Do any of you ever feel like your a lipstick lesbian trapped in a man’s body?
You are such a G for this man!!
Does this make you a real man?
Super relevant given all this feminism talk lately.
Sometimes I feel like I am super super feminine. Like I think I love being a chick. or I would love to be a chick. I’m not one atm. Lol.
“Do any of you ever feel like your a lipstick lesbian trapped in a man’s body?”
Yes, that explains everything.
This is legit. I like to believe I’m in touch with my femininity with an awkward grimace like the one I’m making right now.
Haha don’t even watch.. My heart is racing like a snowball turning into an avalanche just writing this stuff.
Did you watch that Emma Watson speech??
Do you see why I made a parallel to that?
I think this is the root of feminism. At least how she explains it.
I think feminism is only gonna be cured through males.
Having said that, IN MY WORLD, feminism can only be cured, by me accepting the chick in me, and not giving a flying fook about what the rest of the mundo thinks about it.
(I hope you can vibe with this expression of my personal subjective universe)
Yes, I’ve watched it and it made a great impression on me. Femininity itself is confused to be a weakness or fragility? I certainly don’t think so when it’s one of the most disarming features in human beings, especially if used well. It can trick you, seduce you, overpower you and if anything, it’s what makes a man weak. :) This doesn’t mean that it should be abused, of course, the person behind it should be capable of projecting it with love instead of manipulation.
Did you know that Nikola Tesla believed in something that a lot of people deemed him insane for? I’ll copy/paste his actual quote.
“But the female mind has demonstrated a capacity for all the mental acquirements and achievements of men. As generations ensue that capacity will be expanded; the average woman will be as well educated as the average man, and then better educated, for the dormant faculties of her brain will be stimulated to an activity that will be all the more intense and powerful because of centuries of repose. Woman will ignore precedent and startle civilization with their progress.”
wow that’s super cool. the article.
It makes me a little scared that thing about women being dominant, cos surely everything is mostly about balance?
It’s a bit sort of.. childish of us to just go around knocking each other off the number one spot just to then have some kind of dominant submissive malarchy going on.
I dunno, that’s my own personal view.
I guess, and actually I’m pretty sure I know, the majority of people REALLY are not on that kind of level where they could start thinking about balance. you only have to read what some people write on here, let alone some of the more down to earth forums there are out there.
Yeah. Women are powerful.
I like the ideas that a more feminine society will bring about, I just reckon that with an excess of anything, there will surely be things that won’t be so great about it.
Or maybe I’m just scared cos I’m a male and I like to be dominant.. But I don’t know that I do really.
I’m a delicate mix.
I don’t think all women will do that. More women like to be the traditional feminine role than they really admit. And I think it would make the world a much better place. Plus there just aren’t a lot of very manly men. But everyone should do what they want. I don’t think it should be the same everywhere, but people shouldn’t deny their natural design. Unless they really really want to.
actually the worst thing though is seeing how women manage to be in that role while being the dominant one
I reckon the world’s pretty balanced as it is. I’ve seen a lot of women in dominant relationships with their partners.
Having said that though, when that kinda behaviour gets entrenched the dominant person then just tends to run their mouth from their position and talk POO POO, and the wiser one who ends up staying quieter watches from the outside, not often giving their perspective, but when they do, the one who is more in control of the conversation then has the real diamonds, and everyone knows it.
I think generally the quieter people are the leaders, and ultimately that’s where I think dominance lies. It’s not in making the cheap decisions like what we are going to eat tonight, but when it comes down to things of more substance like whether you are going to kill your beloved chickens or not, the calmer one will be listened to.
I’m really just blabbering here.
I don’t really see what you think a manly man is though, because it manifests in so many different ways..
You can be traditional, and be a long haired, cowboy dude, who likes to shoot guns on the weekend and drinks liquor.
You can be someone overtly secure in his own personal opinions and very outspoken, seem to have a very concrete base from where they express themselves..
You can be a manly man in the way that you are actually wise, considered, calculated and gentle.
Which one is a manly man??
the BDSM scene is really interesting to watch.. There’s a whole culture of categorizing people into dominant or submissive roles..
When you add rope, weapons and consensual violence into it, it all gets a little crazy.
It’s like.. What part of dominant means you have to be violent, controlling and forceful?
It’s funny. I think submissive people are really the dominant ones.
Supposedly the person who is on the bottom during sex is the one who is absorbing all the energy.
The one on top is the one expending.
So in reality the dominant one is getting weaker and the submissive is recharging and getting stronger.
What does this say about dominance and submission??
Who’s really winning?? Like which one is better.
I would look at submission as being weak.. I don’t think it is.
I think it’s a lot harder to be submissive.
It’s a lot easier to talk loud and without consideration than it is to listen to others run their mouths spewing off a whole load of shit lol.
Without then feeling to backhand them!!!
I would love to get into a submissive person’s mind sometimes.
