A time comes in your life when you finally get it, when in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out, enough! Enough fighting and crying and blaming and struggling to hold on. Then, like a child quieting down after a tantrum, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes.
This is your awakening.
You realize it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to magically appear over the next horizon.
You realize that in the real world there aren’t always fairy tale endings, and that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you, and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are – and that’s OK. They are entitled to their own views and opinions.
You learn the importance of loving and championing yourself, and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born through self-approval.
You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you – or didn’t do for you – and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.
You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and that everything isn’t always about you.
So you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself, and in the process a sense of safety and security is born through self-reliance.
You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties, and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born through forgiveness.
You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. You begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.
You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you’ve outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with.
You learn that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a “consumer” looking for your next fix.
You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.
You learn that you don’t know everything, it’s not your job to save the world and that you can’t teach a pig to sing. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.
Then you learn about love. You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You learn that alone does not mean lonely.
You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say no.
You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.
You learn that your body really is your temple. You begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin to eat a balanced diet, drink more water, and take more time to exercise.
You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty, and so you take more time to rest. And just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels the soul – so you take more time to laugh and to play.
You learn that for the most part you get in life what you deserve, and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different than working toward making it happen. More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance. You learn that no one can do it all alone, and that it’s OK to risk asking for help.
You learn the only thing you must truly fear is fear itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and that to give in to fear is to forfeit your right to live life on your own terms.
You learn that life isn’t always fair, you don’t always get what you think you deserve, and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people, and you learn not to take things personally.
You learn that nobody’s punishing you and everything isn’t always somebody’s else fault. It’s just life happening. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.
You lean that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.
You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted – things that millions of people upon Earth can only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.
Then you begin to take responsibility for yourself, and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never settle for less than you heart’s desire.
You make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.
You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.
Finally, with courage in you heart, you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.
You ask yourself what it would be like to start thinking for yourself(obviously?) instead of looking for precise instruction on how, when and what to be. You learned means that that is what you think. Who is telling you that? lol?
@chodebalm, You made me cry, I though this was just imaginary bullshit. I even called it to ‘be awake’ I do’t know you or what you expect to do on life but if you wanted to ever touch another person so deeply, congratulations… you did it.
*ahem* if you were awake you wouldn`t need other people to tell you exactly what to think. But maybe i`m not awake enough and that`s why i believe this, i don`t think this belief was in the list…do i need to stop believing it in order to be in the “awake” group? or even in the “spirituality” group?
Oh my god this “you believe” crap is unbelievable haha
@chodebalm, that’s awesome, thanks for sharing
I knew something was up the second I started to take a step back and really analyze the “problems” and situations I found myself in. Also the monitoring of thoughts to release the grip of the ego was another huge step forward in my universe. It’s refreshing to know that people are taking these progressive steps in their lives. I feel we’re that much closer to living in the complete state of bliss we all deserve
“The whole world is you, yet you keep thinking there is something else.” ~ Hsueh Feng
Really enjoyed this, thank you @chodebalm
It is a refreshing feeling to know your not alone, a feeling like sipping lemonade in a grassy meadow, surrounded by flowers, trees, birds, and the bees on a warm summer evening.
Life is a beautiful ride, but also one filled with ups and downs. It’d be boring if it were flat all the way through (to me at least) May you all have a wonderful day, or night, and a beautiful week. You all deserve it.
This was a life changer for me…but some folks just don’t get it. People need someone to blame so they don’t blame themselves. People need someone to tell them what to do, think, act. Again, so they have someone to blame when their choices don’t work out. But if you read this message, if you embrace what it represents…you telling your ego to fuk off, then maybe, it will change your life too. But something to keep in mind…it is not a pill. This is the beginning of a long road out, the long journey back to your self and away from what society and culture tell us our self should be. One day at a time, one moment at a time, one.
This further confirms the importance of truth and love in ones life. Wonderful, wonderful message. Love Truth.