I have a dream… to make everyone in the world smile. What better place to start then the internet.
Let me help you.
For every reason I come up with to follow my bliss and my dreams, it seems others can come up with 10x more reasons why it won’t work and is destined to fail. Pretty frustrating if you ask me!
@justinr, who knows you better than… well, YOU!
haha, don’t let them, whether they be friends, family, or lover, put you down.
If you know that you are doing what is right for you, then do it my man!
And by some act of God, it doesn’t work… well deduce the situation and find an alternate road to blissfulness.
Stay strong and keep floating on through life my friend.
Probably the fact that whenever I feel like I should be doing something productive, instead I will sit and stare into space. There are times when I feel like writing and the words will just flow through me. There are times when I can wake up and feel the energy of the world flow all around me, and thee are other times here I feel like there’s a dark cloud hovering over me wherever I go. I know, that description is pretty vague, but it’s the best I can do fright now, especially in a time where I feel like I should just go to sleep and maybe things will feel better I the morning.
@justinr, I find great joy in failing. Go try whatever you are trying. People just try to bring you down because you are out there trying when all they can do is sit back and try and bring you down to their level. On your death bed, you will look back at your life and remember all the things you regreted not doing. All of those moments. But all those times you tried and failed, those you wont remember. Because atleast you tried.
Go and try, and if you fail, fail in glorious fashion. You can tell a lot about a man by how he reacts to his own failures.
@johnnymorris128, I feel you on that, bro. Ive felt myself being the same way. I can help you on the creative block I think.
When you suffer from lack of productivity, and you cant think of what to write; try two things: One, try to free write about ANYTHING. Write about the table in front of you, create a random story about that table. Once you begin writing, your brain will loosen up and allow the flow of words easier.
Another thing to try: If you know what you want to write about(example: the media), and you cant think of what exactly… google some articles that express the exact opposite opinion of what you think about the media(or whatever). Read that article and it will literally motivate you to write. Why? Because negativity spurs creativity. People are most willing to defend their points of view on anything once they are questioned. This is why the world doesnt really talk about change unless something very negative happens. I feel this allows me toregroup my thoughts and frees the flow of words.
Try it out. It might not help, but its worth a shot?
@johnnymorris128, creative writing my friend.
I couldn’t have explained it any better. You where anything but “vague” in your description.
You have universal feelings and (for lack of a better phrase) mood swings. You may be happy with words pouring out at one time, but within a 24 hour period, you may be in a major slum.
Do not fret, learn tricks to pull yourself from your dark and cloudy moods like listening to a specific song, or talking to that “one friend”.
before you know it, you will be the master of your emotions an your writing abilities.
I’m looking forward to reading some of your writings!
@yoinkie, Yes, free writing is pure bliss. I know that I will get out of this rut, but it really sucks to feel like you haven’t accomplished anything, not just in writing, but in all facets of the day, or the week, or the year! Thanks.
@johnnymorris128, dude, ruts and emotional holes are awesome! Embrace them! So many people are always so happy, which makes them complacent. Here you are, sad and depressed. Take this oppurtunity to re-evaluate your life, then start making a list of things you can do to change your lack of productivity, etc. Your happy self is a dick; to him the entire world is wonderful and everything in it is awesome. Your depressed self however, is AWESOME. He wont tell you anything to make you feel better, rather he will kick you a little more while your down. He will make you actually focus on your life, and help you change.
Like I always say, everyone should have atleast one asshole friend who can be honest with them, all BS aside Let your depressed self be your asshole friend. Listen to him, he speaks truth.
@johnnymorris128, sarcasm was never my best friend.
I wasn’t trying to say that you have moods swings or anything of the sort. I’m clearly not as internally wise as the rest of the members of this website so sorry if i offended you in any way.
I’m just trying to help.
@huntski I have a fear of the public. Im scared to speak up or stand up for what i believe in public. Im not confident at all when I am around people, and I hate it. In everything I feel like whatever I say is not important or is just wrong, or that my opinions dont matter or in whatever I do or try or say people would just “shoot me down” (if you i can say that). I dont know how to stop feeling like this, its just there. I know I’m being a bit vague, but I’ve always had this fear of the judgement of other people, and what the public thinks of me. Even when posting up things on this website. Its an amazing, wonderful website, but whenever i want to contribute to it, or to anything in general, I feel like its not as important or amazing as another persons….So ya. That was quite hard :P.
@anwie, Go walk around in a very public place for an hour, in a speedo. You will soon learn that the person who judges you the most, is you. Other people are just out here trying to experience everything that is you, we wont get a nother life so might as well say hello.
@anwie, I feel you on that. It is quite hard to express your views to people, especially if you are arguing against the statement that someone has declared.
simple conversations like “I hated that movie.” become hard to reply to for fear of persecution by the majority of the people defending the other side.
Your tongue is the most powerful weapon in the world. The things you say can give life, and take it just as easily.
You are going to have to put yourself out there and express your feelings about certain things. Try doing small comments on how you feel about the subject. maybe start small and post some replies on this website. then work your way to publicly speaking.
Watch, one day, you my friend will be one of the most influential speakers of our time.
You have nothing to fear but being possibly “shot down” and that isn’t even that bad if you think about it. No everyone is going to agree with you, but someone out there does, and that should make your words all the more worth saying.
