superiority

hailey (@haileyhuber) 8 years, 1 month ago

Do you ever feel like you are superior to other people because you think really deeply? I just see all these cheerleaders who care about nails and hair and boys, and dont really care about thinking. I feel like since I think and contemplate life and try to live and discover answers to the meaning of life, it somehow gives me a leg up, it makes me special, I am almost better than them. I know it is wrong and I talk myself out of it, but then I see those types of people again and I cant help but hope that I have a higher calling than them. I know it is wrong, so I guess my question is can anyone relate? and how do you humble yourself?

October 28, 2013 at 8:16 pm
josephm (772) (@josephm) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

people usually need to feel a bad fuck up before anything is questioned. some people get the silver platter for a while. less isnt more, and more isnt less. everyones got it coming.

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Anonymous (127) (@) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@josephm, “Through tragedy our conscience is built.”

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Dalton (6) (@waterbuffalo) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@haileyhuber,
I can relate. Maybe this will help:
Ego traps…

It is best to take judgement off of others and focus on yourself when you catch yourself thinking these things.

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2Goats (20) (@2Goats) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

When there was a period where I was trying really hard to love everyone in order to ascend in spirituality, I hated everyone. I mean I couldn’t stand anyone and I thought I was way better than anyone I have ever met simply because I thought everyone else was stupid. However, I kept trying to find a way to love everyone. Eventually I found a way and that was one the most amazing times of my life. When you think you are better or hate people that is a natural reaction to ascension. It is a process. If you can find, in your own way, to love everyone unconditionally than you will feel bliss like never before. The fact that you are viewing people the way you are says that you are in a transitional period.

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Ayat (6) (@Tribespearman) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

I am a sensitive person and would (if i had to) describe my current state of existence as Hyperreality. i feel that as a human questioning my identity/ values i have come across moments where i see insensitivity in people as a disabling trait to acquire, and therefore see these ‘insensitive’ people as being lesser and incapable of understanding compassion or the desire for empathetic interaction.
this was the way i thought throughout a majority of middleschool and highschool as i jumped from a nuturing environment full of friends and little misgivings in elementary school, to a hostile environment where people made ‘factions’ of themselves as if to protect them from something. some unknown assailant.
anyway i saw how horribly people treated each other and begun to understand the roots of apathy in a micro-cosmic way. as a result i vowed to never stoop to their level because the only purpose it served was to inflict doubt and pain in people’s lives. for most of my school ‘career’ i was introverted and avoided notice by others, much preferring to be an observer to the shrapnel of daily life. eventually my fascination with people grew and i began to invest myself in the lives of others with the focus of strengthening them to the hurtfulness inflicted by people who simply didnt understand what it is to be loved.
i then saw myself as a catalyst to an effect. each interaction i had with people felt like tectonic plates shifting. building up pressure in places. contributing to some small change in someone.
i became someone who could easily traverse a multitude of personalities and peer through the ‘image’ they made for themselves in their factions. though i would not associate myself freely with people that i saw as ‘primitive’ and subject to repetitive flaws in their poor version of humanity. those who openly spat in the face of compassion i abandoned to suffer in their own private purgatory.
though i always secretly hoped that they would one day stop hurting themselves so much over so little.
it was in grade 11 that i became active in pursuing my goal of becoming a real human being. cause all around me all i saw were aliens without understanding passion. they would filter through their jobs and schools throughout the week before partying on weekends. it was repetition and pure numbness. there was no questioning. i would go to houseparty’s not to drink or smoke pot, but to see these people and the way they lived their lives in highschool/college. it was in these moments that i understood that all of them suffered from dissatisfaction. these were just people reacting to the society they lived in. and it is a society of grandeur illusion woven through distraction; ruled by the greed of the few and the apathy of the many.
it is in this that i am humbled around people of any experiences. because they are experiencing something i can never understand. i mean the fact that i grew up passionate yet never revealed my true nature beneath the guise of a blank face and unassuming gaze should suggest the possibility of others living this mirage as an image of how others perceive them rather than how they perceive themselves. if this is true then it can be further suggested that there are many beautiful people in your life that are just really good at hiding. i encourage your questioning of ‘superiority’ if such a thing truly exists, for we are all in the same desert. and the silence is just as intriguing.

with support on your discoveries – An aspiring human being.

