[Official]: 30 Days of Facing Your Fears Challenge

 Jordan Lejuwaan (@jordan)8 years, 8 months ago

Rules: Each day you must do one of the following (not all three) :
– Something you fear
– Something you’ve been putting off
– Something you’ve never done before

We’ll use this thread as a record for what you do each day. That will end up serving as a giant repository of options for other people looking for inspiration on what to do each day.

I started doing this 6 days ago and it’s been the most enlivening experiment I’ve ever tried.

Format: Day 1: Put out a call for HighExistence Interns
Of course feel free to share any thoughts about your experience that day

My last 7 days:

Day 1: Something illegal (that wasn’t the goal, I’m just not being specific haha)
Day 2: Interview on live radio
Day 3: 25C-NBOME (new and not well tested designer drug that allowed for insanely vivid past-life regression through eye gazing)
4) Pitched a guest post to TechCrunch.com (huge tech blog) about the futurism of 3-D printing
5) Finished that illegal activity
6) Datura (crazy psychedelic, do your research before touching this one)
7) Put out a request for HE interns

Fears could be anything: public speaking, being completely honest with someone about something, bungie jumping, having a vulnerable conversation, meditating for an exorbitant amount of time, forcing yourself to love people you’ve had trouble loving in the past, etc.

Thanks to @jpete011 for serendipitously posting about this

November 14, 2012 at 6:05 pm
martartar (8) (@martartar) 8 years, 6 months ago ago

@brentman, Hey man, how’s it going so far?

I’m new here on the forum and I have to admit – I was pretty depressed couple of hours ago, when my sister reminded me of HE.
I had a lot of challenges since I moved to Paris three months ago for a student exchange program.. I had to do everything alone. Find my place, meet new people, do a lot of administration, take care of myself and apartment (never lived completely alone before). AND – I had to start speaking french, what was my biggest fear since I started to study it 3 years ago… I even went on a 5 day trip with a group of 9 french that I barely knew, just for challenge (which was great experience btw!). But I guess I just got used to my life here…I stopped feeling like my life is made of challenges, I stopped being excited about everything I see and everyone I meet.. and I just started to feel wrong… I started to be more demanding with people, what led me to my old i’m-too-sensitive-and-depressed-and-fucked-up self… but that’s a long story.

But I came here and realized – I can try to make them up, new challenges, every day. I don’t have to wait the life to bring them to me.. If this started to be my new ”comfort zone”, then I should just step out of it!

Sooo – I’m starting tomorrow. First challenge – Skype with Jordan.
(Skype used to be my 2nd biggest fear, also 3 months ago)
(but not anymore…if I talk to people I know)
(but I don’t know Jordan, so I’m really afraid. again)

P.S. sorry for my English, I never really learned it in school so…

Luigi (1,453) (@luigiblue) 8 years, 6 months ago ago

Love this challenge. I have been reading through this for a few months now but I haven’t contributed until right now.

Few challenges of fear I have chased this month:

1. Plan a trip to Africa to help build homes and experience an under-developed country to the fullest. (That means living in the bush in a hut, no running water, toilets or electricity.) This is fully booked and I leave March 2nd. Very excited and scared.

2. Being a regular at the gym I see a lot of the same people everyday, I noticed that no one ever talks to each other so I took it upon myself to connect with every other regular there. This has actually turned out to be amazing, met some great people with great stories.

3. Approach any girl that makes eye contact with me….not to ask for numbers but to just have a simple conversation and say hello.

brent (446) (@brentman) 8 years, 6 months ago ago

@martartar, it’s going pretty good; a lot more difficult keeping up with the practices than I had imagined!
So far I’ve only tackled a few of the ‘real’ things I’ve set out to do–I gave my first public speech in a very long time today and it went pretty well! I”ll be attending my first Toastmasters meeting next week in my pursuit of facing my public speaking ‘fear.’

As for your nerves skyping with Jordan, I felt the same way as I’m inexperienced with skype and knew that he has accomplished so much and didn’t want it to go ‘bad..’ as if it could.
Jordan is very easy to talk to and was really helpful to me, especially because he was in a very similar situation as me when he was my age. Like I said, you’ll get nothing but great advice and insights in your conversation with him!

@luigiblue, that’s awesome!!!!! I hope to embark on something like that someday…huge props to you for taking the initiative to travel and serve somewhere like that.

Luigi (1,453) (@luigiblue) 8 years, 6 months ago ago

@brentman, Thanks man. Everything in the past year led up to this moment so it felt right to make the decision and go. I wish you all the luck in your challenges as well.

hulklol (352) (@hulklol) 8 years, 6 months ago ago

Well, let’s do this shit.

martartar (8) (@martartar) 8 years, 6 months ago ago

@brentman, you were right Brent, Jordan is great! It was really nice to talk with him. And since then I keep getting signs that I’m on the good way…it’s unbelievable.
I have big big plans for this week :)

Congrats for your public speech!
I imagine it’s hard to do your daily practices, especially to start with all of them at once… I think that ”smile at everyone I see” is already a big start…

@luigiblue, Bon voyage! :)

Jonny (18) (@jonnyiscool) 8 years, 6 months ago ago

Yesterday, I found no one to parkour with, so I went by myself. I finally faced my fears and managed to do a kong over a lunch table! I was so excited, that I tried a different move that came naturally to me over the same table, and it worked as well!

I was so excited that I was able to do these moves, that I tried to do them in succession. I started on tables that were far apart, and then moved onto tables that were spaced right next to each other. When I got that, I decided to go for it. 6 tables in a row. And I managed to make it. Twice.

I will do this again tomorrow, or possibly later today.

