I’ve written about this idea quite a number of times, and almost always 90% of the feedback is “no way, man, we need to lie once in a while”.
I’m going to truth speak to you right now, before you say that; you’re fooling yourself.
Our society and culture tells us that children don’t need to know the truth (yet) [Thanks bianca for the intro] and that we shouldn’t explain things fully to them. Death is a heavy subject, you tell them “They go to a better place”.
In the outright fabrication we are creating dissonance within the mind, and also reinforcing later on that it is okay to not always tell the truth.
Truthspeak isn’t JUST telling the truth, though. Truthspeak is sincerity, honesty, and simplicity. There is no tip-toeing around the subject, there is no delicately placed ‘fluff’ in your words, there is no compromising. You say it.
A serious example is when people ask you for your opinion on their art. If you don’t like it – DONT TELL THEM YOU LOVE IT.
A friend asked me the other month, “How do you like my song.” it wasn’t very good, it was very random, and it sounded annoying. I wasn’t ready to drop that kind of truthspeak on him, as that would not be acceptable at all. What I did truthspeak is this; it isn’t balanced, however the idea you have to go against basic rhythms is very interesting, I’m excited to hear more (because I was).
Truthspeaking in a relationship will save you years of regret, years of pain, years of awkward moments. When you enter a serious relationship do what you have to to always speak your truth. If you’re angry, tell them. If you’re upset, tell them. If you don’t trust them, tell them (although not giving trust can sometimes be your own fault!).
“How are you?”
“How are you?”
“I feel displaced at the moment.” or “I really feel great today. I want to get stuff done!” or “I’m worrying too much about things.
Much of our mental discomfort comes from WITHHOLDING ourselves. We don’t always want to express ourselves fully to others, even though it would feel so much better to let it out.
Let me tell you, my first sexually-interested relationships were disasters. I was so new. I thought being together was like being friends that had sex, but its not. Being in a relationship is removing barriers to a person, and it feels so beautiful. Its so liberating to let someone inside you (not physically you sick fuck!) and let them see. Let them hear you and be you.
But partner relationships don’t have to be special in this regard. All friendships can be like this, and ideally, everyone you meet should be open and opened to you. But that is a utopia. After my years with my g/f I’ve begun to let my guard down with friends. I’ve begun to open myself to people who I normally would have never gotten past small talk with. I just don’t care anymore, and in reality, it feels so much better when I just SAY stuff to people.
Ahhh. I’m done now. Train of thought derailed.
Don’t lie. Speak honestly and with respect. Let people know what and who you are, don’t hide it.
Why are you commenting in this thread with this passive aggressive attitude without any explanation other than something about an authoritarian idea?
Why don’t you help me understand, rather than muddying your own explanations?
How come I just asked someone a question and I got a demand to conform to someone’s faggotry?
@ijesuschrist, I think that’s a new thing to learn. I mean, when you have no argument at all, it’s got to lead you to something. So it seems you have no bright ideas at all about your own ideology. That’s not passive. But you are indeed.
Really? You scoured the web, find High Existence, post in many threads, and hang on to words and ideas, such as Faggotry?
Sorry I can’t take you seriously.
Good luck not getting banned for language like that.
@francis-york-morgan, To end with my attempts to truth speak to you, and to lower myself to your petty shit show of trying to make me feel bad over the fucking internet your posts are extremely shallow, offensive, and distancing.
You are making no attempt to see anything in another person but someone you dislike and must therefore disagree with. That is your choice and yours alone. IF you want to be a fucking dick, about shit, do it, but if you’re going to be a dick without any actual substance why the fuck are you doing it at all?
I doubt it makes you feel any better and I doubt it makes anyone else feel any better.
Get a grip, young one, you’re lost in your own head.