A porn addiction of more than three years (Recognized addiction for about a year) has left me depressed and without motivation. Before, when I went periods of time without watching porn, I felt great and happy. But the past couple months have just been awful. It was like an emotional roller coaster- I would go from being happy to being struck with shame and guilt, back to being happy. Talk about a vicious cycle. I’m tired 24/7 and I feel like I’m walking around with constant brain fog when I’m awake, if that makes sense. I have been exercising daily since october because that is the only thing i can do that takes my mind of of everything. Coming to a realization that it was never the the porn that was the issue, but deeper problems involving social anxiety and inadequacy issues has helped me quit. But now I just feel sad all the time. I feel a pressure right below my rib cage that, as corny as it sounds, feels exactly like a ball of shame. And it never goes away. I’m feeling like I’m at the end of my rope and I’ve been thinking about suicide quite a bit lately. Although I could never do that to my mom and I never will kill myself, the fact that I think about relieving the depression like that is starting to scare me. I won’t go see a professional, I can’t bare making my parents think that they messed up. I just need help.
@nateoneill, first of, bravo for confessing something so deep and personal.
Your post actually hit me right at home because I too, “as corny as it sounds,” suffer from an addiction to porn. I still suffer from it to this day and it is wrecking me.
You my friend are a strong person. You inspire me to turn myself around.
If that isn’t worth being happy about then I don’t know what is.
You are going to be ok, The first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem. Maybe just talk to a close friend about it. It may seem scary, but if they are a true friend they will help you and be there all the way through.
Your mental fogs can clear up with a little meditation time my friend. Take twenty to thirty seconds out of your day and close your eyes, breath deeply, and count each second, making sure to take in each second like a sweet sweet dessert.
Keep it up man, I believe in you!!
I’ve thought about talking to a friend about everything, but I don’t have any one I think would take me seriously. Being bullied a lot when I was younger for skipping a grade really stunted my social skills. To this day I remain unable to start conversations with people, and I’ve become pretty good at hiding it. But as a result I have never really been able to get close to very many people.
And I would love to learn how to meditate. I’ve tried before, but the whole ‘close your eyes, clear your mind, and focus on your breaths’ just ends up with me feeling worse or not any better then when I started. I don’t feel refreshed or anything. Just the same.
But if you are serious about wanting to quit your porn addiction, I would be more than happy to help. I’ve gained loads of experience on how to make it happen. And you should check out http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap. Great community and definitely a place to check out. It’s pretty much a forum of 50,000 addicts/former addicts who just help each other quit. I owe a lot to that site.
Communication is a two-way street. It is a cultivated discourse that must be mutual. Establishing a voice that suits you and recognizing what makes you tick is the first step to communicating effectively.
Take the time out to really look at yourself and construct the person you wish to be. Don’t let your fear deny you a happy and productive and fulfilled life. Live! No matter what! LIVE! Before we can make an impact on the world we must cultivate the requisite aspects in ourselves.
Funny as it may sound, I have the same exact problem regarding to speaking my mind effectively while not letting my anxiety and self doubt get the best of me. Mere experience while cultivating a positive outlook on it all and reflecting on it to make those experiences better is what I came to find most effective.
What’s beautiful is that we’re all in this together.
To help each other grow.
Lets keep this thread going.
We are all in this together, and we are all alone in our journeys through our mind.
Don’t be afraid of anything because YOU (everyone) is capable of unthinkable wonders. Stay strong and don’t be afraid or scared, just know that you always have someone to go to for help.
If you need anything just talk to me. I always have an open ear, heart, and shoulder.
Stay happy and float on.
I might as well jump in and throw my current problem at you. In a nutshell, I come from poverty (in the american sense), and my Number One Goal throughout my life has been to change that. I am currently on the cusp of a second attempt at a business venture that I failed at last year (reasons being for lack of capitol and unexpected life crises that drained me emotionally and financially) and I am very eager to get started and at the same time anxious. I have been telling myself I will do well for some time now and I have successfully negated most of my bad thoughts but now my gnawing fear is that my victory over fear is a self imposed delusion. Ironic huh? I’m scared of being wrong about not being scared. I want so bad to make my environment the counterpart to the satisfying existence I hold in my thoughts and I just don’t want “Real Life” to stop me.
Edit: I just went back and read some of the posts about porn and I can tell you my BIGGEST motivation in helping me stop is hearing from somewhere that refraining from masturbation leads to MORE TESTOSTERONE and LESS ANXIETY. Both of which will make you MORE ATTRACTIVE to women which will lead to the *clears throat* same gratification as porn lol. I have battled with an intense attraction to porn ever since the wonderful days of being a teenager going through puberty alone at home with a dial up internet connection. And since then, the longest I have ever went without masturbation before learning the above was 2-3 days (except for when I was in Army Basic Training at which point they were putting something in our drinks to make us impotent but that’s another story). But upon learning about these benefits, I rationalized in my head that being sexier/feeling better about life in general was more attractive than the brief pleasure that masturbating to porn will give you. Good luck dude.
@onlyicontrolme, firstly, Thank you for the support and advise on my problem. It’s mean a lot to know that people do actually care.
On to your situation. I would like to congratulate you on having the strength to make it through every problem that life can throw at you. your perseverance is inspiring. To worry about possibly not being scared makes me smile. My man, you are only double checking yourself. You just want things to go right this time and you are scared of this new found confidence that you have come along. Let me be one to say how proud I am of you for making it through all of the struggles and even all of the good times. (Because if you don’t already know, good times can be just as painful as bad times.. But bad also has a hidden good to it as well.) To me, I don’t see a problem that you are facing, it is more of a block. hmm… block sounds bad, it’s more of… You have traveled down this road with the lights on, and you can see ahead of you until all of a sudden the path goes dark… What do you do? you worry that you will make it any farther, but you must remember that you already had the confidence to make it this far down the path called life, so just turn the light on and let that worry be obliterated by the light that is confidence.