What are you struggling with lately?

 Jordan Bates (@bashfulkoala)5 years, 4 months ago

Hey all,

Just curious what people are struggling with lately. I can’t be too specific, but I’m somewhat struggling with the fact that certain loved ones judge my life choices. Also struggle with the process of embracing falling in love again, while still being in love with my last partner.

Any random words about either of these situations would be appreciated, but I’m also just curious what you all are going through. Will offer whatever I can. It can be helpful to just vent though. What’s up with you?

Peace / Love,
jb

May 11, 2016 at 5:15 am
Silvio Aldebot (3) (@SaldVoi) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

I’m currently struggling with circumstance, in a general sense. I just can’t help but to see how naively “human” and unnecessary this type of modern-day circumstance is. I know what I want to do in life, who I wish to develop into, what I’d like to surround myself with, yet I can’t do any of those very basic things because of society. Because I need a specialized role in society (a job working for someone who doesn’t share my goals or interests and probably doesn’t care about me) to survive and “contribute” to this made-up box of a world we’ve created for ourselves. Luckily, I’ve begun a new chapter in my life, one where I’m fully embracing moving forward and putting me first. But it’s made even more frustrating because of circumstance. 

Also struggling with coming to terms with the fact that I probably won’t ever do those great things I dreamed of doing when I was younger. Thanks again, circumstance. But in all seriousness, I’m beginning to understand why things pan out the way they do, regardless of how painful it may be. You will be knocked on your ass when pursuing the wrong things, and it will hurt, but you need to have the willpower to get back up and push towards what will make you truly happy. Stay humble and pursue your passions. Again, it’s tough because of circumstance, but it provides hope.

To relate with you, I’m for some strange reason still missing my ex girlfriend of 3 years. Not a good person, we clashed a lot, and yet for some unknown reason, I miss her. It’s embarrassing to even post on the internet after how much of a train wreck our relationship was, but it’s the truth right now. It’s making it hard to move on still in some ways. Even if I talk to someone else, there she is. Back of my mind. But this is occasional.

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Colorfullyvegan (11) (@Colorfullyvegan) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

I’m struggling with this fucked up system at the moment.

<div>You heard this quote “nothing ever blooms all year round in nature” ? same in humane nature, struggle is us budding and later we bloom, but no buds- no blooming. </div><div>
</div><div>Only good vibes your way. </div>

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Willie Flagg (2) (@wflagg01) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

My struggle is financial. I feel that I will be struggling the rest of my life. I feel that opportunities have passed me by.I am in my 60’s and feel I will not leave a legacy.

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Brachs (Lloyd Miller) (4) (@brachs) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

I am struggling with getting old for real. I mean, we say that and we hear that our whole lives, suddenly I look up and it is really, obviously, certainly happening.  I have worn a young man’s clothes and i am painfully aware that they no longer fit. It’s an adjustment that is different, I think, than you really expect it to be.

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Ellie (1,363)M (@tangledupinplaid21) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

I am struggling with my own anxious tendencies, which are nothing new. I am also struggling with how superficial modern society is, and how much of it appears to be centered around highjacking our own dopamine systems by any means possible. I struggle lately with my perceptions of how scared everyone seems to trust themselves and how desensitized a lot of people seem. I walked through Walmart the other day and found myself wanting to stop and yell “this is not fucking normal! Does anyone else see how weird this is?!” 

After being away from this country for so long, the customary, fake “hi how are you?” hurts my ears and soul. 

At the same time, I struggle with feeling judgemental when I see people that seem lost or scared or selfish or superficial. It hurts to see people going through motions they dont want out of some manufactured obligation.

I am struggling with sleep and have developed a bit of a tylenol PM habit. And I am struggling with the person I love being over 5000 miles away when a lot of these struggles would be lessened with his mere presence.

Jordan, as usual I am reminded why I love this place as a result of a thread you started. 

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Jordan Bates (4,684)A (@bashfulkoala) 5 years, 2 months ago ago

<3 <3 <3

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Nicole (2) (@jhulyan19) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Trying to survive college on my own. Working and studying at the same time. Being frustrated and disappointed with myself knowing that I could always do better. 

