So about 5-6 months ago I broke up with my girlfriend to pursue a relationship with a girl who, if I had not pursued a relationship with her, would have always been “The one that got away” for me. I had connected to her like nobody I had ever connected to before, and I felt it was my hearts desire to be with her. Well she and i have been together for about 4 and a half months and so far things are going very well. I had dated my ex for 9 months and things went very well for us as well, unfortunately the relationship never started to die between us, rather I stamped it out with my decision to pursue my now current girlfriend. I am happy in my decision and my relationship, but what is haunting me is the fact that I keep have recurring dreams about my ex. Always us doing average day to day things, sometimes as friends, sometimes as lovers again, but it’s always her that is in them. What are your thoughts HE?
A part of you is still connected to your ex. You still have thoughts in your head about your ex, and that is what your subconscious is serving up when you are dreaming. Maybe your ex is the one you really want to be with?
I believe a person can love more than one person. This is based off a theory of echoes I have. All people, who are apart of this “system”, are just echoes or copies of things that work in the system. If you find a particular type of person you like and connect with, odds are you might or will probably find another person that meets those characteristics. You decide which person you want to be with, but will wonder why you chose this person or what things would be like if you would of went after the other one, or in your case stayed with your first girlfriend.
If you want to better understand dreams, take a look at this: https://www.highexistence.com/the-real-meaning-behind-your-dreams/
I dreamed that an 8 year old child tried to kidnap me by take me to a pathway leading downwards between two vast fields of very tall corn stalks (Gmo?) where a throng of them were waiting for me hidden in the shadows but i have realized what was going on by listening to my instinct and escaped by turning around and walking towards a hill. I proceeded to climb up the hill and reached a small stone peak on the top of which there was a wooden igloo-den in which there was a dead zen master, near the igloo-den was a sort of port with a giant flying iron ship which needed to be sent to India but the master died before he could press the button to send the ship so i did and it came back for some vague reason. Afterwards i entered the igloo-den and inside there was this party and i bought purple haze from jimmi hendrix and talked about abstract stuff but everyone was just staring annoyed.
Yes, dreams are refined psychological fractal representation of the whole psyche ; just as urine is a refined bio-chemical fractal representation of the whole body.
@monkeyzazu, I don’t think it’s that, but I do have an idea of what I believe it to be. There was a lot of history with my current girlfriend before I started dating my now current ex, and I never had a chance with my current girlfriend the 1st time around, we were just friends, but best friends. And in order to be with my now current gf, I needed to end things with my ex. But the thing is, it was very very abrupt. It’s like the fire didn’t dwindle down and eventually burn out, rather I stomped it out suddenly and unexpectedly. My subconscious never really got time to adjust because it was all such a fast process, and I still feel very very bad for hurting my ex the way I did, because frankly, I hate hurting ANYBODY, let alone someone who I was so close with. So I feel as if that is the cause to her frequent appearance in my dreams.
Yea, I think you got it. Those emotions you described are lingering in your subconscious still. I have heard that when we dream, its kind of like self theorapy. You dream up emotions, ideas, feelings that are still in your head and they become visible in your dreams. So your dreams are telling you whats bothering you.
Now its up to you to fix them or try to accept them or something along those lines. Obviously the way things ended with your ex still aren’t sitting right with you. I think, and this is just my opinion, you should tell your ex what you expressed here. Be very sincere when you tell her. Try to end it better this time. Let her know that you didn’t want to hurt her and that you regret the way things ended.
Maybe that will give you peace of mind.
I have the same problem me and my boyfriend broke up almost two years now and I’m still dreaming about him on a daily basis tbh I just had a dream about him last night. I don’t fully understand why but I do know I’m still in love with him unfortunately but that still doesn’t explain all of these dreams I keep having that feels so real that I wish was true.