[Tricks] How to step out of the comfort zone?

Taras Poburynnyi (@potar) 6 years, 6 months ago

My brother and I are software engineers, but it didn’t help us a lot in real life =)

Once we have noticed and I’m sure you also experienced a few second periods in your lives when you can’t control your actions, thoughts and emotions. As if a mechanism is activated that blocks your mind and body, for example, during a public speech. My brother and I wanted to face and overcome this strange feeling of helplessness in a funny and gameful way. So, we started creating private challenges for each other in real life. After a while, we decided to create a special web site for it and help other people. 

Please let me know if you have any tips/tricks that help you to step out of the comfort zone?

February 10, 2016 at 9:31 am
Taras Poburynnyi (0) (@potar) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

My trick is http://www.freemind.today – completely free 2 player game

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Florence.3 (3) (@Florence.3) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

Wow! That’s a good idea!

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Taras Poburynnyi (0) (@potar) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

I’m very glad you like it. Thanks!

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Ellie (1,363)M (@tangledupinplaid21) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

Some things that help me step out of my comfort zone are forcing myself to say things out loud instead of just sitting there quietly in social situations, trying for things that seem “impossible” at the time just to see if it can happen, and making plans or commitments that I want even if I don’t feel prepared for them, so that I will have to get outside of my comfort zone to accomplish them.

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Taras Poburynnyi (0) (@potar) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

I find this method also useful =) I don’t remember where I’ve heard it but it sounds like “if you have any issues/challenges just start talking about them”

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Manimal (2,998) (@manimal) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

I kind of bully myself into doing it haha.

Inward mockery, ridicule, threats, bribes, whatever. Also, acting like I’m already there so people will dare me to prove myself.

I’m a laidback person by nature, but this method powerfully triggers my motivation 9 times out of ten. And most of the time, the results are positive. Now, the problem is just finding reasons for things.

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Anjelica (101) (@Anjelica) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

Admit that it’s more uncomfortable than being your true spark 

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Taras Poburynnyi (0) (@potar) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

I’m not a native English speaker, maybe that’s why It’s hard to grasp this phrase. I will try to rephrase it to make sure I understand you right:
> Admit that it’s more comfortable to be yourself
Please tell me if it makes any sense?

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Anjelica (101) (@Anjelica) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

Yes. No it’s not that you don’t understand English, I was speaking poetically. Native English speakers might raise their eyebrows too. I find it easier to get people to understand what things mean directly if I describe the feeling sensation of it. A lot of time people have a concept of something they know they want but they havent connected to it physically yet. 

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Taras Poburynnyi (0) (@potar) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

=) Good to know that my English is ok.

Also, your way of explaining things is interesting, I haven’t used it yet,  but, definitely, I should give it a try. Thanks.

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Florence.3 (3) (@Florence.3) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

Thanks for explaining the phraise. First, I didn’t get it too.

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Taras Poburynnyi (0) (@potar) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

Also, to trick a brain, we can ask ourselves: “if your life was a book, what story would you write?”

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Taras Poburynnyi (0) (@potar) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

I’ve being told that this phrase might be found in “A Million Miles in a Thousand Years” – book for anyone who is looking for some motivation.

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bnn (8) (@dalebenmenschen) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

To me, it is very hard to show my love to special people in my surrounding (like my family). In difficult situations, I ask myself how I will imagine the scene afterwards (how I will later wish it would have happened) and than I try to act like that. So even if it goes totally against what I’m feeling, I try to hug my parents for example, because I know there’s a barier I actually don’t want. I hope that it’s understandable..

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GreatG (3) (@GreatG) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

Nice!

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Taras Poburynnyi (0) (@potar) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

Accept uncomfortable state as a part of your being but not as yourself.

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Taras Poburynnyi (0) (@potar) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

I forgot to mention the most important one =) – don’t take yourself too seriously

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Florence.3 (3) (@Florence.3) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

That’s is rule #1! Not to take yourself very seriously. And all life as well.  

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Taras Poburynnyi (0) (@potar) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

I’ve taken a courage to quote tricks that have been said so far:

1) “My trick is http://www.freemind.today”

2) “say things out loud instead of just sitting there quietly”

3) “I kind of bully myself into doing it haha”

4) “be yourself”

5) “if your life was a book, what story would you write?”

6) “I ask myself how I will imagine the scene afterwards (how I will later wish it would have happened) and than I try to act like that.”

7) “don’t take yourself too seriously”

Please feel free to correct me or add more tricks.

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GreatG (3) (@GreatG) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

Nice sharing!

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GreatG (3) (@GreatG) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

Especially “don’t take yourself too seriously”! Absolutely agree!

And it’s smart not to take life too much serious at all

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Tashia (1) (@Tashia-Kennedy) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

I recently walked away from everything I have and known for the last 15years and went into drug treatment. I left my very best friend who remains in the apt I used to live in with him.I walked away from it all to save my life. I don’t know anyone here and I miss my friend. I want to adapt here so I can finally be free of addiction! 

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Taras Poburynnyi (0) (@potar) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

It’s hard to even imagine that and I don’t know what I would do if I were you because 15 years – it’s a lot of time. You’re a very strong person since not everyone can give up things that he’s been doing for a long time. I wish you best of luck and find your purpose in life. 

The one thing that came to my mind when I was reading your post is the book “Happiness in Hard Times”. It was very useful for me a couple of years ago and, probably, I should start reading it again =) because I’ve almost forgot all things that I learnt there.

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greenlantern (8) (@greenlantern) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

My “trick” is to understand that none of this matters in the grand scheme. The universe is 14 billion years old, our existence is only a few years if we’re lucky, and after we die everything we do, our kids do and our grandkids do will eventually fade away. We will be dead for the trillions and trillions of years after our 100-year life. Nothing we do can really change that so just accept it. Do not take yourself or what you do so seriously. I think about this before every client meeting and every speech when I am nervous. Because what am I nervous about? What these people think of me? If they fire me? What is really going to happen if I fail big time? None of it matters, I don’t care who is in the audience. 

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Taras Poburynnyi (0) (@potar) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

Wow! Thanks for sharing this trick.

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GreatG (3) (@GreatG) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

Also would like to learn how to be more active and, I’d say, flowing.

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Taras Poburynnyi (0) (@potar) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

Also some of the tricks can be found here https://www.quora.com/How-can-I-come-out-of-my-comfort-zone 

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Taras Poburynnyi (0) (@potar) 6 years, 5 months ago ago

How is it related to this discussion? =)

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Romi (0) (@Romi.S) 6 years, 6 months ago ago

The sentence “what would you do if you weren´t afraid” always forces me. From my own experience, most of the time when i´m hesitating, I´m just afraid of what´s going to happen. 

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Taras Poburynnyi (0) (@potar) 6 years, 5 months ago ago

Yes, you’re right, it’s my case also. The one thing I noticed is that after a while you don’t even ask yourself any questions. Instead, you just do what should be done.

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