No Porn: No Masturbation: 30 Days

 Stony Island (@emjay)8 years, 9 months ago

I’m signing up. I’ve been reading some articles on that YourBrainOnPorn site.

I do it like twice a week. But I do it like 3 times in a row. So I guess thats 6 times a week. Shit.
Folks, Tomorrow will be my first day! And I will use this post to update the status daily. Feel free to comment….
And feel free to sign up with me!

Gotta start tomorrow cuz it’s too late today ; ).

edit by Filip: check http://www.yourbrainonporn.com for useful information about this subject

Check out our blog post about this subject: https://www.highexistence.com/how-porn-rewires-the-brain-is-porn-bad-for-you/

February 14, 2012 at 4:27 pm
stoker92 (7) (@Brennan-Avans) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

just watched the TED talks on that website i just had to join and say iam with you budys starting today. guess ill be going to bed with mittens, goodluck everyone! oh and what happens on day 30? do we get a shirt or something

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Ryan (30) (@ryanj) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

I managed to go all summer and most of September, but with my girlfriend off to school its been a lot harder. Every time I get the urge I first force myself to come on here and read through these posts, its really effective and gets easier every time.

@garreto, I slipped just last week and I didn’t feel guilty about it either. I think its because I know that I can go for so long without it, and I’m confident that I won’t relapse (I feel like I sound as though I was a drug addict). But then again I didn’t finish any homework and was exhausted the next day. Just proved to me again that its not a healthy habit.

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Anonymous (21) (@) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

@ryanj, I guess the feeling is that of an addiction, at least thats how I used to feel man, like being helpless about it, now I am also confident I will not relapse. I don’t feel a need for it anymore, this feeling of soberness, of wholesomeness is too good to let go for something so silly as masturbation. I look back and see that I used to be afraid that not thinking about sex, or going without sexual pleasure would make me less masculine, now I see I was so wrong. When it happened the very act seemed pointless, after I was done I was like: did I seriously spent countless days doing this on and on? This almost 50 days since I started have been some very special days for me. I used to always sleepy and drowsy and tired and used to sleep every afternoon, now I don’t feel like it at all. It feels like being unchained.

Keep strong man, lets laugh about how we used to abuse ourselves one year from now.

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Geronimo (10) (@Alan-Watthefucks) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

@garreto I have not yet completed this challenge, this really is like a drug addiction. Maybe it is because I am a young male, but it always boils down to about 1 or 2 weeks and I find myself hard as a rock and my imagination on overdrive. Then i start humping my bed lmaoo. It feels so good I actually end up not caring about the challenge. Happens everytime.

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Who, me? (1) (@whome) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

@garreto, I see that we come to the challenge from very different viewpoints. The main reason I signed up was to get in touch with my sexuality, not to let go of it. Therefore your words against fantasizing and edging sound quite strange to me.

In fact, masturbation was for me a way to suppress my sexuality, with the intent of keeping my libido at bay, so that I would have less sexual thoughts (reminding of my loneliness) during the day. And also to keep myself “at least partially satisfied”, as I would tell myself, as a substitute for sex. I lost my virginity 12 years ago and haven’t had sex since. Long story short: I have been too scared to live my life. Lots of self-hate. Just recently I have come to realize that I must accept myself for who I am, and I do not need to be “someone else” as I used to think.

So, I took up the challenge to get to know myself, to get to know my sexuality, to see what a little testosterone would do to my body and mind. The alpha male side of me is just as weak (practically non-existent) as I have always thought, but at least it is nice to be in touch with that little bit :-)

I think that fantasies merge two of the most beautiful aspects of the human character: imagination and sexual energy. I find it very unnatural that you want to deny fantasies. Ok, I get your point, objectification of people is “bad”. But there are two sides to everything. People ARE both subjects and objects — are we not made of flesh and blood? And as with everything, moderation is key, we need to balance both sides. It is healthy and natural to lust for another person, and fantasies and objectification is a manifestation of this. Meanwhile, it is also healthy to communicate and interact, to get to know someone’s personality. I do not think we should deny either side, but instead find balance.

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Anonymous (21) (@) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

@whome Actually me too, I want to get in touch with mine also because it was summing up to porn and masturbation. I’m letting go of it momentarily, just in order to find balance by living in the opposite direction for a while. Because all that I really knew was this.. so this is kind of something new I am discovering.

I used it as a means of satisfying something I was not getting: sex, relationship, intimacy, satisfying my curiosity. It became obsessive overtime almost to the point of making me lose interest for the real thing, I also became oversexed, everything was about sex, girls=sex, going out=sex, doing anything=sex. That was not healthy, and that’s what I am letting go of. I’m not speaking against desire and imagining things with a girl. What I was speaking against was when fantasizing becomes all that you do. You see a girl and instead of talking to her or trying to get to meet her, you go home to imagine her naked and masturbate some more. That I don’t think healthy, and I spoke against it because that can be troubling when trying to stop since it is gong to make you lust. I remember having a boner all say long for over fantasizing and how I could not focus on anything else. Like being in school and not being able get whatever that teacher is talking about because you’re trying to guess the shaving design of the girl two lines ahead, that girl you totally dig and that went to school with for some 10 years and you never spoke to past hi and bye. It gets in the way of your relationships, girls shun you because they perceive that you’re always checking them out, that you cannot have a conversation without trying to look at their cleavage, that you look like a dog on heat, they don’t wanna be around you and they never accept your invitations to anything because they think you’re going to try something funny, and you cannot help yourself because you programmed your brain to behave like that and you make positive reinforcement on that behavior daily. Imagine a girl checking your junk while having a not sex-related conversation, wouldn’t it be unconfortable?

