Stop Answering for the Sake of Proving Yourself

TheSeer (@drallarnnat) 8 years, 3 months ago

I see a lot of people everywhere jump on the opportunity to teach someone something, even if someone who knows more is readily available. I was sifting through a thread on High Existence today and saw something similar: People were answering someone’s question in an abstract way, putting way more wording into their responses than necessary, as if the only reason they were answering was to show that they knew something.

If someone is asking a question on this site or anywhere else, it’s because they really want to know. If we don’t have a perfect answer, admit it. Offer what little bit we can, as clearly as we can, and be done. They will benefit more from this. They are the ones that asked the question. The conversation then is about coming up with an answer. It’s not about the intelligence of the person asking, and it’s not about the person answering proving their own intelligence.

June 26, 2014 at 11:02 am
Martijn Schirp (112,780)A (@martijn) 8 years, 3 months ago ago

This is an excellent point, thank you :)

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Kris (328) (@kjbaran) 8 years, 3 months ago ago
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Anonymous (53) (@) 8 years, 3 months ago ago

I believe you are alluding to superfluous vainglorious didactic ostentatious verbosity.

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TheSeer (168)C (@drallarnnat) 8 years, 3 months ago ago

This made me laugh xD

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Anonymous (328) (@) 8 years, 3 months ago ago

You’re being just as vague as whoever you are talking about. I hate how people on this site make up topics to talk about people in abstract scenarios.

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TheSeer (168)C (@drallarnnat) 8 years, 3 months ago ago

I’m being vague so as to not point fingers at anyone and cause people to be defensive. Just a friendly reminder.

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Animal lover (1) (@Kristinrs7) 8 years, 3 months ago ago

This site is for us to talk about whatever we want. There are always people out there that are looking for a perspective that might not be our own. They also might want to discuss a topic that is important to them. No matter how stupid we think they are they might be important to many on here. We should be positive and offer whatever advice we might have.

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TheSeer (168)C (@drallarnnat) 8 years, 3 months ago ago

You have a good point and I certainly agree! I think that if someone wants to discuss, it makes it easier for everyone if put in simple terms rather than throwing words around that may not even be used correctly for the sake of sounding intelligent. It makes it easier for everyone. The bigger issue I was getting at, though, was people portraying themselves as way more knowledgeable than they prove to be when put to the test, as this encourages the spreading of mis-information. Not JUST on this siteā€¦ HOWEVER, people do have the freedom to speak however they want, you’re right. I did focus more on knocking down the negative aspect of doing this than encouraging the positive habit of being humble & clear in my post though, so thank you for the positivity reminder :)

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Animal lover (1) (@Kristinrs7) 8 years, 3 months ago ago

No you spoke your truth. And you made a valid point. I just always try to remember when people are trying to speak over everyones head it’s usually because they are trying to prove something to themselves. Everyone has a story and a background but it’s our jobs as humans on a journey to see past all of the “labels” and not judge them along the way. There will always be people that spread information that we might not agree with. But thats the beauty of this life…we all get an opinion. And to each person that opinion is their truth.

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TheSeer (168)C (@drallarnnat) 8 years, 3 months ago ago

What a refreshing broad perspective on things

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Marlon (97) (@shoeopener) 8 years, 3 months ago ago

I agree half-heartedly. Sometimes you just have to answer to disprove someone else.

I don’t think the flow of people’s thinking should be corrected, though. It’s limiting. Temperament is the hardest to change in yourself and the control over someone’s ways is the reason they have to conform to someone else’s views. Often that form of control causes a reverse effect, some people even do it on purpose. In the end a lot of people get bored they’re not expressing themselves like they’d feeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeel.

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