Shreya Mittal (@shreya) 9 years, 7 months ago

I have always been Fascinated by this “Soulmate” thing they talk about.
Legends concludes various pondering theories about how Soulmates exists or they not!

The criterion’s on which they rely of judging someone to be your soulmate or not are the ones, like some kind of Birth connection or similarity, or that unconditional liking for a person, or sharing of some kind of affinity that normally anyone else with such a relation would not share and others.

Any person with whom you are for a long time, or with whom you would like to build up things well for genuine reasons or for lack of options, Liking is something that would inevitably crop.

I have not been able to convince myself much on this concept and would rather go for that more scientific explanation of matching of frequencies that souls emit which decided compatibility between any two beings..
But if Soulmates exists, how do we decide?

May 6, 2012 at 10:53 pm
Jake (198) (@jesus) 9 years, 7 months ago ago

Hi, if soul mates exist (e.g. the one person on earth you are MOST compatible with) then it is logical to assume that 99.9%+ of the population will never meet their soul mate.

Furthermore, it is impossible to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that the person you are presently with is the best fit for you of the 6b+ people on this planet.

Pessimistic as it sounds, the idea is far too romanticized and is ultimately irrelevant.

Tyler Jones (4) (@tbone) 9 years, 7 months ago ago

I think there are many potential mates.

But soul mates… If someone fits like that then point them in my direction. Thanks

pat (169) (@epath) 9 years, 7 months ago ago

I have friends that I think are soul mates. I don’t believe in The One. Not because I am cynical, but just experience. I would, however, like to believe in it.

Flynnstone (813) (@flynnstone) 9 years, 7 months ago ago

There’s a couple previous discussions on soulmates you might want to check out:

Soul Mates?

there’s a link to the next one in this ^ thread. :)

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Clementine (12) (@clementine) 9 years, 7 months ago ago

I believe that some people are attracted into your life for reasons and in ways in which we cannot understand. However, these come in many forms such as friends, enemies and relationships. For the latter category, I believe there are many people in the world with whom we can spend the rest of our life with and love but there are many factors involved when choosing that one person. It is internal as well as external (i.e. our compatibility with the other persons personality and habits or the age in which society has told us to get married.) Love comes in many forms but I do not believe in have one lifelong soulmate.


It could happen, but the chances are not in our favor.

Hushed (3) (@nicktett) 9 years, 7 months ago ago

I tend to view soul-mates from the bottoms-up perspective instead of the top-down. That is, I think that instead of searching for a soul-mate, I try to build relationships up from a solid basis of friendship, shared interest and common philosophy about life. I think there are a lot of people that can fit this description, and some do more so than others. Some of my past relationships have filled in a few of these, but not all of them – an indication that they are bound to fail (or reshape themselves into a different type of relationship). I think that we create our own love – instead of love ‘finding’ us.

Dreamer (25) (@heartbeat) 9 years, 7 months ago ago

@shreya, There is some psychological connection towards friends and people you attract in your life. If you can call that soulmates, then they do exist, because they cross your path and tell you, teach you and let you grow in a certain direction. If you are talking about counterparts, then I can say I did see it, people that fit together like pieces of one puzzle, people that have similarity and an odd opposite attraction to it, if the one is out of balance in one trait the other compensates that by being out of balance in the other direction in that same trait. Now that can also be a process of living together as a couple, but if soulmates do exist, then there wouldn’t be something like a divorce, unless there are many soulmates.

Alex (551) (@hollowinfinity) 9 years, 7 months ago ago

I don’t believe there is only one person for someone, maybe a best fit at best. I believe in universal love. You can at least learn to love everything and everyone to whichever extent you want.
Brings up another point. If you really hate someone, you really love them. :)

Ellie (1,363)M (@tangledupinplaid21) 9 years, 7 months ago ago

I don’t really believe in this concept, although I have many moments where my boyfriend seems “perfect” for me.
We are all in a constant state of change, never the same from one moment to the next, and CERTAINLY not the same from one year to the next… so to think there’s one person’s constant flux of qualities out there perfectly suited to your constant flux of qualities just doesn’t make much sense to me… I’ve always thought there are probably many many people I would work well with, each for different reasons. If I were to buy into this whole soul mate idea, how could I ever be satisfied? Like Jake said, it’s most likely we’d never actually meet said soul mate, so I’d always wonder if I could be with someone better, and be searching, whether consciously or unconsciously.
Instead I choose to learn as much as I can from my current love, and try to appreciate him to the fullest.

