I’ve stopped feeling bad about myself and this whole situation, so I’ve decided to delete/edit it.
I’ve gotta do this myself and whining about my sorrows on the internet hasn’t help and won’t help.
Man, I’m really sorry to hear that. I’m in the same sort of relationship, and I can’t imagine what that must be like. You have my deepest sympathy.
I can’t speak through experience, as this girl is also my first true love, but I’ve been told by many people that the first love is always the hardest when it’s gone, but you move on. I can’t even imagine how that must feel, though.
I don’t know you very well, so I don’t know exactly what to say to provide some solace. However, if you want to look at it freed from emotion, the average person falls in love 4-7 times before marriage. But it’s more than just a statistic, and she’s more than just a number.
Maybe she’s just going through a phase. Being in a committed relationship for 4+ as a social person like that must feel at least a little confined. She may go out, test the dating game and after realizing that petty relationships are nothing compared to love, and come back. Or maybe she’ll love it and be happy every day that she gets to do it. Either way, if what you said is true, you should be happy too.
So try to keep your head up. It’ll get better. It always does(:
Break ups happen around holidays. Around Christmas and New Year’s you can feel the energy and the emotional drives of many people in one direction of fantasy; during spring when the hormone levels in people seem to confuse them and they need to rest well and adapt to the climate, the weird singing of the birds telling everyone it’s their mating period (waht’s up with this shit? privacy or som). It does not mean leaving for somewhere because we’re not birds but we’re also not as focused.
I don’t think deep connections like that ever truly leave somewhere far unless you change completely the way it made you feel. Which doesn’t make sense and I have a headache. There was a quote on this which said “Love doesn’t leave. People do.” In reality it’s all about how you both do. A simple friendship should be something like a nap because you can’t force yourself to sleep in an instant, it takes calming down or passing out. If the nap isn’t included in a relationship it must be sleepy.
Ok, I admit. I am sleepy. Goodnight.
I suck at relationships and keeping people I love, so we’ll avoid relationship tips & support, and I’ll suggest this.
Embrace it. It sucks, it hurts. What’s something you’ve been wanting to do for a while? Travel, write, sleep in a tree? Go do it. Don’t let all of this consume you and swallow you whole. It sounds like you’ve been swimming in the dust of this eraser that’s scribbling away your biggest piece of art. Stop swimming in that and pick up whats left of your pen and turn it to a new white page.
Don’t like white? Make it black. I feel you, IJC. Explore the door that has opened, whichever door that may be.
I know it’s hard parting with someone who seems like the only person you have a real connection with. But you have to realize that you and her are two different people who just happened to open up fully to one another. There ARE other people out there who you can love just the same; you have to keep growing without her. Grow with yourself and be who you are. This girl was your first love, and it sounds like she showed you how to love yourself. So keep on doing it, and you will eventually find her or someone else to share your life with. For now, share it with yourself; enjoy it and take care =]
Hey homie don’t chase em just replace em. I know it hurts, I been there, I felt so bad I haven’t been able to do anything cept sit on the couch and stare at the wall for a few days. You loved her and when love stops withdrawls kick it. I’m sure you know it’s just like drugs. So take a lil time and detox, then get back at it, share your love with a new girl, maybe a few girls. Who knows, but do your best not to feel too bad right now. The time heals everything shit is so clique but so true.
You know that is not true, otherwise you wouldn’t post here.. right? There’s always something to take away from the situation. You’ll get there, I’ll get there, We’ll all get there.. eventually.
Were all born into this river without knowing how to swim
And eventually we learn how to keep this water under our chins
Some times this rivers so cold to be in
Freezing my soul, solidifying my skin
Regardless of how far I see, I never see my travels end
Were carried by the current, being driven by the wind
The scenery we pass, we’ll never see again
So we store it up as memories and don’t let go of them
Were under a spell thinking the river should go straight
We set goals and desires to control our own fate
But all the pain we experience is a result of our expectations
Because it’s the rivers nature to twist and turn
That shit can burn
And I know it
I have the same conflict
But I try to sit and flow with this rivers natural process
And sometimes when I watch myself float downstream
I see the beauty of it all, and it feels like a dream
And at that time I appreciate the rivers course
Some call it God, reality, momentum, force
I stare up at the naked moon, and she stares down at me
Outside thoughts boundaries, I’m all I look outward to see.
The universe is not something separate from yourself
I know you feel alone, but that’s why I’m here to help
I know you feel alone, but just look up at the stars
And everything that is out there is what you really are
@ijesuschrist, I saw your original post, and others that you’ve made about this. I’m not sure what to say except that I’m sorry to hear about it, and that it sounded like she meant a lot to you. So I hope you’re doing well though, keeping a stiff upper lip, keep on making that mead, keep on making cool art like Ralph Steadman. Keep on keeping on, man.