I am in a relationship with a guy and sometimes it gets difficult to be in it, mostly because of his emotional immaturity. We are both 28. Whether we are in an argument or trying to talk deeper about a personal subject matter, I find it difficult to connect with him on a level that I prefer to be on at this point of my life. I’ve dated a lot of men before and this guy I’m with now is the best man I’ve been with in many aspects. I would like to stay with him, mostly because I know that eventually he will grow up and mature in that way. But it does get frustrating and I am not always patient with him.
Any advice on what I can do to learn more patience? Even more — any advice on what I can do to stop being so judgmental and try and allow for his growth? I’ve tried meditating. It helps but not all the time. Would appreciate anything.
@malia, You should check out How to win friends and influence people by dale carnegie. It sounds like everything in the relationship is going well except when you guys have problems talking sometimes. This book teaches how to let go of the need to always be right and I think it will help you two connect more fluidly. Good luck
Not trying to say that you should do any thing rash but … wanting/Knowing someone is gonna change in a relationship can bring a lot of strain in it.
“I would like to stay with him, mostly because I know that eventually he will grow up and mature in that way. But it does get frustrating and I am not always patient with him.”
Seems like a red flag to me, that you might wanna evaluate what you want him to change and more important why you want it to change. Im not saying you have to find someone perfect, but you say it like its gonna happen no matter what which it could be some of the things that hes gonna do for the rest of his life.
For advice you could try lucid dreaming exploring if you haven’t already it helps people find problems they have with them self’s and project on other and put you in a better mood during the day.It also can be a bonding point for couples.
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