Hey guys, okay first off i’m not looking for sympathy, i mean shit happens and i’m trying to look at as many positives and potential lessons.
Last night I broke my ankle whilst coming home from a beach slightly tipsy with a few friends. We found a trampoline on the beach and were jumping around on it when I was caught on my friends off bounce, usually when this happens your knees just buckle, but somehow i took the full blow with my ankle and it dislocated, anyway i’ll spare you the details but I have to have surgery at some point in the next few days.
I was just looking for some advice as to how to deal with the fact that i’m probably going to be incapable of doing a lot of everyday things easily for the next few months and also the fact that i’m currently studying abroad and only have until the middle of July before I have to go back to England.
I have amazing flatmates who have looked after me so far but I don’t want to bother them too much on the last leg of their study abroad too and also I enjoy my independence.
If anyone has been through a similar situation any advice would be awesome.
I’ve been there Jake. You’ll be surprised how fast the time goes and you soon won’t need them any more.
Try to find activities you can do with your friends that aren’t physical, going out to eat, to the movies…listening to music, playing video games. You of course have your studying to keep you busy as well.
You’ll look back on this time a few years down the road as an interesting period in your life. Every time we are forced to see the world from a different perspective, it can be invigorating.
Think about people who are in a situation like yours for the rest of their life when you are hobbling about (older people who must use walkers, or move very slowly, people in wheelchairs…) This may give you inspiration for how to help them, social reforms, business ideas…
Surgery is over now and wasn’t so bad, so i’m on the road to recovery now. I have found plenty of things to do since the injury, there has pretty much been no time in which I have felt lonely, which makes me feel very lucky.
The situation has definitely forced me to see life from a different perspective, especially in regards to disabilities.
Thanks for the support.
first of all, cool name :) i hope your surgery went well dude!! and you are recovering sweet
i had a similar experience when i broke my wrist. one night i was playing indoor soccer and leading up to me falling on it and breaking it into what looked like a dinner fork i was negative through out the whole day, so basically i attracted it. But anyway i went to the hospital that night and waited for an hour then got moved to another hospital and waited another day to get it realigned. After this was all done i came home and felt a little incapable because i had a rock on my wrist and then i started to worry about everything and started to develop a slight OCD thing where i was just being stupid and had to touch everything like twice and shit and was afraid of germs, then i became slightly depressed. after 6 weeks i got my cast off and i was enjoying everything after that! my whole perspective on life changed and i learnt to be grateful for everything in my life and live every day truly, not to be on auto pilot. Everything seemed awesome and i was happy. SO enjoy everything every day! like ray said sometimes you just need to see something from a different perspective to truly appreciate the beauty! so don’t be on auto pilot and start truly living!!!!
It’s not really a big deal though, is it? It’s a temporary handicap and it isn’t a huge one these days.
After a week or so you probably won’t even think about it.
Sure, you can’t run and stuff like that… but do you have to? Seriously?
There’s always stuff to do, don’t worry.
I’ve had a bunch of injuries, it’s not a big deal, you’ll find other stuff to do and you’ll recover. 6 months seems like a long-ass time when you anticipate it, but when you’re in it it’s so fast.
Yeah i’m lucky to still have everything else in shape and nothing more permanent, it was just the shock of having everything fine one minute to being unable to walk for a few months. I guess i was most scared about surgery but now that’s over it’s a smooth(ish) road to recovery with a lot of insights on the way
We learn from our mistakes, if you don’t get injured you probably never lived, as they say. It builds character, teaches us to appreciate what we have, makes us stronger.
A lot of people find ways to do what they usually do, despite their crippling condition, and that’s really amazing. Puts a person’s creativity and determination to the test, and that’s generally always a good thing.