I sleep soundly, when I do dream they’re usually pleasant and if I do wake up I can find them again quickly with only little changes. Lately, I’ve been having bad dreams and I know that I can just wake up from them and they’ll be done, but some part of me chooses to stay involved in them until I can’t take it anymore; These dreams are also relative to my life, not fantasy or make believe.
Is it unusual that I want to stay involved in these dreams, knowing that if I screw something up in them; I could hurt people I don’t know, get hurt myself or possibly die, cause suffering to my loved ones or just not be the hero?
Any insight would be greatly appreciated, I’m just lost in these dreams and their meaning.
I’m an air traffic controller by profession and until recently have never dreamt about my job. I go in, work my 40 hours and leave everything at the office, not thinking about it. When people ask what I do, I just tell them I work at the airport. I know my limitations as a controller, keeping aircraft separated via a radar scope, and these dreams involve more plains than I would ever handle in real life and situations that rarely come up but which I’ve handled before. Is it weird that my mind is being taxed like this and I have to force myself to wake up because I know I can’t take it anymore.
I’m a decent fighter, my father was a boxer & taught me and I grew up wrestling. I’m a pacifist my nature but train two/three days a week in boxing, Muay Thai and grappling/wrestling for exercise and stress reduction. In real life, if I witnessed three or four guys being inappropriate with someone, I would not hesitate a second to intervene. I’m confident enough in my abilities to know that I’ll take some hits but ultimately be the one that walks away. In my dreams, I’m just getting the shit kicked out of me and no matter what I do, I can’t get the upper hand. I try and try to get back up but it’s just never make it back up to my feet and then force myself wake up.
I enjoy pushing myself when it comes to driving or riding a motorcycle. I live near the mountains of North Carolina and there are some wonderful roads that test the driver and their vehicle. When I fall asleep, one of my “happy places” is just riding, taking nice soft curves, enjoying the scenery, smelling the pine trees and just listening to the wind blow past my helmet. I can usually carry that into dreaming and then I’ll be going at a normal speed and lose my traction around a turn or have some unforeseen obstacle come out and force me to lay the bike down. Or the same thing with driving, I’ll hit something that forces my little car to go into a spin and risk hurting myself. When the bike goes down or the car goes off the road, I stay involved with it, most of the time until it comes to a stop, trying to regain control.
@bryce, staying involved in bad dreams is not bad unless you loose contact with reality and mix both together, then you have a problem and you can get psychotic because of that. Just having bad dreams and staying in them is not wrong, but most people dont want that..you should however know they are just dreams and not some kind of reality that could also be this one, i know because i mixed both of them and then you can get your mind really fucked up..in reality people tend to use common sense, which is quite absent in dreams most of the time..
@bryce, “and these dreams involve more plains than I would ever handle in real life and situations that rarely come up but which I’ve handled before.”
Care to elaborate on that?
It could be that you need a change of lifestyle? Do you hate your job? I’ve had a few of those fight dreams, where no matter how hard I try I could not throw a punch to save my life. Maybe something is holding you back from something you really want in life?
This could be a story, I got some pretty cool visuals from just reading.
@motorik, there is a set amount of planes (sorry i spelt it wrong above) that a radar controller can handle before they stop accepting them from other sectors or tell the towers to stop departures. i’m talking 30 aircraft, where my stress level peaks at 20-22 at a time; throw in an inflight emergency or a lost pilot and it takes your attention away from everything. it’s more just having so much stuff to do and not having enough minutes/broadcast ability to get things taking care of. most controllers have an ego, and not sounding arrogant but i’m good at what i do in the most modest way possible. these dreams, i just stay in them knowing that i can work it out but i never can.
i enjoy my lifestyle and the work i do. i’m 32, i’m from a small town in the midwest and my only desire is to try new things and experience new places. my job can take me anywhere, i work a hard 40 hours and leave everything at the office at the end of the day. (well not lately, dreams) outside of work, i’m carefree and happy-go-lucky and nothing ever bothers me. i was just trying to figure out why i stay so engaged in these bad dreams. thanks for the response.
@peacelove, they are very separate, once i force myself to wake up it’s done. my dream world and reality are similar; i act the same, the same situations occur but in my dreams lately, i’m not in control like i want to be. it’s as if i’m being tested on some other front. thank you for your words.
@bryce, That’s great, Sir.
Since you said it, competitiveness can drive you out of your balance. I agree that dreams are pretty addicting in their own way. Since it’s a dream, try to not fight it. Maybe try something different in that dream next time you have it? Who knows, it just might play out into something else and open up new realizations. If anything, trying a different method of dealing with anything creates different results.
@bryce, As @motorik, said, I think you need to learn to deal with the situations differently. Perhaps these are hidden fears that you had not acknowledged and until you accept them, they’ll keep appearing. Instead, in your dreams, find a way to resolve the problem instead of living it out. Use the experience to develop you, use them as a simulation as such :)
@caoimhesweeney, i get what you’re saying and i agree 100% that they are fears; losing control at work, not being able to stand up to what i think is wrong or not trusting my abilities as a rider/driver. maybe it’s just an experience thing and i just don’t know how to deal with them differently yet.
@bryce, The purpose of dreams is to create a virtual environment where you can rationalize through different situations and predict an outcome. This helps guide you when you are making decisions, because it forces you to figure out how you really feel.
With the planes perhaps you are curious to know how you would deal with an overloaded situation like that. With the beating perhaps you want to know how much you can take, (i don’t know). With the crashes maybe you’ve never experienced a crash and your brain is trying to figure out how it would look like. The imagination is a wild thing. Bad dreams come from fears, the solution is face your fears.
@motorik, @caoimhesweeney, @peacelove, @warriors41, I just wanted to thank everyone for their input and say that all is quiet on the dream front. during my quiet time, i create situations in my head and have tried living them out and all have ended on a positive note… attractive nurse at the end or getting the girl i just got my ass kicked for, that kind of thing. :/ i just wanted to thank y’all again and keep you updated. -bryce
Oh, what a pathetic update. They were even curious how bad you’re doing,