done. I cannot see any negative effects this challenge has on my life.

You do not have to believe in it, but it does not make other people stupid because they do. Actually I find it quite ignorant if one addresses something as stupid if he has not tried it himself. You cannot really know what you are talking about unless you experience it yourself.

“And that bullshit @luigiblue and @filipek said about how you’re going to view women? Well that’s the biggest bullshit. Don’t confuse psychology with your uncontrollable urges.”

I could write a whole part here about how watching porn changes your image of how you view women, but I am not going to make it that easy for you. Give yourself some time to read about this subject and I will gladly discuss with you why I believe you are wrong. In short I can tell you that Psychology is what is behind it all for the most part. Yes, your view of women and sexual intercourse can and will change when you have a high exposure to pornography. This is how our minds are created: if we get exposed to something often enough, we are going to start to believe it.
Now this effect can be enhanced by various factors.

Why is it so strongly connected with porn & masturbation you ask? Well because during masturbation the usual effect is a climax wherein one experiences an orgasm. The effect of this is the release of dopamine, which is a hormone causing us to experience moments of bliss.
When you connecting these pleasurable sensations with the images of pornography you encounter, the brain is going to start to believe that this is how real life sexual intercourse should be as well.
Anything less than that will lead us to less excitement. The effect of this is that one will start to need more stimulation to experience the same amounts of bliss, and this is leading to the search of not only more exposure to porn, but also to more extreme forms, because the brain her adaption level will keep increasing.

You do not have to believe in it, but there is no need to make the rest of us seem like ‘miserable and pathetic idiots’.

We are not the same and yes for the majority of us this was or is a challenge to do. You do not have to agree with that, but why do you feel the need to bring us down because we do something we believe in?

Do you like to make fun of people? Does it make you feel good? Seriously, how old are you?
High Existence is a website where we help each other, we try to learn from each other and share our knowledge. This is not a website for bullying and and name calling, if you have a problem with that, feel free to find your bliss somewhere else, but there is really no need for this kind of behaviour.

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Sushil (3) (@trippingonyourfeet) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

Signing up.

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Sushil (3) (@trippingonyourfeet) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

I’m gonna take this up a notch. No masturbating, no smoking, no smoking-up and no alcohol.

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Anonymous (2,654) (@) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

@filipek, “The brain is like a sponge sucking in all new information and saving it in its database.” This is exactly why I don’t like people feeding off each other’s insecurities. Our brains aren’t sponges with absolutely no control of ourselves. Every time I see this thread I see the same posts. “I’m feeling weak, I have no energy” – MAYBE people begin to learn how to stop enjoying themselves, maybe the internet and your social surroundings are full of people with too much generosity for advice to meet their standards of weakness, maybe people are eating too goddamn much to begin with, not laughing enough, don’t exercise to have stamina, listen to LANA DEL REY and they wonder… why they have no energy? Because you’re listening to a goddamn zombie. That’s why. It’s like an exaggeration of not feeling well rested. What the hell, seriously? Like it’s some sort of a conspiracy or something, making people afraid of their own tiredness. Maybe I am too harsh using those SHOCKING words, but dudes are already posting they are miserable and so wrong for watching porn. I’m too pissed off by people deluding themselves they are miserable because of porn, when in fact they start feeling even more miserable when someone is constantly telling them that they’re doing something wrong. Placebo 101. Ironically, some of the yourbrainonporn content is using that same method as the ads that tell you women dig gigantic genitals, so you should feel sorry for yourself. How dare you have a body and hormones.

Honestly though, I’m not fair when I talk about this I guess. 90% of the porn doesn’t deliver anything besides mindless fucking, it’s not a work of art, it doesn’t move you emotionally, it’s even made free nowadays and people are getting tired of nudity. It doesn’t stimulate you unless you stimulate yourself, mentally and physically.

“This is how our minds are created: if we get exposed to something often enough, we are going to start to believe it.”

Tell me more, I have no idea and wasn’t talking about the same thing at all.

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Anonymous (2,654) (@) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

@filipek, I agree, though. This site is really for helping each other. What I find really helpful is not waking up in the morning with the mind state: “Today, I shall be really hard on myself and for the rest of my life!”

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Shalalanovala (37) (@Shalalanovala) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

@beyond, It wasn’t my intent nor did I attempt to make you feel insecure. I can already tell you’re an angry soul, an angry, grotesquely misinformed/ignorant one at that. Just because you are or anyone is comfortable with something doesn’t mean said thing is healthy whatsoever or even more inclined to be. Issues with pornography and masturbation are not necessarily indicative of insecurity issues. Are you seriously arguing that computer pornography is normal? My uncle used to smoke every day cigarettes for almost forty years and [literally] one day he just decided to quit and hasn’t smoke since. That doesn’t mean that cigarettes weren’t bad for him, his body, just because he had control over them and didn’t smoke them in extreme excess.

…But it’s quite clear that you while you may have read what I wrote, you haven’t even begun to explore much less entertain the idea that things aren’t Exactly how you perceive them to be and talking to you is a waste of time because you’re too closed minded as you’re ignoring the wealth of research on this and you’re hell bent that you’re right and everyone else is wrong and you being better for it and the majority less than. Meanwhile you start a thread saying video games don’t make people violent and you link a testimonial, not any kind of study of research, as proof? I feel bad for you, really.

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Christian (1) (@ccapocci) 7 years, 3 months ago ago

Im down for this

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