Sticking to things…

 C4rpeDi3m (@JTaylor94)8 years, 1 month ago

A major obstacle of mine is my inability to stick with things, like books, plans, projects etc. Does anyone have a tips on how to become more self disciplined in this area?

August 13, 2013 at 11:11 pm
josephm (772) (@josephm) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@jtaylor94, go with the flow. fuck it. you dont need to stick to anything.

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Anonymous (2,654) (@) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

I get daily spam about this. I disciplined myself not to open it.

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Jennifer (2) (@seashorr) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

If you’re motivated enough, you’ll want to keep at it! What helps me is writing everything down. When I transfer my goals, plans, projects from my head down on paper, it becomes more “real” to me in some sense, thus easier to remember and stick with.

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idontunderstand (9) (@Idontunderstand) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@jtaylor94 I have to deal with a similar situation too. My thoughts is that if your not inspired to stick to it, then maybe it’s not the right thing. An example that comes to mind, for years I always thought I didn’t like reading books. I’d start and get bored half way through and since my mum put a high value on reading I felt pretty crappy for not finishing a lot of books. Then I realised I wasn’t reading the right books that interested me, since I was able to polish off 2 books in one night!

Obviously my opinion is based on that particular situation. But sometimes quitting on the things that don’t feel right will give to the opportunity to find the things that are worth completing- effortlessly

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Bryan (104) (@Substratum) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@jtaylor94, There really is immense value in being able to finish what you start in a consistent way. So much learning of broad subjects depends on steady progress. You have to complete tasks one at a time because they build on each other, like bricks to a brick wall. You should address the possibility that it could be an attention deficit problem…important to know because you could become very frustrated trying to use self-discipline, for example, and blaming yourself if you don’t make progress…when discipline may not have been the actual cause of the problem. There are medications but there are also specific methods you can learn to improve attention. It sounds like you have a distinct problem, and that you recognize it as a problem you should not just ignore…and your right to take it seriously and do something about it. I could give you suggestions but really I know the best thing you could do would be to search online for in-depth information on subjects like ADHD, time management, task completion, motivation etc and maybe get a medical evaluation for ADHD…Don’t count on anyone else to solve this problem for you…you see it and don’t like it, but I wonder if you fully realize that learning the skills needed to complete what you set out to do could be the difference between a great life and a miserable life…because seriously it could be of huge consequence to you.

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Ray Butler (1,423)M (@trek79) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@jtaylor94, We are all different, just because other people do the things you are talking about doesn’t mean you have to. If something interests you then you will stick it out, if not you short attention span kicks in and you walk away. I’m the same.

I figure; why follow the path? The greatest discoveries were and are made by those willing to go off-road, I believe a natural flow in life will lead you to what you need to know, or kill you, but either way you should not have to worry about anything.

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Aalia (10) (@Aalia) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@jtaylor94, every one has different interest in different subjects, some people love art but they want to stick to study while they don’t love it. its not necessary to do what people want or does! its up to you and your interest. find your interest and then go throw it, you’ll find urself more comfortable at the moment, you’ll be not bore. Best of luck

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C4rpeDi3m (1) (@JTaylor94) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

Thank you everyone for your replies.

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Filip (2,818)M (@filipek) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@jtaylor94, Start with small things which are easily accomplished. Every morning 5 minutes of meditation. Read one page of a book each evening. Or anything that suits you, but it will be easier if you start small.

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