First off, if you are the kind of person who does not get angry, or only gets angry at truly major things, then this post won\’t be of much use to you. Way to not let anger dominate your life, and keep it up.
However, if you\’re like the rest of us, then I’d like to share a tidbit that I hope will help you out. I\’m talking here about petty anger, about getting angry at things that in the greater scheme of things, are really not that bad. Minor annoyances that add up to make you crazy. Or the many things, especially in capitalism, that can really piss us off. There\’s no point in denying that the capitalistic system is very aggravating for most, all of the lies, misdirection, cheating, stealing, and below-the-belt tactics that the people we are supposed to respect regularly employ and conduct right out in the open because they know they are untouchable.
A couple days ago I had to pay a (relatively) large bill, and I was angry because I felt that it was another dirty elitist tactic, I felt that I was being kicked when I was down FOR being down. I had known about it for a long while, and my anger and resentment towards it just built up more and more like rolling a snowball until it becomes a boulder. Finally the day came to pay it and I had by this point become violently angry. I fumed all day, and was really unpleasant to be around at home. The anger had gotten the best of me.
So here is, what I feel, is the solution. Resolve whatever is annoying you as quickly as possible (the bill, the task, etc) and then go to a place where you can close the door and be alone. Then lay down on the floor and instead of denying it, let yourself be angry. Just let the anger come to the surface and burn itself out. Don’t scream, punch things, or curse, but rather give yourself five minutes to stare at the ceiling and hate the situation, politician, boss, bill, whatever. But no more than five minutes. After you’ve given yourself time to be frustrated, end it right then and there. Breathe out, tell yourself you are done being angry, and get on with your day. Go for a walk, work on homework or a hobby of yours, read a book, whatever. But don’t take your anger with you, because you know it is done. Move on and let yourself be happy again – the thing that pissed you off is now in the past.
There will always be assholes and bullies, people who will do their best to beat everyone down with their greed. But no matter how much they tax or bill you, they don’t and can’t own your life. You don’t get back the time you spent angry, so don’t spend more time than you must thinking about them. And don’t take it out on the people around you. Remember, the bad guys don’t win until you let your anger ruin your whole day, until you let your anger sour your relationships. So in conclusion, just get through the thing that gives you a hard time, and then go forth and be happy!
@alexishungry, thanks man. I figured, might as well learn from it and share what I found out. Sometimes “first world problems” can really get out of hand. I learned the trick is to just go through them fast instead of letting them fester, and this way I can move on faster. I think the best way to “reset” after giving yourself 5 minutes of being mad is to go for a walk. Then you’re A-OK when you get back.
Nice post bro. I remember reading a quote once that said, “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” Or in this case, anger. But at its very core, anger is fear in disguise. That’s why they say there are 2 ways to live – in love or in fear. That’s what every emotion boils down to. One or the other.
But I definitely relate to your post. Thanks for bringing this up. Let it serve as a reminder to all of us.