I need some help on forgiveness.
My mom and I were always best friends when I was growing up. I did everything to impress her and win her attention over my older sister, and I succeeded.
About eight years ago my mom and dad got divorced. It was a really sticky situation where my dad found out about my mom’s affair with his best friend. My mom’s lover moved in right after the truth was revealed and they got married shortly after.
I’ve forgiven my mom and our relationship has continued to grow; but I think it’s mainly because I blame everything that happened on my step-dad, which I know isn’t fair. It’s been eight years and I still feel hatred towards him. I can’t even stand being at my mom’s house for more than an hour without wanting to scream hateful things at him. Every time I’ve tried to have a talk with him about what he put me through he always tells me “the past is the past and there’s no use in talking about something that can’t be changed.”
How do I forgive someone who could care less how I feel about them?