Thread for Ex-Potheads (people who slowed down or quit)

 L.T (@1love)5 years, 3 months ago

I was reading through this thread: https://www.highexistence.com/topic/whos-high-at-the-moment/ and I felt there should be one for HEthens who have quit smoking marijuana or slowed down to get their life back in track.

Like many people, I use to be a huge stoner and had to smoke at every opportunity I got. This lasted many years and the worst part is, I convinced myself I was not addicted and that I was in complete control. Fucking bullshit. It wasn’t until last year I decided to slow down because I realized how it was effecting my physical and mental health. I simply wanted to move on with my life and pursue other things. I wouldn’t say I quit because I still smoke every 3-4 months but after slowing down, I can now see the cons of using it daily.

@filipek made a strong point when he said:

“Cause I do not want to smoke only because of the fact that it makes me relaxed and chill etc. I have been there years ago, when I used to smoke a joint every time I came home from school. It becomes a habit, an addiction and it makes you dumb and dull. I do not want to get back to that point anymore, I feel that smoking too much weed is stopping me from making progress in my life. It not only literally makes you slow, but that transcends into my daily life as well. It is just my general guideline with these kind of substances nowadays. I have been on both extremes, either totally quit with everything for an certain time period or do all the things God forbid. Now I am trying to find the middle way. The thing is that I do not want to be controlled by anything, and when I am on a point when something becomes a habit and I do it everyday, I feel as if it controls me rather than that I have control over it. That is not how I want to live my life”

With that said, I just wanted to have a discussion about how slowing down or quitting affected your life and what have you’ve learned from this process.

June 26, 2013 at 9:38 am
zowie (115) (@zowie) 4 years, 3 months ago ago

I used to smoke a lot. and about 2 years ago I slowed down. Now I only smoke once or twice a week , and use for meditating practices. Marijuana also reminds me to live in the moment. It’s a good tool to use if used properly. Too much of anything is bad for you and that’s truth.

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Sydney (0) (@Sydney-Noel) 2 years, 11 months ago ago

I recently stopped smoking after daily and routine smoke sessions over the course of the past 7 years. I had to stop smoking for legal reasons and was open minded to getting a tolerance break so that when I hopped back on the wagon I could get super super super lit… Well a week into no smoking I felt fine no different from my normal stoner self just often bored from not being able to smoke. I also had told myself that I would exercise and eat better to help the thc get out of my system quicker- it was like a challenge for me just bc after 7 years w few breaks I figured I would have a lot of thc built up and stored in my fat (I’m not a heavy person tho) so the first week of not smoking I had to muster up this bullshit motivation to get rid of something I actually didn’t want to leave my system.. Well motivation has been something a lot of u say is inhibited with pot but I have found just the opposite, lately I don’t give two shits about what I have to do but I have to pretend I do and try to live life as functionally as I did while smoking! Not only this but during my second week of sobriety I have felt more detached from reality, more foggy, less myself more bullshit. Still although it would be nice to be able to smoke I wouldn’t say I have a craving or overwhelming desire to because I just know that for a while I have to put that part of my life on hold. I don’t understand how some of you can say it’s an emotional crutch- yes the pot does help you to think of things in a new light and help you draw conclusions that other wise wouldn’t cross ur mind while high… But after smoking pot avidly for 7 years and growing as an individual you start to study and learn things about ur self that make sober living a totally non emotional experience, I have learned negative emotions have a horrible roll on my life and over the course of my stonage have realized how to have the right mentality to where there is no crutch, u become a stronger individual with or with out pot. I think you have to know yourself more that many of you do to draw clear conclusions bc most of what I have read I feel just the opposite about. I’m a shittier and lazier individual sober and that’s part of why I let pot smoking become an everyday thing, bc for me, it was good. It effects all people differently as well and personally I think my body and pot are a great team and I can not wait to reunite

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Zerofifty5 (0) (@Zerofiftyfive) 2 years, 9 months ago ago