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Albert (5) (@albert) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@haileyhuberI know what you mean but when it really comes down to it there is no such thing as “right’ or “wrong” just as no one is inferior or superior to the next plainly because we all just “are”. Right, wrong, good, bad, etc etc are all man-made labels if that makes sense. Everyone is on a spiritual journey at their own pace but its not a race so everyone wins at the end. Empathize for the cheerleaders and maybe even befriend some of them so you can teach em some of the awesome things life has taught you. Thats my idea of an ascended thought but idk to each their own :p

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Ellie (1,363)M (@tangledupinplaid21) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@haileyhuber, I have had those thoughts before, but I try to see my judgment of another person’s perceived character as a reflection of me rather than them.

In other words, if I find myself feeling superior, I know it’s because I am trying to compensate for insecurity. If I were truly secure and “better” than them, would I need to put them down or even be bothered by what they choose to focus on? Probably not. We all have things to work on, and while your strength lies in “thinking deeply”, maybe one of those boy-obsessed cheerleaders is amazing at keeping things simple and never working themselves into an over-analytic frenzy. Who’s to say which is better or smarter?

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Anonymous (2,654) (@) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

No. But I do believe deeply that my embarrassment is superior. And the confidence in my shame is superior than most of the people I meet every day. ‘Hey, Sasho, whatcha doin’?’ ‘I don’t know!.’ ‘Great!’ ‘Best friends forever.’ And by simply not taking myself seriously, I’m better than those feeling like they’re more than they are, and considering only their own critical judgement without actual communication. I’ve noticed in class today someone acting completely care-free, until she was asked to explain if she judges other people and herself. Then her manner changed, because she replied honestly about what makes her feel anxious and started expressing how hard she is on herself.

Bottom line, don’t judge a book by its cover, unless it’s really tasteless looking and written by an adult with questionable childhood.

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Woodsy (14) (@morningwoods) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

The superiority complex is your ego patting yourself on the back.

It is your choice on what to do with that information.

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Anonymous (328) (@) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@haileyhuber, That’s just a small aspect of “survival of the fittest” in our modern world. People would argue that it is dead, that everyone should be treated equally, but the sad truth is no one is equal; then again beliefs are not the same as behavior/actions.

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vivaciouslyv (24) (@vivaciouslyv) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@haileyhuber, I’ve often found that when you feel this way focusing on something you know you are not superior in will help to reduce your ego and force you to work on your problems.

By recognizing the things about you that fill your ego (in your case a higher level of thinking) you can also recognize the things you NEVER feel proud about. Those are the things you should work on.

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Anonymous (0) (@) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

I don’t feel superior to anyone, am I more evolved then people that’s consumed to this world materialism and believe the television dictate what’s true or false? Probably. I don’t believe I’m better then no one, but to take a quote I found a while back “If someone was driving a car and you were in a plane, does it means you’re better then them? No it just mean you’re higher”

I don’t put myself on a higher pedestal unless I’m in a competitive sport or game.

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TheSkaFish (962)M (@theskafish) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@haileyhuber, remember that it’s not that your way and their way is not better or worse, just different approaches to life.

I am a guy so I can’t completely understand where you’re coming from exactly, but I guess the guy equivalents would talk about stuff like girls, cars, sports, video games. To me that stuff is not horrible, and I can definitely see how someone could find all that enjoyable, but I know it’s not everything. That doesn’t mean I think I am better than those who live for that stuff, I just want to live for more myself, I want to think about things that interest me more than that. I need something more to be fulfilled.

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Benjamin (18) (@benjayk) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

I can absolutely relate. Though it’s more like I fear I might be extremely different than others, but there seems to be an element of superiority as well.