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jujee (6) (@jujee) 5 years, 3 months ago ago

Don’t  give up and stay strong…education is never wasted.

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Max (1) (@MaxKin) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Well, I’ve been struggling with letting go, embracing the flow of life, and worrying too much about “success”. Money has been on my mind, more often than necessary. You see, I’m a teenager that still lives at home. All of my basic needs are met. Thing is, my parents have always pushed this idea of “success” on me. Neither of them consider themselves particularly successful. Father works at UPS, and my mother makes some money off of painting. Both of them struggled with money when they were younger, this mindset seems to have rubbed off on me unintentionally. Now, many of my thoughts have to do with making money, becoming wealthy, and, in turn, how much of a failure I am for not having made much money. Since money consumes many of my thoughts, I constantly worry about the future, about being a “successful person”, and sometimes I worry about people not loving me because of having no money. Thanks, really needed to get that off of my chest.

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utkarsh kaushik (2) (@utkarshkaushik) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

i am struggling about my further studies.at………..what to do……..which collage is good………..so much confusion

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jamie mcnae (0) (@x0jamiex0) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Well..im struggling with life in general at the moment my Partner left me I lost my job I have just over 4k debt from the bank and am sleeping on my dad’s floor on a mattress 

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jamie mcnae (0) (@x0jamiex0) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

She left me because I decided to go for a walk to relax and when I got back she just lashed out and me aND went nuts I ended up with a cut across my left cheek and my ear and neck from her clawing at me at one point I don’t understand my life at the moment this year has destroyed everything I had stable and now I’m stuck and have nobody to talk to and just sit there doing  nothing feeling crap and worrying etc 

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jujee (6) (@jujee) 5 years, 3 months ago ago

Sounds like you dodged a bullet there! Violence is NEVER ok in relationship. Jealousy is not good either. Yikes. Move on without her!

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Ben (231)M (@benjamin) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

For me it’s been burnout with my job.  I work in a very intense environment in the mental health field, and I can feel it taking a toll on me.  I’m dreaming about it a lot, waking up stressed, and just feeling emotionally burnt.  Luckily I’m in the home stretch – it’s a therapeutic school and summer vacation starts June 17th.

It’s hard to deal with a bunch of conflicting feelings – because I love the school to death and I love the work.  Unlike most schools, this place is really helping kids who are deeply troubled, and in my one year there I’ve seen awesome progress with the kids in my class.  It feels so good to be there, the culture they create is amazing.  I love all my fellow staff members and my relationships with my students have become such important parts of my life.

So on the one hand, I love being there and feel really proud to do the work I do.  But on the other hand it’s frying me.  I’m leaving once this year is over, and that makes me feel both incredibly relieved and sad at the same time.  I’ll be able to CHILL afterward, and from weekends and smaller vacations I know that working there has cultivated my appreciation for life and the little things SO MUCH.  But at the same time I’ll miss the place a ton.

I’ve got four weeks left now, so I’m going to put in everything I have and make the most of it.  Try to leave feeling good about what I did.  I’m sure it’ll go well, and I feel good about being so close to the end, but it’s going to be a challenging four weeks.

Wish me luck :D

Ben @ http://www.syntropulse.com

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jujee (6) (@jujee) 5 years, 3 months ago ago

Good luck and all the best!

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karma541 (0) (@karma541) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

hey im struggling with mi choices in religion i dont exactly know what i am

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Photon42 (2) (@pkwarta) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

The best response I can give you is that the answer to your questions cannot be fulfilled by just one religion. The path to discovering God is through the following; Christianity is the search for god, Islam is the surrendering to god and Buddhism is the elevation of oneself to a gold-like state. Only through the mastery of these can you discover the truth. It is a triad.

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carlore (0) (@carlore) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

im trying to become breatharin / live without food, http://breatharian.info/texts/InediaNonEatingFasting.pdf this is quite difficult to explain to family members, so sometimes its best just to lie i think

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Ashley Yeboah (0) (@Ashley-Yeboah) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

First off, let me say I’m new to this community. “50 Life Secrets and Tips” brought me here, or should I say StumbleUpon.com..