I love smoking I do not want to quit but I have been seeing some changes iv been smoking everyday since I was 18 I’m now 23 I use to workout and be very fit this did not stop when I was smoking everyday I thought as long as I can keep doing my daily activities than I’m good then it seems like so slow I don’t even realize I became a baked potato I stopped working out all I started doing was smoking dint bother me tho I have anger issues and as long as I’m calm well now I have a 3 month old daughter I still have the urg to keep smoking but looking back its not worth it something needs to be done not only that my wife quit a long time ago and stared smoking cigarettes well I think that’s only cuz I smoke all the time with no care about her I don’t smoke inside I go outside but she knows what I’m doing. So now I must quit I want to get swull agian I want to have a healthy lifestyle with my family the last thing I want is for my daughter to pick this up later down the road and I hope this answers some of your questions yes it makes u lazy dumb and boring I dint want to admit it and still don’t I love it and had a lot of fun but just its time to hang it up maybe years and years from now I can dust ol marrry j off but for now good bye I will miss you 

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Monique (0) (@Monique-Hayes) 2 years, 8 months ago ago

I to agree I just smoke 2 drags or one I know it won’t control me I only smoke when I want.

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Travis C. (0) (@Enclave254) 2 years, 7 months ago ago

I’ve slowed down to once every 2 months. I haven’t smoked as long as a lot of people in this thread have, but after a year of smoking I can tell I’ve become a burn out. Shit I went as far as thinking I was mentally retarded because of how dull I’ve become from smoking everyday since the day I tried it. I would get so fucking high I would forget my name lol. I don’t like to talk much when I’m high, I’m just in my head. I would slowly lose contact with my close friends to the point that now I’d say they view me as more of an acquaintance then a friend. I had no desire in being social, all I wanted to do was sit on my ass, smoke pot, and watch TV all day. In short my social life became an anti-social life. My attitude towards everything was that nothing mattered. I was going to get that job I talked about so much, yet I never pursued it. I would use my neighbor, whom I did odd jobs for, as an excuse once or twice because I wanted to just sit there and not do anything. I even told my neighbor I’d work for him everyday and yet I’d “forget” to show up some days. A year of my life was waisted because I couldn’t put that plant down. Part of me wonders why I enjoy it in the first place.

I am in college now and I’m looking for a job (we’ll see). I’m still working on my social life. I don’t think I’m going to smoke everyday anymore

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Chris96 (0) (@Chris1996) 2 years, 5 months ago ago

Hello everyone. After just a few moments of reading everyone’s past experiences on this thread, I was inspired to create an account to share my story as well. I too have quit smoking weed, more recently than others. I’ve been weed free for about 2 days. I’m 19, I have an apartment, have a great job for my age, and also a beautiful loving girlfriend of 2 years. I was introduced to weed at a young age and I fell in love. I’ve been smoking weed for just about 8 years now, everyday, about 3-4x a day, or shall I say any chance I had. All my friends are either dealers or extreme potheads so that’s basically what I’m around 24/7. I’ve done plenty of research, and have had plenty of intellectual convos with individuals who either agree marijuana has plenty of pro’s, or people who completely look down on marijuana. I’ve spoken to therapists, parents (including mine), spiritual role models, friends, teachers, co-workers, family members (including the ones who toke as well lol), and because of certain circumstances (which I am not proud of) even police officers. All which lead to the same answer, there really isint anything wrong with weed, the worst thing about marijuana is getting caught with it. After years of toking in my few years of being on this earth, I’ve came to the conclusion that I’ve developed a marijuana dependence. With everything I do, I need to be high to enjoy it. And only recently I’ve realized, that is not okay. I have aspirations of becoming a police officer and am actually in the process of studying for my CJBAT test and excersicing for my CJPAT. I cannot have a clouded mindset, and a dependence on a plant, if these are my short term goals. I love weed do not get me wrong, and I am completely aware of all the great benefits that come along with it, but for now and most likely indefinitely, I will stop smoking weed. I’m prepared for this journey to becoming 100% sober. I know there will be plenty of obstacles along the way, some mental and possibly some physical. Any tips or advice based off your personal experience would be greatly appreciated. 

