superiority

hailey (@haileyhuber) 8 years, 1 month ago

Do you ever feel like you are superior to other people because you think really deeply? I just see all these cheerleaders who care about nails and hair and boys, and dont really care about thinking. I feel like since I think and contemplate life and try to live and discover answers to the meaning of life, it somehow gives me a leg up, it makes me special, I am almost better than them. I know it is wrong and I talk myself out of it, but then I see those types of people again and I cant help but hope that I have a higher calling than them. I know it is wrong, so I guess my question is can anyone relate? and how do you humble yourself?

October 28, 2013 at 8:16 pm
Adam (118) (@moonglade) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@grandkintaro777, There is no such thing as more evolved. Maybe the word you were looking for was more intelligent but then that’s kinda iffy too.

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Anonymous (0) (@) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@moonglade,

There’s no iffy about it, if someone is more intelligent then you they are more intelligent then you. Grab a book and mitigate the gap. Anyway I really don’t feel like delving into a semantics argument over a word, I’ve already stated from the 1st post I harbor no sense of superiority over others. If you think more evolved automatically means superiority given the text surrounding it in my first post, I really see no point in continuing this conversation.

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Goglosh (28) (@goglosh) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

I used to delude myself that way.
But hey, everybody’s been conditioned different, with a different education and belief systems. If anything, I just feel lucky that I’d rather read a book than watch tv

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Kuba (7) (@xkuba6x) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@haileyhuber,

When I was younger I would get easily frustrated with people who didn’t understand my point of view on things. Things like philosophy as life, meaning and compassion. So to a certain extent, I did suffer from the superiority complex. My ego would always come to the surface and would present hateful words, gestures or thinking about the people who didn’t view things in my light.

Today, I still suffer from these little moments but I have learned that I’m not superior to anybody, on contrary I believe that no one is TRUELY superior to the other. We all have flaws in our thinking, physique or health but that doesn’t make us worth less than somebody else, actually, in my eyes it makes us more unified. Unified through our flaws.

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Adam (118) (@moonglade) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@grandkintaro777, well think about it there are many forms of intelligence. For example if you may have a better grasp of chemistry than me but I’m a better writer than you which one of us would be more intelligent. Think about autistic kids, some of them can do astrophysics at the age of 15 but have very poor skill when it comes to interacting with humans. So poor you might even think of them as retarded if they didn’t have that other skill.

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T (0) (@tanniar) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@haileyhuber, I wouldn’t say its a wrong thing to do. I think as humans we all think this way, that we are somewhat better than others, and like i said there isnt anything wrong with it. That being said, I do think that it can over power us sometimes. the best thing to do is to see their point of view. Dont be biased.This is something I’ve recently learned to do and its very eye opening because when you put yourself in others shoes you begin to realize that you may have been wrong about someone or something and it changes your point of view.

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Ray Butler (1,423)M (@trek79) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@haileyhuber, Yes, it is one of the biggest struggles I have faced, but deep thinking can arrive at a conclusion that dismisses the sense of superiority, not by the general sense that superiority is wrong, as you are talking about, but in acceptance of who you and others are.

Philosophically I have found; in the infinite nature of the universe it means everything is subjective, but subjectivity simply means that each our own objectivity is unique. The fact that people are alive and can smile and can be happy, this is relevant, this is success regardless of intellect or deep thought, where people who are not capable of this are the ones that really need to change up their game.

But ultimately; if you go into situations with the intent to educate others, you inevitably fail, it is by going in with intent to learn for yourself, to grow in new ways, this is where real power is and people sense it, it affects them on profound levels.

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Ray Butler (1,423)M (@trek79) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@haileyhuber, The way I think depends entirely on the feedback of others. People do not realise this, people may see what I write and conclude I have thought long and hard about these things and I don’t need them at all, but this is not true, in reality I do not know much at all, I am just inspired. If someone did not ask me I would never have thought about it, so everything I say is not so much for the benefit of others, who ever is asking or reading, but are actually momentary glimmers of realisation I am having.

Ultimately I hate rhetoric, regurgitating the same old lines of acquired philosophy over and over again, I like to take that stuff and own it, mould it to each discussion in new ways, always with the intent, not to make the same points, but to find new ways to make points and ultimately to find new points themselves.

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Anonymous (0) (@) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

That superiority feeling can be seen as spiritual egotism.
I often get frustration when talking with “less conscious” individuals, as I am trying to share some of the knowledge I’ve gathered along the years but end up hitting a wall, my whole point not being understood. Frustration can lead to this kind of superiority complex when you consider yourself superior because people don’t understand the full meaning of your words.

I also consider it a fact that some people know more than others, then again it doesn’t mean something, we all have our strenghts and areas of expertise. No one can boast about knowing everything.

In the end being able to recognize that spiritual egotism opens a doorway. The doorway to understanding and acceptance.

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krkrich (148) (@krkrich) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@saikoubambino, what you just said really hit home.

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Anonymous (2,654) (@) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@earthfirewater, It’s weird when people say this is an awful thing, it’s perhaps a student’s envy or something. For example, a well experienced individual in some craft would be superior to his protégés and one way to learn from that experience is to be taught. And if the person isn’t experienced in some areas, but feels superior, well, there’s not much to learn there.

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Anonymous (21) (@) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

Well.. I can relate to that. I’ll talk about my path lil bit.. hope it helps.

