Should we seek out people even if they aren't mostly excited to see us?

Tobias Valdemar Broe Knudsen (@2bias) 9 years, 2 months ago

Sometimes when i’m about to start a chat with a friend on fb or send someone a text I stop to ponder. Will this conversation even be worth it? Does the other person even want to talk to me, and if not, then isn’t it just torturing yourself to keep seeking that person out? I sometimes feel like i’m dragging up a convo that the other part doesn’t give a flying fuck about, and it hurts, I know it’s not because the person doesn’t care about me, because it’s different when we meet, but after a while of not meeting, the whole act of “keeping in touch” without actually being close enough to touch each other seems artificial and futile, because sometimes the other party loses interest. Perhaps it’s just a matter of forgetfullness – that we forget what made us excited about someone and put less effort into showing interest for them until we are reminded, by meeting them. Or maybe it’s just that relationships between people change as their lives and perspectives change. A concrete example of my own is a girl I used to have a relationship with, who used to be incredibly sticky, I ended the relationship, in part because of that. But we remained friends. Now I just feel like she doesn’t care when I write (remember this is not a romantic problem) and the same goes for a few other friends, and they are all ones that I rarely see in person. – Is this natural? Should I just refrain from talking to them, or will that just be neglecting a friendship even more?
Give me your brain produce!

April 29, 2013 at 1:49 pm
Bartleby the Scrivener (29) (@unpaid-intern) 9 years, 2 months ago ago

Don’t give up.
“When you fill up your heart is spills outside”
Eventually your ‘love’ (I’m using love as in a love for life) will rub off on them and they will remember why you guys are firends. UNless, your conversations are boring, then you gotta learn to be more exciting :P

Anonymous (2,654) (@) 9 years, 2 months ago ago

Considering people usually make their own excitement and miss mostly the excitement they created together (obviously) I don’t think it matters much. From my experience people usually stay the same they’ve been, but are really interested when someone doesn’t see them in the same light when they start showing appreciation. :) People don’t change that much, but you wouldn’t know it if you never got to know them better. (I censored myself on this post. People staying the same assholes is here between the brackets.)

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