Last year i went to a small branch school out in the country, there was one apartment building where everyone lived. A girl who lived there is sitting in my apartment right now. She is very awkward and unfriendly. Her roommates last year claimed to hate her because she smelled. I didn’t know anything about her at the time, except that she was somewhat of a recluse. One day, her roommates waited with big buckets of water on the second floor balcony for her to get home from work, at mcdonalds, so they could dump them on her. I didn’t know why they wanted to dump them on her, but I knew that it wasn’t intentioned to be fun or friendly. When she got out of her car and started walking up to the building they all got excited. Somehow, at the last minute, I got them to question their actions, and they missed the opportunity to dump it. They weren’t very happy with me. She has no clue that any of this happened, and she’s sitting just feet away from me right now. She doesn’t even know who I am. I don’t know if I’m bragging right now or what.
It’s just an interesting situation I suppose.
If this reminds you of a story of your own, even if not related, please share.
@vernalsoul, in the words of NOFX, “mean people suck.”
Good for you, for stopping those people from dumping water on that poor girl. I feel bad for her. I don’t know what to do for people like that….you say she is awkward and unfriendly, but you also said she’s working at McDonald’s which I imagine is not by choice nor can I imagine it is very fun or fulfilling. Her soul is probably starved. Maybe she’s awkward and unfriendly because she’s always tired and beaten down inside, and is frustrated at the hand she’s been dealt, but the sad thing about that is that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, a vicious cycle. She won’t be able to fix anything as long as she stays in the cycle either, because you can’t solve a problem by working within the constraints of the problem. Maybe, if you want, you should influence her to change – if you don’t want to speak to her directly maybe you can influence her in some subtle way.
her unfriendly symptoms are probably a results of how people generally have treated her which has created a ‘last straw’ effect to where it no longer takes her very long to become hurt by actions or words, the ‘others’ are simply being assholes, finding enjoyment in someone else’s suffering simply because she is different, different people are always the easiest targets,
and add to that she is coming home from working at fucking McDonald’s, a goddamn shithole and extremely stressful environment at times, imagine how she would have felt if she got dumped on, she would probably would have further withdrawn into her mind,
you being nice and considerate was the right thing to do, for what its worth, i’m proud of you, i hope you continue to be nice to her.
She is most likely extremely shy or an extreme introvert. I am generally like this, not shy but very introverted. She most likely has no interest in general chit chat or common courtesy and finds it trivial. The problem with being very introverted like this is that you feel awkward sometimes around others because you feel your silence makes them awkward, but when you try to be more extroverted it feels false and unnatural, and probably seems that way to others. I’m sure she has a lot to say if you get talking about topics that interest her. More than anything though you should see that people respect her introversion. It isn’t easy dealing with people like this, but it isn’t easy being that person either.
If you do get to know her you might suggest meditation, done me a world of good. @vernalsoul,
@vernalsoul, lol, don’t tell her. Or let her know as she’s getting up to leave.
I called 9-1-1 today while two friends of mine were walking away. They had no idea. I called them because there was a fire on a stove inside of a closed restaurant. When I walked to the Front of the store I saw my friend and her boyfriend, Billy the Kid. (Doesn’t that just make the story EVEN more interesting?)
So, fuck those faggots, they didn’t want me to call anyone for help…
@ojai, @theskafish, I saw her on move-out day last year, and I know she knew who I was at that point (because she become decent friends with my roommate, which is why she’s here right now), and I asked her how things were going, and she just said, “i’m sorry, who are you?” I think she gets defensive and tries to keep people out.
@tine, Thank you. and yeah, i definitely have way more of a problem trying to understand where they people were coming from who decided to target her and terrorize her. How can you justify bullying another human for your own enjoyment?
@chekovchameleon, I wish I could convince everyone to try meditation. What a different world we would live in [: I seriously get giddy at the thought of it, but then sad thinking that it’s too good for it to ever be a reality.
@iflipvans, I don’t get that, people don’t want to inconvenience themselves to help others, it’s like it’s uncool or something. fuck it. you did the right thing. I keep a dui reporting number in my phone, i feel like some of my friends would get pissed at me for calling one in, but if i can possibly help save a life, i’m going to.