Talking Vs. Texting

Phil (@zerexiam) 9 years, 2 months ago

I just thought it was interesting that there can be such a different element to conversing with another human being by talking to them in person and texting them or even IMing. Facebook first started becoming popular when i was in 10th grade to the older kids and 11th grade more younger kids had continued joining the website. Imagine sending a message to a random stranger that was in one of your classes or was a friend of a friends. Hey! or a simple hey with a hey hey whats up reply. now imagine talking to them in real life. you may feel awkward or already comfortable depending on the situation. The internet took away both chances of awkwardness and in-the-moment comfort and made it so you are just one out of 7 billion persons on the earth. no advantage, no disadvantage (unless they know something about you and either enthusiastically reply or, if worse comes to wost, completely ignores you and leaves you feeling unrequited. I just think it’s interesting how technology has made it possible to talk about things we don’t have time to think on the spot. like, let’s say i asked a girl right now about her summer. in person, she might not remember much or generalize her experience. on the internet she could throw in a thousand different things. That’s not to say the reverse couldn’t be true if you were more of a talkative person with an extraordinary memory. with the internet, interactions have gone from three ways to unlimited. maybe you can’t read their expression while texting/iming so you don’t know if you’re going to bug them by showing them a silly immature clip on youtube, or maybe they’re busy and communicate less. the weirdest feeling in my opinion, is when you develop a relationship through texting/internet and meet the person in real life. it goes from a position of comfort to holy cow this is way harder than typing my thoughts. other times it may be just fine but there’s still that look that you have with that person that says “we talk all the time i wonder if you are the same person in real life” you may have more courage to tell someone you love them or ask them after hanging out why they were being quiet or mean or be able to tell them things you couldn’t get yourself to say when you look at them. Just something to think about really. any thoughts?

March 4, 2013 at 12:19 am
Robert Chase Proctor (75) (@robertproctor34) 9 years, 2 months ago ago

I also find this phenomena funny. A point that I may add is that words cannot express sarcasm…which has made a few of my conversations gone from great to awkward in a single message. Adding on to the whole “meeting over media then in person” situation, I think it becomes difficult to interact because, like you said, you become used to thinking out what you have to say with no pressure of a quick reaction. Can you imagine having a conversation in person where each member of the conversation waited 30 seconds to a minute before speaking??? Talk about awkward…. @zerexiam

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Phil (1) (@zerexiam) 9 years, 2 months ago ago

@robertproctor34 a very good note! explaining what you mean or what you are saying especially if you are using sarcasm or quoting something/someone that the other person isn’t familiar with can add awkwardness and frustration to both parties. especially if you cant say a word a certain way to bring that familiarity. there’s pros and cons to both ways of communications. it’s also interesting i think, how much internet/phone communicating can really bring out our emotions compared to a casual conversation. When no one “texts” you back and you’re waiting if you aren’t doing anything or are in a car ride with someone else driving, there might be an element of feeling tons of anxiety or worthlessness that might manifest out of nowhere. that may be a different topic to discuss on our reaction to technology though.

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Robert Chase Proctor (75) (@robertproctor34) 9 years, 2 months ago ago

@zerexiam Exactly! Beginning/Ending convo is much different through technologyLike right now, if neither of us replied to each other, we’d be thinking,”Wtf man?! Is it something I said? Is he busy or does he just not care?” But in person, I think the party comes to a mutual consensus of beginning/ending conversation easier.

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Anonymous (50) (@) 9 years, 2 months ago ago

I guess their are negatives and positives, as for me I tend to be a person that uses surroundings and emotions to capture my conversation. Your voice, your expression , your jokes are much easier to deliver in real life in my opinion somethings just can’t be expressed through chat. Although I had a strange revelation on facebook the other day (kinda on the topic of texting) you can never hear anyone’s voice or emotion. I somehow manage to escape so far into the pictures and the familiar voices, the detailed statuses that I was literally reading people’s status as if it came alive…. strange feeling. It’s indeed easier to be someone your not but at the same time that’s just discarding from any real value. Their are also the advantages such as not having to dress up and the time to write something witty! Texting is just something I simply can’t stand and i’m a really slow texter too which I don’t plan on changing. I always feel their is huge awkward pressure to say I gtg and hey and stuff like that. For me personally a cellphone is used to create meetings and meet up nothing more!

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Alex (345) (@staylucky) 9 years, 2 months ago ago

Texting and the internet has made people fucking retarded. First of all, when you ask someone through a text medium how they are you get “nm u?” which is enough to make me want to shoot myself in the dick. Second of all, this new age of internetters are arising who are the most socially awkward fucks on the planet. I had about 3 or 4 people from my class add me on Facebook who never spoke to me and CONTINUED not to speak to me after I added them. These people would literally pretend they didn’t see me if we made eye contact.

The internet is a great extension of conversation for people you already have a great friendship with or for those people who are out there on the planet who are as interested in human interaction and life as you are.

Every dumb fuck out there only magnifies their irrelevance by having access to online platforms.

Wow. That turned into a bit of a rant.

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