Post a quote or statement you have come to see as truth, perhaps add a little anecdote to it as well.
“You can’t help someone who won’t help themselves” – In my experience being one of those folks who people come to for advice I have come to learn and see how detrimental stubbornness/ lack of discipline/ lack of self confidence can be on an individual. It traps people into cycles of self abuse and a state of “why me, what can I do” with no answers and blinders to all the obvious ones or fear of taking the leap. You can give all the advice in the world to people stuck in these ruts and hear over and again how they will change and help themselves but they won’t. Not until they truly hit rock bottom- and rock bottom is usually much farther than you or they expect. So to me this quote holds true to it’s self, because really even when you do help someone, they are allowing you to help. Thus allowing themselves to help.
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@aliwine, The life and death of several career “dreams.”
1. Peace Corps – Died after two people refused to provide references for me and the PC bureau unapologetically lost all my paperwork.
2. Firefighting/EMS – Died after failing EMS licensing exam three times (at $75 a pop, I couldnt keep affording it) and when the department I served for refused to help get me firefighting certified.
3. Teaching English as a foreign language overseas – Died after getting laid off from a teaching job that paid the equivalent of $300/month.
The only way to find the limits of the possible is to go beyond, into the impossible.
I don’t have a story that comes to mind for that quote, but it helps me because I have never thought “I can’t do that”. I have thought “I cant do that right NOW, and I don’t want to put in the energy learning how to do it”, but I have never stopped myself from learning anything. My favorite way to learn is to pick a project, and dive right in, and learn what I need to as I go.
Sometimes I don’t like that, I feel like I should get a good knowledge of the basics before I advance, as opposed to having a few thin paths through the basics to a more advanced problem xD
“After coming into contact with a religious man I always feel I must wash my hands”
I don’t have a little anecdote, but, man do I have something to say on this. Being an atheist, there will always be moments when you get called out for it. Some words and phrases, among others, that have been thrown my way: ‘ignorant’, ‘heathen’, ‘pitiful’, and my personal favourite, ‘narrow-minded’. The reason I say that is because I love irony. As a result, I love that these narrow-minded individuals find a way turn it around on me.
I am an atheist, yes, but that doesn’t mean I’m anti-theist, and that’s just one of those stereotypes that proliferate because of society. And it saddens me that there are people out there who live out and act upon these stereotypes.
I’ve become practically numb to these sayings because I know I’m not anti-theist; on the contrary, I have more awareness and tolerance to religion than most religious people. (More irony, yay!)
I want to clarify that I don’t think of all religious people this way; but when I meet someone who treats me like crap for being an atheist, or lets their religion blind them, I can’t help but want to, as Nietzsche puts it, wash my hands.
“Do not assume that he who seeks to comfort you now, lives untroubled among the simple and quiet words that sometimes do you good. His life may also have much sadness and difficulty, that remains far beyond yours. Were it otherwise, he would never have been able to find these words.” – Rainer Maria Rilke, I know this is true as I am the one whose words console others but I can’t help myself.
These are all products of my own imagination:
“We are believed to be that which we choose to reveal.”
“As a farmer tends to his crops, so too may you cultivate the harvests of your mind.”
“Embodied is the knowledge we are entitled to.”
“Dreaming keeps dreams as such.”
“The past is a mural of the present— I am the artist.”
“Anything at stake is a gift.”
“Unanimity is stagnant, tired, and largely unprofitable.”
“Poetry is that rare attempt to attach clarity to curiosity.”
“We are but a distinct mixture of what preceded us; our differences rest solely in our contributions.”
“What you call change I see as fulfillment.”
“Through tragedy our conscience is built.”
“Imperfection does not exist apart from the human mind.”
“The characteristic of life, the endless pursuit towards the unknown; I speak of curiosity.”
“The only time we ever truly live is when we recognize the moment we are in.”
“A dream ended prematurely, never to be experienced again—this is life.”
Qui sème le vent, récolte la tempête. French proverb it means “who sews the wind reaps the storm”.
Always helps me remember to think things through but also that when things go wrong it’s not necessarily because I fucked up, more that it’s just the way things go and that I knew it would be bad from the beginning when I “sewed the wind”.
A quick example: I broke up with my gf recently and it’s been a terrible 5 weeks since but I knew what I was getting myself into when I did it and this is just the storm that was always going to come no matter what I did.
Happiness is like a butterfly, the more you chase it, the further it flies away, but if you turn your back on it and wait it will come and perch on your shoulder.
I saw that on one of my little sisters facebook.
Being afraid of dying is like being afraid of going to the bathroom. No matter how hard you fight it, it’ll happen eventually.
Death smiles down on all of us, all we can do is smile back.
“Words only suggest an experience, but the voice is that experience.” – Jeff Buckley