If you guys only had one piece of advice that you could pass onto a loved one (let’s say someone younger than you) before you passed, what would you tell them? In other words, what do you think is the most important thing to understand in order to lead a fulfilling life?
My one piece of advice would be PERSPECTIVE. I would tell them first that the world we experience is a reflection of our internal disposition. That is to say, the world reflects back the same energy with which we meet it. With that being said, the only thing we have complete control over is ourselves. However, when frustrations manifest themselves, we will make the mistake of thinking that our problems are part of the outside world, when in reality, the issues we have are internal. Never forget this. This is where PERSPECTIVE comes into play. Our perspective directly influences how we feel about the world and how we interact with the it. This is simple to explain. Ask a child whether he/she would be happy if there was a foot of snow and school was cancelled a day they were to have an exam. My guess is that the child would be elated to have that foot of snow. Now ask that same child if he/she would be happy if there was a foot of snow which prevented him/her from leaving their house to go meet a friend to play. It’s a safe bet that the same child, in this particular context, would be infuriated with the foot of snow. The external circumstances were completely equal between these two situations. It was one foot of snow. The PERSPECTIVE that the child had decided how he/she felt about the snow itself. It was either a gift (no school) or a curse (no playing with friends). If I only had one piece of advice to pass onto a younger person, I would tell them how a proper understanding of PERSPECTIVE can help them shape the kind of life they desire.
My one piece of advice would be: there are no experts. There are no experts, just people who, exactly like you, are winging it. The people who you look at as experts, who seem to know everything about a certain subject or have mastered a certain art, are all just people who have been winging it for longer than you have. Consider this and realize what it means for a moment. With this knowledge, there need never be a fear of trying anything new. You want to play music but don’t know how? Neither did anyone else before they picked up an instrument and started messing around on it. There is never any reason to be embarrassed about trying something new.
Thats actually very nice advise, I guess I’d say something just like that :)
I definitely agree that there is no reason to feel embarrassed or inhibited to try something new. And I think you offer a great perspective that everyone who has excelled at a particular thing was once a novice. However, I wouldn’t go far as to say they are still ‘winging’ it. There is no doubt that the more time and energy an individual devotes to a particular practice, the ‘better’ they become at that particular thing. I don’t think you can justly say that they are ‘winging’ it.
Everybody’s winging everything, comparison makes no sense! :P
I would say to ask no one for advice, trust no dogma