So, recently I broken up with my ex girlfriend about 2 weeks ago(actually she was my first one). I ended the relationship because almost for a month we didn’t met, even though she lives near by, goes to the same school, ect. She was always busy with her dance group and pretty much It was her priority. However… She thought about quitting dance lessons in the near future, so I didn’t get the mindset of why she would try so fucking hard on them right now?
Anyways, she was a bit egotistical, cynical and conservative as for me I’m an opposite of these things… When we broken up I felt quite great, I was liberated, did things that I want without any guilt or something like that. But couple days back we met at a party, we were quite tipsy and we sat down and talked about our relationship. Then the whole “drunk ex couple at the party things” happened and after the party we tend to communicate even better than before… Just now she says that she doesn’t want a boyfriend just to be friends(not really know with benefits or not) and as for me I just have this strange feeling that I just want to have her in my life as something, I have no clue…Is this love, lust, friendship or something, maybe you went through the same scenario? Thanks for the answers :)
My experience would tell you to go with your gut. However, listen closely to it because if it is just some action you’re craving it most likely won’t turn out well for you. If you want her to be in your life in any sort of way i suggest a platonic relationship, as boring as that is.
I’m guessing your a younger person. It’s a tricky situation. The one thing to keep in mind is that when youre done school you’ll have a ton of options. Like you could do anything, go anywhere, start your life in a new city, move overseas anything at all. But if you get tied down to fast or have kids too soon then you won’t have any chance to explore life. As you’ll always feel obligated to this other person. Of course you want to love and be loved too just don’t get too hung up on one person. If she’s not 110% for you then move on right now! Don’t waste even 1 more second on her. You need to date more people to to get an idea of who’s out there.
@strathy, She’s a dancer so she fucks great. You’re against her views so you’re greater. Well, I’m not sure your friendship with her is going to give you anything useful for your future, because apparently she needs a break. Or you need a break. How the fuck would anyone know if this is love, lust or friendship if you don’t know? It seems to me like you’re both extremely stupid. I don’t even know why would you make a thread about that. Maybe you’re a hidden hopeless romantic waiting for the next liberation. Who knows? There’s nothing strange about your feelings though. See the world around you and stop expressing yourself like the one you chose to listen to a lot more than anyone else.