Many times, we have a tendency to look at the negative aspect of every failure. The simple fact is: it will remain a failure regardless of the way we perceive it. So, why not look at it in a more positive manner and use it as a learning experience – rather than a constant reminder of the detriment it’s caused? Learn to flip the script.
Never look at failure as a result that you did not want. You should instead look at it as a reference point. What did you gain?
So then why set goals?
Of course we seek success over failure which is WHY we set goals. I’m a huge advocate for setting and implementing goals that will bring you closer to the vision you have for your life. But in those times when you must face failure, it is always most beneficial to see what can be learned from the experience and then to make it count for something. “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” – Henry Ford
A “failure” is just a lesson.
That’s where you learn the ACTUAL truth about life and how things work, and where you stand.
The most successful people in the world are also the ones who have failed the most, that’s how they found the path to success.
No amount of reading and discussing will ever reveal any actual truth, just theories and concepts.
Experience is the only real teacher.
Failure and success are bullshit.
There’s action and there’s consequences. If you didn’t get the result you wanted, you simply fucked up when aligning your action to your intention. Go back to the start and do it right, that’s how progress is made.
The past is just the past. The only thing it’s good for is learning, but stupid people tend to develop feelings about the past and judge themselves and others on past actions. and totally ignore the priceless lessons it brought.
It’s not a matter of positivity, it’s a matter of basic intelligence or the lack thereof.
@manimal: We’re definitely on the same page. I think often it’s hard for people to let go of their fear of judgement or failure because they hold themselves to other’s standards. It’s all about one’s mindset and vision.
Yes, there is an idea called “The God Complex” where people try to calculate the best approach, and when they find the best formula they apply it and it fails, the best way is “Trial and Error” where you make a bunch of mistakes, find the best mistake and use it as a template to make a bunch more mistakes, find the best of those and repeat, eventually you will have a perfect or near perfect product.
When you teach or learn, you see the right ways and the wrong ways, not just the right ways because if you don’t know why they are right then you, or your students, may be tempted to go the wrong way.
It is not a bad thing to be wrong, of course depending on the consequences, but it is really an opportunity to grow, so people shouldn’t feel so bad as long as they grow from it, same as when someone else makes mistakes.
Many times in my past I have felt that I have failed. With several years retrospective exploration my current decision is that each was a successful lesson, possibly proof that something did not work in the circumstance……… ergo there was no failure.
Failure and success is completely relational to one’s viewpoint and hopes. If one would hope nothing or fear nothing would success and failure arise? No, because success is not independent, neither is failure. Feelings are dependent on identification. If there is no sought after result there is no failure or success. If one does a test and expects nothing, one may “fail” the test but still not failed. It’s a matter of subjective relational thinking. Drop identification and result-orientation and fear no more :)
@mappingtheterritory I couldnt agree more that we all need to look at our circumstances, the outcomes of what we have done as building blocks, lessons, reminders of what not to do. Just looking at every situation in a new light, a positive light will make life that much more enjoyable. It will allow us to grow and evolve as human beings.