trying to find friends who share your values and goals

AfreeCyprus (@xenophoa) 8 years, 8 months ago

Is it possible not to find people who have qualities you want as a friend ever in your life? I feel in my quest to find new friends that have traits of honesty, respect, and a certain amount of bluntness , i cannot seem to find them. Could it be a matter of demographics. I understand the vibrations that resonate within me whcih may have lead me to be on this path of not being contempt with the choice of my friends now, They are NICE (literally think of Nice guys who dont want to offend others or take things so personally if they try too make a joke and its not funny, especially critiscm) BUT i feel its hard to find other people who are very similar to me but have different rough edges that complement mind.
Ever since i was a kid i always wanted a real best friend of a good group of best friends who i could truly share my values and create unforgettable times with, but it seemed all the best friends i ever had or where getting close with Literally Moved away. almost all of these occurrences were their family had to move away. I’m not scared to throw myself out there. Its just that i’m losing a little hope in finding friends whose values I share and truly good people who i think i would want to rub off on me positively

I think i came to a conclusion that maybe these events happened because im supposed to become the rock of my group or future group of friends and these experiences helped shaped me to who i am supposed to be.

If anyone has had any experiences like this, or felt something similar, or any advice on this matter. feel free to let me know what to think

Thank you and have a super fucking awesome day!

January 24, 2014 at 6:40 pm
Isaac (0) (@dzdkidd6) 8 years, 8 months ago ago

I have the same problem. Your friends are a result of you and in return you are a result of your friends. So it’s true to choose your friends wisely, too bad we can’t do this at an early age. But I know there will always be people who will fit that slot we have created, it’s always possible to find people who have the qualities you prefer.
Remember, if you consider yourself a HEthan, then you are part of a large group, unfortunately the population of “standard society” is much larger and in return we have more people with good intentions, but with inflated egos.
Don’t stop though!
Your friends are a result of your thoughts, so think positively, think as any HEthan would your friends are waiting for you, they just might not know it yet :)

Speak your mind,as long as it’s not to hurt others or yourself :)
what are those thoughts doing in there anyways!

Happy to help in any way :)

Anonymous (175) (@) 8 years, 8 months ago ago

Join clubs and groups in which people share your interests.

AfreeCyprus (1) (@xenophoa) 8 years, 6 months ago ago

thanks for the inputs
Well said issac., , and
i’m already in a couple of clubs at group and other extracurricular such as coaching

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