This one is mostly aimed at a certain group of people on HE (you know who you are) but it’s a good read for anyone. Alright, let’s get right down to business!!
Let’s say you want to eat an orange, but you notice that there’s a peel that has to be removed before you can eat it. So, what do you do? Do you give up all hope of ever eating an orange, without even trying to peel it? Do you start whining about it and let it ruin your mood? Do you go on a forum and ask people how to do it and then get mad at their replies? Do you download 10 ebooks about peeling oranges, or watch videos about it, only to never do it anyway?
You wouldn’t? Interesting. Are you saying you would simply attempt to peel the orange anyway? That’s what I thought.
But let’s say you couldn’t find a way to peel the orange, so you ask for advice. Do you think anyone would say:
"Alright, first you have to find the orange, then you pick it up with your hand. Then you put your other hand on the orange (don’t confuse your left hand with your right one) and press the thumb -the short, fat finger that’s separate from the others- into the peel and apply sufficient pressure to puncture the peel. Be careful not to get any juice in your eyes. Now, once your thumb is through you have to hook it and pinch the peel between your index and thumb so you can pull it to the side to tear a strip of the peel off. Then you pinch and tear off strips like this until the peel is gone. See that white stuff, you might want to remove that. Now comes the tricky part. You need to divide the orange into smaller pieces so you can eat it without getting juice all over yourself. If you look closely (watch out for the juice!) you can see the lines where you can divide it. Once you break off a piece using your fingers, just put it down on something clean so you have your hands free to pick the rest apart. Once you’re done, just grab a piece and raise your hand to your mouth. Place the orange piece in your mouth, and chew it. Make sure to remove your hand before chewing, don’t chew your tongue, and don’t inhale the orange or choke on it. Once you’ve turned it into a mush, swallow. Then eat the rest of the pieces the same way. Then you take the peel and throw it in the trash."
And then the other guys reply "My dad told me you have to use a knife." "The guy on tv said I need a specially designed orange peeler." "The government says oranges are dangerous, and here’s some ‘science’ to back it up. You’re wrong, retard." "My grandma says you need a grenade." (people on the internet must have crazy grannies considering all the weird dumb shit they’ve "learned" from them.)
That’s the typical scenario in a nutshell. And really, was any of it needed? Sound advice would be "Just peel the damn orange, just do it!" But wait, if that happened, wouldn’t you just reply defensively with "I can’t" or "I don’t know how"? I bet you would. And then a flurry of excuses and blaming others would ensue.
"No I wouldn’t, I know how to peel oranges, that’s simple." you might say. Well, guess what! You would. Because on all other subjects most of you do this whenever anyone gives you any sound advice. And if you do take the advice, you still don’t take action. You just sit there and think about it, and feel proud about your new ‘knowledge.’
"Yeah, those people are lame. I’m not like that. I’m better than them." Are you? Really? Be honest with yourself. Do you take the good advice people give you? Do you take action right away? Or do you say to yourself "I’ll do it later" and/or overthink it?
You get the knowledge when you take action, not the other way around. It’s like expecting the answers before you have even asked the question, it’s fucking WRONG and -no offense- stupid. The world doesn’t work that way.
Are you offended by this post? Good, you should be. Why are you offended? Because I made you realize you are doing shit wrong and fucking yourself over. You want to ignore the fact that you’re doing this so you can keep going in the same circles, jerking your ego off, but I won’t let you. That’s why you’re offended.
Now take some fucking action and stop overthinking everything. Life is simple, the orange analogy applies to every area of life. If there is a will, there is a way. If there is a why, there is a how. Start living your life for real. The only reason some people are "better off" than you is because they take action while you sit on your ass doing nothing. The world is yours for the taking, so just fucking take it.
"Uuuuh how do I do that?" Fuck off!
Peace //Elion, a dude who takes action
makes sense to me – seems like common sense as well – i agree that people just need to do and not try to get out of stuff and feel emotional, i think thats the main point i agree with – people use everything as a cop out to just putting one foot in front of the other and getting sht done – and we all know what it takes usually, we dont even need advice, we just need to man up and do it
but i agree i get frustrated by people who act this way – then i come off as mean or harsh to them bc i give them objective ways to improve their situation while everyone else hugs them and tells them things will work out.
@passenger, Ööhhmm jassåru, but…
There’s a huge difference between thinking and overthinking. And an equally huge difference between thinking about things that are worth thinking about, and thinking about things that are pointless to think about.
And welcome to the circus btw.
I often find myself struggling from thinking too much as well, and this definitely applies.
The best advice I’ve gotten about this is that you should “Make a decision, then make it right” instead of looking for the best course of action in the beginning. By searching to find the perfect solution, you’ll just waste your time because there is no perfect solution. But, you can make ANY decision and then tweak it to make it the right one.
I even go into detail on this motto in one of my blog posts: http://www.maxnachamkin.com/2012/08/05/the-best-advice-ive-gotten-from-a-ceo/
But I really like the orange peel analogy. I’m going to start telling people that as an example if you don’t mind ;)
@healingchime, it´s what keeps our mind in motion, no?
@manimal, i just think, that this is a forum where most people don´t seek solutions for their problems (which by the way one might think with oh so many “how to be happy in 10 easy steps” – threads/topics/blogs) but rather for some interesting intellectual input.
But I see your point. like with so many things it´s important to find the ballance, aristoteles´s middle path, stay away from the extremes. And if your statement helped one person here to find some bliss (which it surely did!), it was/is a wise and important statement!
“The only reason some people are “better off” than you is because they take action while you sit on your ass doing nothing”
How do you figure? People (like myself) who have worked job after job (multiple jobs at any given time) are still digging in the couch to find change in order to get enough change to get the 75cent snack out of the vending machine for dinner. Without money, people can’t go to school, without a college education, people cannot advance in certain careers. Catch my drift?
Don’t get me wrong, I like the post, it’s wicked – just curious about that last bit.