I probably am one though. I don’t talk much and prefer to listen. It doesn’t at all mean that I’m not ready to get out my chair and tell that person talking shit exactly how I think.
If they’ll only shut up for a little while and listen lol.
from this perspective, all these websites (forums) are just places for people of all types (dominant/submissive/switch) to express themselves, because everyone’s forced to listen.
If you want to respond, you have to read every word. You can’t interrupt and you can’t tune out.
Yeah you can misunderstand, or see what you want to see, but you cannot write louder than I can.
Everyone feels that duality between man and woman and I can’t say there is just one true expression of it called dominance and submission. I think of submission as being softer rather than hard and bending to their agenda, but often a man’s agenda is for a woman’s benefit so you could call it dominance as well. If a woman is being aggressive, a “manly” man’s aggression would be in such a way that allowed the women to trust and be softer. But a really polarized male would be aggressive in such a way to make you not trust them or want to be their woman. So it’s not so simple and polarized like that. I don’t want people to cling to a set of qualities but just to really embrace what they are sexually. I think everyone craves that relationship which fulfills them in mind body and spirit. But if it’s going to be a duality that finds union people need to be more specialized then I think they are currently encouraged. I’m speaking about having a life partner though, not just exploring your sexuality.
What are people sexually though?
BeyondEarth sent me a sick quote yesterday, I’m gonna paste it.
“Males and females differ in terms of how much they vary from other members of their own sex.”
Glenn Geher, Ph.D.
From my own observations, that’s how I feel about my sexuality. Like, it’s not really a thing. Like I may be physically a dude with a dick, but at the same time I am just as much a female.. If I was to have a female body instead, you wouldn’t know I was a guy.
I’m so shocked to hear about how much girls masturbate lol and how they watch porn, I totally thought that was a male thing, like an overload of testosterone.. It’s not though.
I’m really starting to lose any sense of us being different at all, just maybe different in terms of how we came out physically.
Like me, I’m certain there are some hench ass girls who could fuck me up, which means like what actual difference is there between us…????
All a chick needs to do is put a strap on on and then she can fuck like a dude too….
I don’t see how we’re different.
In any way.
Apart from how we’ve been treated and conditioned by what we’ve identified with, so in that case psychologically, and then lastly just in our sexual organs.
Even then though, a clitoris is just a tiny penis head, from what I imagine, the orgasms are similar, they are stimulated similarly.. and then us men have a g spot in our asses, the prostate, which you can stimulate with a penis looking thing. So even there, there’s a real lack of difference between us.
I think the difference is women crave motherhood and men crave fatherhood. The feminine nurturing is more of a safe haven whereas the masculine one is more of a challenger of growth. I feel most people are disconnected from those instincts and family life wouldn’t be hell for so many people if they weren’t. However, being disconnected from those roles makes way for something new. So I don’t think it’s wrong, but my tastes are more traditional. Our spirits can navigate many realms but our bodies have significance and their own natural design.
right. that’s very much in line with a book I recently read by Erich Fromm.
He talks about the different natures of love.
Fatherly love and motherly love were in there.
Motherly love being unconditional, all encompassing, loving purely because the child is her child.
Fatherly love being the one who approves and disapproves. The one who gives love when he feels like it’s due, which is obviously based on pretty subjective factors.
So the love is choosy, it’s active in its decision of whether to be given or whether to be withheld.
So in this case, to me, the motherly aspect sounds way more attractive. Like way ‘better’
But why is that.. Because isn’t duality just kinda illusory?
So why does that seem better to me?
I just can’t see what would be ‘good’ about the fatherly aspect of love.
Even you just said it there. The masculine one is a challenger of growth.
That does not sound good.
I think we’re probably quite similar in that we are both more attracted to a motherly idea of love. But that just can’t be healthy. Surely you gotta mix the two.
Surely I gotta realise what is good about a love that is based on good and bad choices.. on right or wrong.
Is it duality versus polarity consciousness type vibe?
Is that like the ultimate manifestation of yin/yang lol??
I think there are many expressions of love and the contrast is what makes people appreciate each other and be in relationship. The ultimate yin/yang balance between two people is where a lot of the affection is created. It’s not like the father doesn’t love unconditionally, but they are more focused on making people competent than making people comfortable.
oh and from what I read.. and have personally only briefly experienced, male anal orgasm is very much different from penile orgasms, both in how you achieve it and also how it feels. something more in line with what I imagine vaginal orgasm to be like..
More multi orgasmic, with no real end, and a much more overall body effect. No ejaculation either. Completely non penile.
Lol. Cherry on top there.
No but seriously.. :)
The only possible difference I could see would be energetically, like yin or yang, which is going to be a totally experiential experience, I couldn’t really speculate on that cos it’s not visible.
Haven’t had enough concentrated tantric/taoism dual cultivation sex to know what a wave of yin energy from a woman feels like.
This isn’t really girly girl but it’s awesome