LouDog (@LouDog) 8 years, 2 months ago

I know everyone gets rejected at some point in time. The most beautiful, the most intelligent, the most ambitious…everyone. Even though it’s guaranteed to happen sooner or later, it never gets easier…or does it?

I met this girl at a party last week, and as gorgeous as she was, relates to how drunk, horny, and vulnerable she was. We had a fun time, joking around, drinking together, and a little bit of show and tell. I was by no means sober, in any sense of the word, but I kept my wits and knew that I had resist my urge to taker her right there at the party. She seemed to be happy that I didn’t “try” anything, when she was the one trying all night.

I met her for a date last night, figuring we’d have a better time if we were both sober. I was wrong. The conversation felt forced, and although we both had somewhat of an attractiveness to each other (at least I did to her), it just didn’t seem like there was anything there. So why was I so upset when she turned me down at the end of the night? I knew all I was looking for was some physical play, considering we’d already started to at the party. I also knew I had no real interest in this girl, and was just about the physical aspect.

So why did it feel so shitty when I went in to kiss her, just for her to turn her head? I didn’t have much invested (aside from the expensive dinner, which she didn’t even thank me for), but I felt like “I should be turning her down”. My ride home was an intense mix of being angry, sorrowful, relieved in a way, and just trying to see what I was feeling instead of running away from it.

Let’s talk about rejection.

November 11, 2013 at 1:05 pm
Obviously, you’re not a golfer (605) (@donjaime23) 8 years, 2 months ago ago

Getting rejected kicks your ego in the balls. It takes a toll on your self-esteem, self-worth, and makes you feel inadequate as a member of the human relationship network.

So you got rejected. Now what? You’ve got two options:

1. Completely blow the situation out of proportion, catastrophize your feelings, and slip into a state of depression that involves a lot of shopping at Hot Topic.

2. Wallow in self-pity for a bit, find your balls, realize f*ck that ho, get up, dust yourself off, get back in the game.

Bianca A (101) (@biancavila) 8 years, 2 months ago ago

I think rejection hurts when we take it personally, as if the rejection was a reflection upon ourselves. Instead of viewing the rejection as something that has risen as a result of past events (our own and the other person’s, societal pressures and stereotypes… pretty much anything and everything that has any type of influence over anything), sometimes we look at rejection as the effect of our failure, which isn’t true. There is no such thing as failure, just a matter of circumstances.

Because what is isn’t always what it seems to be.

Viewing 1 reply thread
load more