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christinemeany (0) (@christinemeany) 7 months ago ago

well that is really interesting as for me

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illusiondillusion (0) (@illusional) 5 months, 3 weeks ago ago

There is some quite powerful words written here from some very strong, beautiful people. As I read through more of the comments, I realized what I thought must have been the case for a while “I am uniquely just like alot of people” Unique in the exact story alone, but many similarities and a shared like mindedness. I was a habitual user for about 15 years of my current 32 year journey and then stopped cold. I came to the point where it was time to move on, to grow in a way I couldn’t possibly do with marijuana and to say goodbye to an old “friend” in Ms. Mary J. Physically and mentally I was dependent and suffered withdrawals from both when we parted ways. It was hard and is still at times hard, not because I don’t have weed to smok, but because I feel I don’t have anyone that understands me anymore. I have never felt so alone, even with my beautiful, supportive wife and two amazingly gifted children, and not just that I worked hard to accumulate what I guess a majority of people would call wealth in both a financial self and physical self, I still felt empty and still do. I saw the obvious lack of a spiritual fulfillment, and started my search, outward and inward, never bieng able to grasp or attain the feeling? I felt the more I searched the more isolated I became, the more sadness crept over me. I stumbled across this site and read, and read, and read and I just wanted to say thank you to everyone that has contributed their beautiful perspectives, stories, thoughts and opinions. They have shone a light on my soul, I still will continue to walk toward my goals and dreams, but I feel like I have a place I can turn to when I need a little help. Thank you (Chi-Miigwetch) ((ojibway , big thank you)) continue to live with love.

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soapalot (0) (@soapalot) 5 months, 1 week ago ago

I used to live in a flat with a mate who was very generous with his weed. I never bought any because he always shared it. Looking back, I think he just wanted to share the high with someone. 

There was a solid year where I wasn’t working. I would wake up at dusk and get stoned, then I’d sit around all night doing nothing important and try to get to sleep when the sun started coming up. I felt worthless and miserable and the weed made sure that wasn’t going to change.

Eventually I moved out of that flat and back to my hometown to live with my parents. I stopped smoking for a while because there was nobody around to buy it for me. I got a job and started to move on in my life. But eventually I fell in with another friend who happened to be a stoner and the cycle started again. 

I would get stoned and try to hang out with friends but I would be so self-concious that I wouldn’t speak for fear of sounding stupid. My world would turn inward and I would start analysing my life. The problem was that all of my thoughts would be negative. I couldn’t stop the punishing self-critisicm which would send me spiralling into depression. 

Eventually I figured out that marijuana was doing me no favours; the ‘high’ was making me low. So I stopped. I quit cold turkey with no intention of ever going back. It’s a decision that I’m proud of making and one that has allowed me to change my life for the better. 

I’ve ‘relapsed’ a couple of times since, just to see if my attitude to it might have changed. But these occurances have only reinforced my decision to quit.

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flower21 (17) (@flower21) 3 months, 1 week ago ago

I want you to find in life the path that will lead you to God.

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cLarson (0) (@Chiranjeevi) 7 months ago ago

Ive realized that everytime im dry i have a hanquering want to smoke more cigarettes. But when i got weeds for example (LINK), its literally the exact opposite effect, basically. 
Has anyone else had this type of experience? Or even researched this topic? I have heard about people actually quitting by substituting it w/ bud. Interesting to me. 
I’ve been having trouble myself trying to quit smoking cigars. I tried searching for other alternatives like vaping but after a month i came back to ciggaretes. I was so desperate to quit and avoid nicotine but then i came across this article that says marijuana can help you quit smoking ciggaretes and turns out, CBD can help after all.CBD can remove positively associated smoking memories from the brain, making it easier for the user to quit altogether. Can someone give me more information or any tips? Thanks

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Alexander Ivan (5) (@BuddhaNguyen) 2 months, 2 weeks ago ago

I could relate to your experience when you said you used it as an objective stepping back and examining one’s life. I often used it for that very reason at some point and I often didn’t like smoking with other people because I found it made me anxious to be out with people could I would feel too over-analytical and notice their judgment of me or I would conjure up false assumptions on my own. 

Eventually, I began to experience too much negative anxiety and memory loss, fatigue and exhaustion. At some point, I felt sluggish for over a year and depressed and I couldn’t stop smoking. Even when I find myself doing it once and awhile, I barely enjoy it anymore. 

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