That I can think deeply, have “deep” spiritual insight, am compassionate and extremely individualistic and open-minded might just not be as relevant as my “ego” makes it out to be. The question is whether that’s all that relevant to my existence as a social being or my “value” as a human being (if there is such a thing).

Other people might be strong or beautiful or extremely intelligent or artistic or altruistic or just be completely “ordinary” in every way. Perhaps they would consider themself superior to me. What does it matter?

Only when I am being extremely judgemental can I call anyone superior or inferior, and this by itself, in my mind, discredits this thought from being something to be taken seriously.

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JonH (1,139)C (@IJesusChrist) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@grandkintaro777,
“I don’t feel superior to anyone.”

“Am I more evolved? Probably.”

Man the ridiculousness of those two sentences following one another is joke-worthy.

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EFW (57) (@EarthFireWater) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@haileyhuber, Yep, I do feel superior to some people.

Is it looked down upon? Yes it is. Am I bothered by that? Not really.

Play to your strengths, don’t hide your abilities because it is not ‘socially acceptable’. If you have a great gift, show it.

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Anonymous (0) (@) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@ijesuschrist,

Evolved does not automatically mean superiority as I said before just because I’m a higher thinker doesn’t mean I’m better then someone who thinks “If we teach the world true Islam the world would know peace.” Who knows if my way of thinking is higher, maybe the world would become peaceful if Islam persevered with their message and spread it to the 4 corners of the earth, instead of progressive global unification.

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Laura (0) (@Laura-Rene) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@haileyhuber, It’s easy to get caught up in a superiority complex. If everyone has purpose then accept it for all people for those people have purpose in life too. Who are we to judge others’ life purposes and their life situations? Since we can’t read people’s thoughts, how do we know they aren’t deep thinkers or will become deep thinkers in the future? Humbleness can be best achieved through acceptance of others regardless of their station in life. I hope this helps you.

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Obviously, you’re not a golfer (605) (@donjaime23) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@haileyhuber, If you think you’re better than anyone for any reason, then you’re actually not thinking very deeply at all.

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levon (91) (@levon) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@haileyhuber,
I can certainly relate to you and I have contemplated these exact issues.

If you think you are above anyone else, you are beneath everyone else.
This is one thing I’ve come to learn in my time on this rock.
We are all the same, we have the same fundamental needs that can only be fulfilled by working together. When you think of yourself as superior, you separate yourself… you individualize yourself and so you cut yourself off emotionally from everyone.
If it’s consoling at all, the human race is like one big machine. The cheerleaders play their part even if it is only in minute and menial ways such as motivating a fanbase to keep the sports team playing their best, from where which we draw enjoyment . You play your part too in the way that you think and are able to help others with your insightful thoughts that might be more in depth and meaningful than that of other peoples.
But know that both roles that you each play are equally as important in keeping this machine called the human race running.

I didn’t really articulate this as well as I wish I could have but I don’t have much time this morning. Feel free to message me if you want someone to talk to about this or anything else that might be concerning you.

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levon (91) (@levon) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

Also, just want to add quickly. I read through this thread and wanted to say…
Happiness is very subjective. The cheerleaders are happy with their materialistic ideals and you are happy with your higher capacity to approach and address the bigger issues.
But neither of you are happier than each other or better off doing the other thing, it’s all just a part of the bigger picture.
I hope you can understand what I mean when I say this and, again, I wish I could have chosen more accurate words to explain my point of view.. but I’m really running short for time.
And again, I’d love to hear from you.
Take care.

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Ben (62) (@Mallorn) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

there needs to be a parameter by which someone is judged to be better, no? and

there’s a difference between a subjective personal feeling and something objectively having a greater numerical value. as many have said, simply saying you’re better and leaving it there is of as much consequence as saying the sky is turtle.

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Ben (62) (@Mallorn) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@josephm, where is that picture from? goes perfectly here.

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