Second, I am struggling with the desire to make new friendships or build on old ones.. because I am afraid. Just afraid. I long for connections and I will want to do something and then convince myself of 5000 reasons why it would be a bad idea, when it really isnt.

I’m also struggling with letting people know when they truly hurt me. I just avoid. I stop talking to them, I want to repair but then I start telling myself why they wouldn’t care, or why I am better off without them.

I want to open up, but I am mostly afraid of rejection. I don’t know how to shut off these thoughts or work through them.. instead I hide behind them, find comfort in them… I need this to stop.

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mamavagina (0) (@paranjay) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

try and try

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Silvio Aldebot (3) (@SaldVoi) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

I resonate with you very much on this one. You just have to power through it, but be sure to keep yourself inspired and entertained during the dull, boring ride. Whenever this happens, I like to spice things up by taking an interesting humanities course (I love philosophy and writing), so maybe that could provide some sort of relief? It’d be a form of learning and developing your skills in a more creative and introspective way. Sometimes you walk away with a lot more wisdom from those kinds of classes, then again sometimes you won’t because of…well, the monotonous, inherently flawed, dull education system.

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Ashley (2) (@ashley) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Don’t make money for the girl 
Don’t worry about making money at all 

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Ymse (8) (@Ymse) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

End the argument.
What good does it do to have a long lasting argument?
Ask yourself; what is it that angers me? Why does it anger me? Should it really anger me?

The negative energy you feel at home is the effect of your, or her unwillingness to let go of the argument.
You retreat into your “introvert” personality and hide yourself behind that, telling yourself that you actually prefer the solitude. I did that a few times myself. And no, you cant “block out” the negative energy, that’s you fighting what is and refusing to deal with the problem, so you just want it gone. 
Culture clash is inevitable, I lived one year in the states (Im Norwegian) and ended up in quite the arguments with my host family. What I learned is that perspective is key, try too se it from their point of view.
In the end, if you cant agree, well then both of you let it go. Agree to disagree and accept that. Both of you have stubborn cultures and if this is a cultural thing, you both need to be able to accept each other respectfully.  

If you want this gone, you gotta deal with it straight on, no shortcuts here my friend.
You can still be more “introverted” and be by yourself without the need for an argument to separate you.
Simply let her know you want som time alone today, this weekend, or whatever. 

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Eva (0) (@Yinsister) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

I was just scrolling through high existence because I can’t sleep and stumbled upon your story, I have almost the exact same situation right now. I live in a house with a few other girls, also students, and one of them became my best friend as we got to know each other better. We did a lot of stuff together and we jokingly often said we were sort of soulmates, we were very close. All of a sudden after 4 or 5 months or so, I felt her starting to pull away.

When I confronted her about this, she told me she was finding it difficult to set boundaries with the two of us spending so much time together, and she also had some things she found difficult about me as a person. (Called me “intense” and she was feeling like I was happier in the beginning of our friendship). In my mind I felt she had the right to feel this way and I want to respect these boundaries, but I felt really hurt and haven’t been able to get past it or act natural when being around her.

I don’t know what your situation is exactly and was wondering about the argument you got into, it might explain the awkwardness (maybe one of you two feels hurt too). For me, I am noticing that I find it very hard to get past my feelings, I am trying really hard to just give her space and at the same time acting normal, but the feeling is now very cold and I don’t feel accepted for who I am, which makes me feel uncomfortable around her. I am kind of stuck, we both keep saying we really want to remain friends, but as it is now I don’t see it happening. Advice?

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unbiasedman (5) (@AndrewSmandrew) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

I had thought the exact opposite was true! I’ll definitely give it a go. :)

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utkarsh kaushik (2) (@utkarshkaushik) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

just get it if you want to…………………..get a small one though :)

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Timid Young Rabbit (1) (@Timidyoungrabbit) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Hey Joe. So I could never understand your situation to a degree to tell you what to do but I believe the move I would make in your place would be to start connecting with other parents. You are still an individual and that might be hard with a one year old on your hands, but when you are at the park or when you are in a group of people who also are parents they might be your best allies. I hope everything works out for you!

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edaas (4) (@hssiakd) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

You Will,..

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