Anonymous (0) (@) 9 years, 7 months ago ago

The concept is based on VERY unrealistic expectations. Anyone have any idea where the concept first started? I’m getting mixed answers on the internet saying Jewish or Eastern religions.

notfound (3) (@msillegality) 9 years, 7 months ago ago

I do believe in soul mates, but because of my personal beliefs. I am a Christian, and I believe that God has that perfect someone planned for you. It’s not so much as a “my soul completes your soul” or anything metaphysical, per say, but I believe that since God has a plan for our lives and He already knows about our whole life, then He has planned the perfect partner for us. That’s my definition of a soul mate.

Otingonciman (24) (@otingocniman) 9 years, 7 months ago ago

I think that the concept of soul-mates is a poor explanation for the react people have when they meet someone who has a compatible MHC (Major histamine complex). Basically due to pheromones (broad explanation), and your bodies biochemistry, two peoples bodies can react in the a way that they feel a “magnetic” connection.There is evidence in numerous species that genes involved in immunity influence mate choice. Factors like body odor may subconsciously favor partners with different immunity alleles, to avoid inbreeding and/or endow offspring with broad resistance to pathogens. Interestingly enough oral contraceptives can change the MHC in a person, and therefore change what attracts them to people. Here is an excerpt below, and if you are interested I would just google it.

It has been proposed that MHC is related to mate choice in some human populations, a theory that has found support by studies by Ober and colleagues in 1997,[9] as well as by Chaix and colleagues in 2008.[10] The phenomena might be mediated by olfaction, as MHC phenotype appears strongly involved in the strength and pleasantness of perceived odour of compounds from sweat. Fatty acid esters—such as methyl undecanoate, methyl decanoate, methyl nonanoate, methyl octanoate and methyl hexanoate—show strong connection to MHC.[11]

1.61803399 (247) (@drunkmonkmeth) 9 years, 7 months ago ago

Just something people came up when expressing feelings they don’t really understand.

Alex (4) (@alexanderl33) 8 years, 8 months ago ago

I absolutely DID NOT believe in the whole “soul mate” or “soul connection” concept UNTIL I had a very strange and profound experience… I won’t go into detail, but basically I had an encounter with a total stranger (no actual talking with this person at the time) that completely opened my heart chakra in a way I never thought possible… I experienced Love for the first time and saw it reflected in everything around me. I “remembered” what it was like to be deeply intertwined with somebody. After the original BOOM of the energetic connection that linked me and this person, I LITERALLY ran into this person 3 times in a row over the next couple of days… like, face to face, standing there looking at each other in awe sort of deal. Couple this with some “slap-in-the-face” synchronicity and there you have it.

I try to avoid using labels like “soul mate” but all I can tell you is that it was one of the most profound experiences of my life…. one that defies all words and that I will remember until the day I die.

Gabriel (20) (@gabelovescheese) 8 years, 8 months ago ago

@jesus, But what if you were born in the right place at the right time. Or if fate brought you two together?

josephm (772) (@josephm) 8 years, 8 months ago ago

if life has purpose, there is a purposeful relationship cosmically waiting patiently for us.

Simon (15) (@taoisman) 8 years, 8 months ago ago

I imagine most people would describe the feeling through science. That is, until they actually feel it.

If you have any semblance of spirituality in you, you will feel it on a deeper level than can be explained. If you’ve yet to have an experience of this kind, for there is much that can affect your soul, you have much to look forward to and search for in life :)

I believe a soul, if that is what you wish to call it, is bonded together strongly enough that even if it was divided in two, the pieces would attract. Sometimes the persons are wildly different, yet it makes no difference. You will know the feeling inside you when you find it.

It completes you in a way nothing else can, and if you ever searched for it in your life; if you ever wanted to stop being alone on that deepest level you can’t put into words, you will be relieved beyond measure. For at that moment, everything will be alright. You’ll always have each other.

Maybe you’ve already met them. Maybe it’s your currently best friend. Maybe the soul divides after death because it likes to search and explore, or maybe it joins its physical halves together and ascends to become part of the incorporeal universe. I’m not sure; I’m pretty new to the dynamic of souls myself.

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