Looking back I consider myself to always have been interested in the “questions of life”. But it was not until my teenage years that it became a “personality trait”. (Now I guess an ego thing). Virtually all of my friends would never talk about anything “interesting”.. just tv shows, dating, alcohol/drugs, money, wealth. Those things you see the average “droid” distracting “it”self with. That made me mad at them. Their incapability to care about “the important things”, their “shallow” dreams and ambitions. I considered those people the reason why the world was so messed up.

That led me towards what would be called “political left thinking”, then it led me to ideas like dictatorships being the solution to a world so filled with sheeple. They needed a pastor. I was going to be their savior in my head. That led to a lot of inner-struggling. I felt superior and all deserving of the world and I felt that those who would spent theirs lives in auto-pilot were hindering me from my prize and deserved to be enslaved by the “smarter”. It came to a point where I realized this was only rage against me. Against my fears, my insecurities. My ideas about the world no longer were able to fill the void.. they actually never were.. I always knew something was lacking. That was spirituality.

To me spirituality was equal to religion, blindness and superstition. I could not relate to that. I was a “materialist” Could not see beyond the physical existence. All that mattered was this physical experience. It was overwhelming me. I needed answers and that search led me to conspiracy theories… Like any new drug that works only so far… fortunately while delving in the conspiracies’ world I found out about this “thing” called spirituality.

After coming in contact with this “new world” that has always been inside me I felt like exiting the matrix. I started to learn lots and lots of things. And those feelings of superiority gradually went away as I realized that we were all one, and everyone is in their own path in life. I guess, like someone said up there, that a lot of people hide behind shallow appearances because they also fear no one will listen. I felt like that. Isolated. So I physically isolated myself. Some don’t. And we tend to judge people by their appearances and companionships. That is a saying that goes: “tell me who you hang around with and I shall say who you are” It sums up how we tend to treat people.

But as said before, I think that everyone’s got it coming. They can try to run way. Like many do. Like I did. But it comes. I try not to judge anymore but rather to relate and help if I can. I don’t isolate myself anymore. I feel like I’m a vehicle now. I try to help as best as I can. If before I believed in revolutions and in changing peoples’ actions by force, now I believe in giving the example, in inspiring people so they can change by themselves. That’s how I believe we can change the world into a better place. You start in your microcosm. It will naturally expand. Try to do that by force, to change men into machine, and literature and history will give you nothing by failed exemples. I believe we have come to the point in which manking will soon realize this. Brotherhood and love for your fellow being is what I trust to be the way out. But I digress.

Just remenber
“Everyone is fighting a war inside their minds you know nothing about”.

Peace and light

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phanci3 (46) (@phanci3) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

The superiority issue goes both ways for me.
I think that because I try to focus on the good things in life and people and am very reluctant to critisize, judge people,spend time “talking shit” about other people and make a very serious effort to never come across as condescending when I am relaying information or giving advice that I am slightly superior to those who do spend lots of time doing those things because I don’t inflict misery or bad fortune on other people’s lives and I’m happier.
The difference is that I don’t express my feelings of superiority because of reasons stated above. It exists in my head, on the internet when I need advice for dealing with someone, and sometimes in my moms ear, but nowhere else. I hate it so much when I hear someone railing on someone else behind their back, or displaying a patronizing attitude towards someone who doesn’t know something that they do, or blabbering on about how beautiful or talented they are. Like, don’t laugh at me because I don’t know how to manually mix burnt umber right off the bat; I’ve never mixed paint in my life and you’ve been doing this for years. Why is it funny that I don’t know this? And don’t tell me how great you are, show it to me. And I can see that you are very attractive, you don’t need to announce it too.

I guess maybe its not even that I feel “superior,” just that I’ve discovered a more comfortable way to live in and perceive the world and I wish others would do the same because it would make life a lot easier for a lot of people if everyone would stop being so mean in the way they say things. I don’t even think they are aware of it, it just comes out like that. I know I can guilty of it from time to time.

I mean it goes both ways because I feel that I’ve found a better way to live, but constantly experience other people acting superior towards me for whatever reason, like the paint mixing scenario above.

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AllysonDayle (3) (@allysondayle) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

When you say “those types of people” I hope you’re not just looking at a giddy girl with her hair and nails done up all cute and automatically assuming she’s a closed minded idiot. I’ve felt like that before, superior to others. Then as i got a little older and met bunch of different kind of people through work and stuff I started to think about how a year or so ago I never would have given some people the time of day to even tell me there thoughts and opinions. Dropping an ego is hard and I don’t really believe i’ll ever get there. I definitely have a come a long way though.

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Anonymous (2,654) (@) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@saikoubambino, If people don’t understand the full meaning of your words, you have no idea how to express yourself understandably. Of course, a lot of people can relate because this kind of attitude is spreading all over the place.

I’d also advise you to not consider that some people know more than others, but consider their improvisation skills and if you are one that inspires creativity in them. Creativity means experience, and experience means learning. Expertise doesn’t mean shit.

The thing is, people complicate themselves to the point they become simple to others. The pattern of their self-complication is the same. They are not superior to anyone, but their own simple understanding of themselves.

One can boast about being inventive, about breathing for being creative, and being willing to learn.

Hell if I know what you mean by ‘spiritual egotism’. You might as well use a similar soft language to excuse imaginary ‘arrogant souls’.

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