I experience crying as something very special – hard to describe really. Crying to me is about as pure as a form of expression gets. The other day I wondered about the last time I cried. I can’t remember… it may have been a couple of months back when I watched How to train your Dragon for the first time. I now feel a bit upset about not having cried in such a long while. Simply because crying has me feel alive in a way and as though I’m well in touch with myself.
What’s your story?
I don’t cry very often at all. It is a very vulnerable state to be in, so if I don’t feel comfortable crying wherever I’m about to cry, I try to hold it in which sucks because people usually notice anyway and it doesn’t make you feel better. I love crying when I’m stressed, though, if I can just break through my body’s subconsious block on crying to do it, because its cleansing. The most often I’ve cried in a long time was this past summer, which was very stressful, but I was around people I trusted who didn’t make fun of me/think me weak for breaking. I think it helped me address some deeper issues I had because I wasn’t afraid of how I would react.
There is a huge difference between crying over a movie or tv show and crying over yourself, something happening to you. I think it is nice to cry to tv or movie as an emotional connection, it shows yourself you are not desensitised, which is always a danger to all of us these days. However, if you are lucky enough to avoid crying over your own situations then I’d leave well enough alone.
I’ve always associated the act of crying as a sort of internal cleansing, since I’d more often than not cry due to stress, anger or “spiritually intense” situations, but rarely due to sadness because I grew out of that. that’s not to say that sometimes I won’t be hearing someone’s story and totally lose it due to me emulating their sorrow, especially if they are being relatively stoic or guarded while doing so. anyways, for me the act of crying is as close to a spiritual washing as we get to experience in our lives; I mean when else do we just express our feelings as purely as then?
I agree Blanket. I think crying has received more of a bad rap than is warranted. I used to be ashamed of crying. Granted, I cried more than was needed and now cry only occasionally, but this can come from a built-up of emotions, and even from pure joy. It is something so very pure and neither good or bad. Crying should never be held in. If we hold it in, we are fighting against ourselves. Look at the situation head-on, respond to it how you feel compelled to respond to it, and move on. Never fight what is.
How to Train Your Dragon is a great movie :) I cry every time.
The majority of movies make me cry. However, I’m just very sensitive in general. If animals in movies are harmed, I have to cover my ears and close my eyes to avoid sobbing for ten minutes. To most people that I’m aware of, that’s pretty unnecessary.
Little and big issues cause me to cry, but I don’t see that as a bad thing at all (unless you’re in public, then its kinda embarrassing). You should listen to your body and let it out when it tells you to. If you have to use the restroom, you don’t ignore it do you? So you shouldn’t ignore your body’s need to let loose. Go to a trusted friend, hide in the bathroom, whatever it takes.
I haven’t cried in quite some time; for me crying was something that I did as a kid when I got seriously injured and I grew out of that. Other than that the only time I really cried was when my ex and I were breaking up because I knew I was losing something very important to me; that too, I have grown out of. However, I do hope to someday cry out of joy.
I agree, even coming from a guy, whenever I cry, I feel renewed. I get a sense of self realization. Recently I watched a HBO documentary titled “How to Die in Oregon” in which a few participants of the Death with Dignity act are documented until their self choose death. I think it was a great movie to cry over because the fact that we should live life to the fullest because today may be our last day was reinforced
i like that. crying is maybe the purest form of expression, we’ve been doing it since our first moments on this planet.
i cry everyday. i dont ask questions, when i feel i want to cry i simply do. it feels incredible, like a bath. i feel stronger, yet more tender at the same time. its almost like an apology if its severe enough.
I generally don’t cry over being upset over personal matters, but movies/Tv shows to get to me. Its tears of joy or something really powerful and moving that will get me all teary eyed and I usually laugh afterwards for crying.