Like you I had my first time a good while ago and never had that kind of intimacy again, and now I see that this mindset I had played a big role in it.

You nailed it in you last paragraph, balance. So it is not that I want to deny it, only the obsessive unhealthy part of it that cut the interaction and would go for indulgence. So what I mean is, we are flesh and blood, but there’s more to a woman than her cleavage. I ended up missing the smiles, the looks, all the subtleness of the “game” in other to obsess about boob/butt/p*ssy, that porn stuff, you end up behaving like guys do in porn and I am kind of positive no one likes that. A girl came up to me once too porn-style and I did not enjoy, it did not get me aroused at all. No wonder most girls don’t like it either when guys try these moves.

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TheSkaFish (962)M (@theskafish) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

I think @garreto, is on to something here. The way to get rid of the habit is to let go of it completely. That includes edging and fantasizing as well. Otherwise, you are only increasing your chances of falling off the wagon. I’ve found that a lot of times I was able to eliminate the habit for a while, sometimes for months….but then for some reason a thought loop about it will come up, and before I know it I fell off the wagon again. And then afterwards I feel like an idiot, realizing that the only reason I caved was because I talked myself into it.

I think you need to go for a long time without seeing or even thinking anything sexual, in order to reset yourself. You need to give yourself the proper amount of time for your thoughts to go back to how they were before. You can’t take shortcuts or try to short-change the process with edging or fantasizing, you need to remove all associations with it if you want to move on for good.

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Anonymous (0) (@) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

@garreto, Starting back at day 2, I wasnt very committed to stopping last time. But now I’d like to see how long I can go

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Q (94) (@Qualohuasca) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

Day 18 already. Huh. Weirdly enough it does seem like quitting any addiction. There are withdrawals in the form of obsessive thoughts and so on. It hasn’t really gotten that much easier from day one (it actually feels like it may be harder, but I’m not quite sure). It’ll be interesting to see if there’s any change at all by the end of the month.

I read this article about a study (as opposed to reading the study, damn me) which concluded that males who masturbate three times a week are less prone for prostate cancer. I don’t think I’ll be quitting completely (some forms of some addictions may be more beneficial than harmful), but I do want to experiment with abstaining for a full month. This thread is full of interesting thoughts and ideas. Who’d have thought!

Has anyone experienced these sorts of negative withdrawals getting worse? As in, fantasizing more often etc.

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Ed (40) (@orange) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

Well guys I feel more fucking awesome the longer I go without. Increased concentration, strength, confidence, endurance and performance. I welcome you to try and live the higher existence! MAN UP!

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Becool (0) (@becool) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

Has anybody else experienced an increase in wet dreams due to no fapping?

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Anonymous (175) (@) 6 years, 10 months ago ago

lulz..

Masturbation is not harmful.

Though I’d say it’s people who are bored who are prone to over-masturbation.

Provided you mix it up with other activities, then I don’t see the issue.

Also, how is porn “bad” for one’s brain? If one sees people have sex in the flesh everyday, is this bad also? Neurologically, there is no difference between the two phenomena.

Any such “study” is promoted by conservative churches to support their morals/biases.

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Taian (0) (@Taian) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

I’ve been trying do it for about a year and haven’t succeded yet. Now that i’ve discovered other people trying to do it i fell revigorated and read to vanguish this trial. Maibe one of the things that made it so hard was the fact that i’ve always been afraid to tell other people that i decided to stop it, whenever you say that people tend to think you’re weird.
Meeting you guys give me strength, thank you all.

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Taian (0) (@Taian) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

I’ve been trying do it for about a year and haven’t succeded yet. Now that i’ve discovered other people trying to do it i fell revigorated and ready to vanguish this trial. Maybe one of the things that made it so hard was the fact that i’ve always been afraid to tell other people that i decided to stop it, whenever you say that people tend to think you’re weird.
Meeting you guys give me strength, thank you all.

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Anonymous (3) (@) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

Good luck guys! :D

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krkrich (148) (@krkrich) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

I broke at like day 26. Probably the most disappointed I’ve ever been in myself. But I will try again.

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jake (0) (@thenoisejammer) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

I’m in.

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Neuron (4) (@SodiumStearate) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

I’m signing up too. I’ve so much to look forward to now. Already feeling alive! Thank you, Filip!

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Vio (0) (@viocartman) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

I’m starting this challenge too, lately i have been depressed and generally in a bad mood. I don’t know how much this has to do with masturbation and porn but i am certain that there are some connections. I hope i make it to all 30 days.

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Karl Borell (23) (@blueseaweedz) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

I’m in!

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Maddy (0) (@maddy) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

around 2 to 3 years back ; i used to do not more than once in 3 weeks. But now have lost ll control and watch porn around 1 hour each day and almost each day I jerk off :((( . I have just feeling frustrated about myself

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Maddy (0) (@maddy) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

Hey… Can you please tell me your daily routine and how you change your mind, when you get horny thoughts

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Hoight (1) (@Hoight) 6 years, 10 months ago ago

You’re wasting your life force by masturbating and ejaclating. I’ve been abstinent for 6 years.

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Hoight (1) (@Hoight) 6 years, 10 months ago ago

“You gotta clean that shit out reguarly” hahaha that is the most retarded thing i ever heard. Ejaclation is obvisouyl the only thing that causes the cancer. Stress, overuse, these are the proven causes of cancer. Get real, mate…

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Maddy (0) (@maddy) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

True .Mr Anonymous, even I wish to take up the challenege

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