Cloud-watcher (12) (@bookheadedcellist) 8 years, 5 months ago ago

Day 1 – sent a honesty letter to a person I was in love with but never dared to say it.
I also finally put up a poster about organising a bookclub at my academy. No one answered still, but at least I did it.

c0ndu17 (14) (@c0ndu17) 8 years, 5 months ago ago

@bookheadedcellist, I hope it goes well! Good luck!

This sounds like a great idea, I am going to join you, technically it started yesterday when I told my best friend I needed space from them. But let’s make that day 1. Tomorrow I am going to speak to her face to face about it, another thing I fear more than anything. But I am not sure I should count it, so I will think something else up for day 2.

mbantani (1) (@mbantani) 8 years, 5 months ago ago

Def. in. Here’s to 30 days to change my entire life around.

Day 1(aka today Feb 12th): Start this challenge. Make a list of things to do.

Cloud-watcher (12) (@bookheadedcellist) 8 years, 5 months ago ago

Day 2 – started yoga class again after a few months’ break!

Cloud-watcher (12) (@bookheadedcellist) 8 years, 5 months ago ago

Day 3 – finally made a 8tracks eclectic-on-your-own dance mix.

cHappiness (351) (@lachychap) 8 years, 5 months ago ago

@jordan, This is an amazing idea! I just spent the past hour or so reading this whole thread and am now extremely inspired. As I’ve been reading I’ve been jotting down things I need to get done and various fears I have to face myself.
I have a decent list built up and cannot wait to start this tomorrow. Will keep checking in here after every few days or so.

Good luck to all!
Go with peace :)

c0ndu17 (14) (@c0ndu17) 8 years, 5 months ago ago

Day 2 fully committed to HE’s self love article. Day 3 finished my Comp Sci project well before the due date and to the best of my ability and I spoke to my friend face to face, awkward day to do it with it being valentines day and all. But it went really well.

Cloud-watcher (12) (@bookheadedcellist) 8 years, 5 months ago ago

Day 4 – didn’t manage to see Munch exhibition because it’s sold out, so didn’t do much actually.
Day 5 – staying awake all night writing, moving towards the goal of finishing my novel.

Anonymous (0) (@) 8 years, 4 months ago ago

wanted to bring this topic back because its just amazing.
Day 1: I will write my 7system goals and take the time to read a book.

Mike (0) (@mikeddesch) 8 years, 3 months ago ago

I am going to start this challenge, but, coming to this page from the original post, it seems like this ‘discussion’ page won’t be very helpful for purposes of the challenge, as it has just been filled with all sorts of random comments and ideas. I do love the original post, though!

Divu (0) (@divu) 8 years, 3 months ago ago

Just joined, from Sydney, Australia. Introduced to this site by a lovely friend from Norway. Today’s overcoming Fear exercise is turning on skype, and have conversations with members of extended family. Something in these sort of conversations get overridden by anger and life being sucked out. So, here goes. Thanks!!
Day still starting here, so will wait for something I have never done before..thinking of lying in bed and reading a novel….that is something which seems anathema to me at the moment.

Ismael Q (0) (@QuantumClocks) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

Oh I’ll totally do it, starting tomorrow, although I wouldn’t know what to do. My fears involve expressing myself and, I don’t know… I don’t even know what my fears are, but I’ll do something tomorrow.

Naïm (2) (@nr.friskin) 8 years ago ago

Really great topic, started right after I finished reading it !
Day 1 : told my dad, sister and best friend I loved them (for some reason it was a big deal for me)

Sachin P. (3) (@smpkri) 7 years, 11 months ago ago

I know that I need to take this challenge but that’s what I have been putting off. I am in for this from now on.

giovkast (1) (@giovkast) 7 years, 10 months ago ago

Today starting this challenge, this is btw the first one, I never have joined a online conversation before.

Incredibly motivated to do this challenge, especially the days I’m confronting my fears. I already feel the fear coursing through my body

Sachin P. (3) (@smpkri) 7 years, 10 months ago ago

After taking up this challenge, there have been major changes in my behaviour and life. There is now a greater confidence about my abilities as well. I was postponing certain things and procrastinating a lot before. It has started vanishing. I am more proactive now.
Major changes which I have brought about in my regular schedule is that I have started to get up pretty early in the morning 5:00 am, doing Yoga, getting more focussed on work, staying off from the unwanted load of information. ( I have stopped being active on facebook. :-)) I am seeing a change from inside out. That’s all within 15 days of it. Thanks @jordan for starting this wonderful thread.

Sarah (0) (@blueiii) 7 years, 10 months ago ago

@jordan, Today I made my own organic almond milk and almond butter. I almost burned up my food processor on the latter, but it all turned out okay. I feel very organic. :)

Illusion (1) (@Illusion) 7 years, 9 months ago ago

Sorry, English isn’t my first language.
Living in Thailand for 16 days now. I’m free from my season depression (October til April in Sweden). What a relief.
So up for this challenges.

In Thailand I have tried to eat the same food as the Thai people do. I am pretty tired of rice soup and rice/chicken/egg. We eat that almost everyday here.
Then my friend here wanna be nice and bought some Skippy (peanut butter?) and bread. Another thing I cant really eat, but I at least try it til the jar is empty.
So the Thai food and Skippy will be a challenge for me.

So isn’t that a challenge for anyone more than me in here ?
To never choose food for like say a month (for me 42 days). You must find someone else who decide for you and as it is for me, a person who do not know you.
Or ask a random person what they will have for lunch that day and cook the same.

Then when I come home I rather call my doctor again and hopefully get some sun therapy or what ever, because I wanna be able to think and not be in a lot of pain from October til April. But last time the doctor say there wasn’t a cure for my health problems.

My best challenge til today was when I lived 1 week as a homeless in French (September is beginning to get cold there). First days was the worst, then I as always felt free. It wasn’t meant to be that way. Long story.

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