Unconditional Love – Made Simple
Love is an Action, not a feeling. Love is a behavior. Ever notice that you must behave a certain way to receive love from some people? That is conditional love, love based on how you behave. If you begin to understand that love is an act and behavior love becomes the feeling you get when you behave a certain way, rather than a love based on how others behave.
Hon your skill of love in this way and you will master unconditional love; A pure form of love that you own that will never effect you negatively.
Click this link and play the song – as the song plays spend a few moments thinking about what I just shared with you here. You are being asked to Contemplate Love, deeply. http://grooveshark.com/#!/s/How+Deep+Is+Your+Love/3DfWTT?src=5
Love can indeed become a feeling, but it must be true love to start; true love = unconditional love. The only True Love, is Unconditional Love. Let us get a clear understanding of unconditional love through an example of unconditional “Giving”. This will help simplify what is meant by, “Unconditional”.
So it’s a beautiful summer day, happily married and with a darling 2 year old daughter it is the big day. Today you will be taking her to Disneyland for her second birthday. Your loving wife and you have planned the trip for a year, you both picked out the cutest dress you could possibly find, and for only $100 it was a bargain compared to how much the trip cost.
So there you are, daughter dressed in her finest dress, wife bubbling over in excitement, and you, all prepared for the funnest day of your daughter’s young life yet. The first thing she sees after you enter Disneyland is the Ice creme center, and without hesitation she makes a b line for it. (Now comes the critical moment) So you have the ice creme there, its a warm sunny day, daughters in the new dress, wife ecstatic like a child, what do you do? Do you bend down on one knee and tell your precious daughter to just, “Get up in it”? Because that would be true, unconditional “giving” – or do you tell her, “OK honey, you can have this BUT………” and attach a condition.
It’s like if you gave to me a motorcycle and no longer than an hour later I sold it for $500, would you be butt hurt? Because if you are butt hurt than you did not give me the motorcycle in complete, in whole, without condition. Instead you gave me something that you still had a personal interest in, and giving like this will spell all types of disastrous trouble.
This helps us see that when something is truly given unconditionally, that it can never harm you. It is what makes unconditional love so powerful and impenetrable.
These stories also help us to see how money plays a vital role in the dysfunction of all that we’ve become. It is as if a reverse engineering of behavioral conditioning must be done. We’ve seem to have forgotten the truly important things in life, the things that cry out to our hearts, that push the threshold of our minds, and that makes deepest our souls. I’d like to get back to that place, would you? Be Brave.
Wow man, the way you explain it was so simple yet so profound. I used to have a really hard time with love because I thought it was one of those terms that people threw around without any meaning. In some cases it is. I would almost get angry when ever anyone mention love because I didn’t believe that it was a real thing. It’s taken me a long time to get over this way of think and learn the stuff that your talking about. One thing I’ve realized though is that my previous way of thinking, e.i. rejecting any notion of love, left me in sort of a blank slate stage where I didn’t any wrong ideas about love in the way of learning unconditional love.
I also gotta say that doing MDMA by myself really helped me understand unconditional love and how to express it in my life. Drugs don’t affect me like most people, I don’t know if it’s my size (I’m 6’7) or my level of consciousness but either way I find that I can handle them way better and my friends would get way higher than me when we take the same amount. So I knew I would be fine taking the MDMA by myself, and like I said it didn’t affect me that strongly even though my friend that I bought it from said it was really good stuff. I ended up sitting out by my pool drinking tea and thinking about love. One of the things that I thought about was how we are beings of love, I looked at the pool which was really dirty and thought of how at our core we are love but we learn some bad habits that make the love not as pure. The pool was a really good analogy because the water was like our essence of love and the dirt is the stuff that causes us to not be able to love fully. The love is still there it’s just not as effective.
I don’t know, I’m kind of rambling. It’s just that this process of learning to love fully and unconditional is so exciting and I want to share my journey of learning to love with someone whom clearly understands love.
That’s beautiful man, your excitement is awesome, wow, am sooo sooo very happy I was able to come tto this site and share and all, you guys are giving me more and more hope for our humanity, what’s more is I just had the most profound experience of my entire life this last night. We are at the most amazing point in time it is hard to begin to describe it without breaking down in tears of joy and damn near defying gravity to float off. So I have some good news, and I have good news, which would you like first? Hey, how about I just give you the good news? :P What I came across last night I will be able to share in the very near future. I first must go through my rounds here in the physical space of briefing my personal loved ones and all, but once I have completed that process I promise to make you guys part of the very first wave of people to get this information from me. Promise. Hoping no longer than one week away. God Speed. 13
Wait, I dont quiet get it… So you are saying that if you love someone unconditionally they cannot hurt you in any way? What if they cheat on you? Are mean? Use you and leave you?
I mean, you are gonna feel hurt and I understand it will be caused by their behavior, not yours, but how is that gonna help you? Or are you saying you will not get hurt? How would you personally behave in such situation then?
Thanks, I really like the post :)
Skil, how can someone Else’s behavior negatively effect you if your love is based on your behavior and no one else’s? It’s a simple concept, don’t make it more difficult than it is. If you give something like love and give it wholly, and completely, you surrender 110% of having any attachment to it how can it hurt you? It can’t. Did you read, or re-read the example I gave of getting the motorcycle as a present and then selling it? If you do not understand something try reading it a few more times, or read it again, sleep on it and come back and read it again the next day. See, if you give something to someone and totally give all of it to them, you no longer have an attachment or interest in it, and hence it can in no way effect you negatively. The day has come for this race to shift from looking for things outside themselves to seeking things within themselves. Reflect on your own actions, not the actions of others, reflect upon how you may have done something better than you didn’t do so well, we must constantly be looking inside ourselves for this is not only where the God knowledge is, but it is the primary method of spiritual evolution. If you want yourself to grow by leaps and bounds, seek within yourself. Another very important method is to have empathy, empathy is placing yourself genuinely in an other persons shoes to try and feel what they feel and deal with what they are going through. Empathy is very powerful when it comes to self and spiritual growth. Have an undying hunger for knowledge, but not just any knowledge, be hungry for knowledge based in truth.
There will come a time in our future when only the truth will be present, there will be nothing but truth. Now is the time to start preparing for that future. The challenge is of course, engaging in truth in world filled with lies. Dare to do it. Be Brave.
Your post got me thinking. Your definition of Unconditional Love is profound, and one I truly wish was the what you describe it to be. I couldn’t help but wonder.
We do not just love any random stranger unconditionally, neither just because they are our family. Doesn’t happen that way. It’s the ones we know, we admire, and the ones who are good to us and make us feel good about ourselves.
Aren’t these the conditions that make us love someone unconditionally in the first place?
My philosophy is that love cannot be earned, but a relationship can only exist with a give and take.
Sky, your 1st sentence was my exact intent. thank you.